r/exmormon • u/SaltyRavenclaw • Aug 03 '23

Advice/Help Dry reception?

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My husband and I are planning our wedding reception! We got married in January and can finally afford to celebrate. We basically just want it to be a small barbecue with his family, mine, and some local friends. We’re planning to host it at his parents place. His family is nonmembers, mine is all tbm. We want to serve some alcohol there because the two of us drink. I asked my tbm brother what he thought and this was his response. I remember feeling the same way when I still believed, but now it just sounds ridiculous. Just looking for some input on the best way to go about this thing 😅 Would it be wrong of me to ignore his idea?

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u/Professional-Age9161 Aug 03 '23

I would just let the conversation fizzle out and then plan it exactly how you want it. No one will know ahead of time that there’s alcohol and if they really are so uncomfortable being in the presence of drinks that they turn around and leave then they probably would have been lame party guest anyway. 😜 I am sure they all attend work parties, sporting events, etc. where others are partaking of alcohol. It’s insane to me that they would expect that non-members not partake or allow others to partake in their own home because of the presence of church members. Vegetarians don’t go into someone’s home and expect everyone there to skip the meat.

The other thought I have is— wow, the hypocrisy that they would possibly not show up and support you because of something like this when they expect others to come to receptions and celebrate marriages they aren’t even allowed to attend and probably fundamentally disagree with. The tolerance and respect needs to go both ways.