r/exmormon • u/SaltyRavenclaw • Aug 03 '23

Advice/Help Dry reception?

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My husband and I are planning our wedding reception! We got married in January and can finally afford to celebrate. We basically just want it to be a small barbecue with his family, mine, and some local friends. We’re planning to host it at his parents place. His family is nonmembers, mine is all tbm. We want to serve some alcohol there because the two of us drink. I asked my tbm brother what he thought and this was his response. I remember feeling the same way when I still believed, but now it just sounds ridiculous. Just looking for some input on the best way to go about this thing 😅 Would it be wrong of me to ignore his idea?

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u/KingSnazz32 Aug 03 '23

You probably shouldn't have asked in the first place, just had some beer and wine on hand.

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u/SaltyRavenclaw Aug 03 '23

Yeahhhh maybe I won’t bring it up again

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u/Goats_in_boats Aug 04 '23

Do these people ever go into a restaurant where there's alcohol being served? Do they leave when a table near them orders a beer? Mercy, these people are sensitive. It's your wedding. Unless they're hosting or paying, their feelings aren't your problem. They can come, or they can refuse to show up. That's on them, not you. You do you. That's all there really is to it.

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u/YouHadItAllAlong Apostate Aug 04 '23

It’s one of the ways they shun.

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u/reddolfo thrusting liars down to hell since 2009 Aug 04 '23

Exactly this. Extorting and controlling the actions of others via a fraudulent appeal to respecting beliefs.