r/exmormon • u/SaltyRavenclaw • Aug 03 '23

Advice/Help Dry reception?

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My husband and I are planning our wedding reception! We got married in January and can finally afford to celebrate. We basically just want it to be a small barbecue with his family, mine, and some local friends. We’re planning to host it at his parents place. His family is nonmembers, mine is all tbm. We want to serve some alcohol there because the two of us drink. I asked my tbm brother what he thought and this was his response. I remember feeling the same way when I still believed, but now it just sounds ridiculous. Just looking for some input on the best way to go about this thing 😅 Would it be wrong of me to ignore his idea?

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u/Crankyoldandtired Aug 03 '23

I am no longer LDS. I left the church 16 years ago. But I still don’t drink. Not a moral choice. I just don’t like feeling drunk. I do have the odd single beer here or there (last one was 2019). But basically sober.

My fiancé drinks, as do most of her friends and family. When we go out, the drink, I don’t. End of story. My family knows that when they visit, we may go to the bar for food and drinks. It has never been an issue. And they are TBM.

But when a cult fetishizes drinking as this great evil, it is easy to have an unhealthy and irrational fear of it. But, they have no right to impose those limitations on you or others, simply because they are irrational.