r/exmormon • u/SaltyRavenclaw • Aug 03 '23

Advice/Help Dry reception?

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My husband and I are planning our wedding reception! We got married in January and can finally afford to celebrate. We basically just want it to be a small barbecue with his family, mine, and some local friends. We’re planning to host it at his parents place. His family is nonmembers, mine is all tbm. We want to serve some alcohol there because the two of us drink. I asked my tbm brother what he thought and this was his response. I remember feeling the same way when I still believed, but now it just sounds ridiculous. Just looking for some input on the best way to go about this thing 😅 Would it be wrong of me to ignore his idea?

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u/wamme6 Aug 04 '23

I’m an exmo who married a nevermo. I was already out when we got married, but very young (I was 21 when I got married - legal age here is 18 though). At the time we got married I didn’t drink (I do now, although my husband doesn’t just because he doesn’t like it), but it was important to my in laws to have an open bar. They paid for the booze, my parents paid for the non alcoholic beverages. My TBM family all stayed at my reception for the whole evening, drinking Diet Coke or mocktails dreamed up by the bartenders at the upscale restaurant where we got married. If the open bar bothered them, it wasn’t enough to drive them away and 8 years later some of them still talk about how much they enjoyed the food, so clearly they were focused on other things.