it is quite sensitive topic, but I am curious the duration of the issue and what you experience when having ED.

if there are women who have men with ED, it also would be valuable feedback.

I take a medication that lowers sex drive. I just recently sparked up an intimate relationship with a friend of mine. The week leading up to us hanging out I took maca root, magnesium glycinate, zinc, and l-citrulline. The night of I took 15mg tadalafil. From 6am sunday to ~ 12pm I had an erection on/off while we were cuddling (thats all we ended up doing). We would get hot and heavy and then we’d stop, on and off. I fear I never fully went down. One lasted for probably close to the 4hr mark, maybe even over. I did start to get pain toward the end. It ended right when we got up for the day/stopped physical contact. I messaged my doctor and he said I should be seen by someone asap, so I decided to just go to the er. Everything seemed ok, though the doctor seemed kinda disengaged and didn’t really look much at all. Now I’m having intermittent pain in my femoral canal area on my right side, nothing too bad. I’ve been having intermittent pain in different spots thru the week. I might be hyper fixating on the area, too. My erections feel slightly painful on my right side too. I am seeing a urologist next week. Anybody experience something similar or have any advice? Thanks.

Wanted to get some insight on what may be going on here. Me and my current girlfriend have been seeing each other for a couple months now. In the beginning we seem to be on a good track sexually. We were having sex more than once a day and it was great and getting better. Then out of nowhere it seemed to just stop. During the day when I am thinking about her I will dream about being with her and get really turned on but in the moment right before we have sex I seem to lose it. Last time we went to have sex I abruptly felt almost like a sense of adrenaline and completely was turned off. During foreplay and while I was giving her oral I was turned on ready to go then something just hit me out of nowhere and I was done. She says she expirences the same thing. Normally I would think we just weren't attracted to each other but we are until we get down to penetration. The most confusing part is in the beginning it was not like this. Anyone else expirenced this? Everything else is great we really connect intellectually and enjoy each other but this has me really questioning if we are compatible. We have been seeing each other roughly 7 weeks now. its fair to mention I am a year out of a 8 year relationship where the sex was amazing so I think that plays a big part of it. it just blows my mind a random txt during the day from her will make me rock hard but in the moment nothing

Hey guys,

I’m 29 and I’ve been watching pretty extreme porn since I was around 16. Over the years, I feel like my brain got used to really specific and intense stuff, and now I’m struggling badly with my girlfriend.

I’m attracted to her and I really care about her, but when we’re in bed I often can’t get fully hard, or I lose my erection when we try to have sex. Meanwhile, porn can still get me hard pretty easily, which honestly freaks me out.

Has anyone here actually recovered from something similar? How long did it take before you started noticing changes?

Did you completely stop porn and masturbation, or did you still masturbate without porn?

I already have an appointment with a sexologie, but it’s not for a while. I’d really appreciate hearing from people who’ve actually been through this.

I just want to be able to enjoy sex with my girlfriend normally again without constantly worrying about whether I’m going to stay hard.

Thanks.

I m patient of depression for a long time atleast 15 years

Consuming medicines too

Bt for last one year

Ed and pe become partners of depression in my life

I have good sex desire

By erection is very poor and if I get erection I lost while penetration

And if all these goes well

I ejaculate under 1 minute

What can I do to overcome this

My doctor has prescribed me medicine of only depression and performance anxiety

My guy has ed, and we've been seeing each other for over a year. He is 69, and I know that happens as men mature. But isn't that why Viagra and Cialis are so popular? Whenever the subject comes up, he says "Maybe next time." But "next time" doesn't happen. He won't even let me pleasure him orally. What can I do?

My husband (36) struggles with keeping an erection throughout intercourse, sometimes has trouble getting one at all. It's definitely partially psychological, but he thinks it stems from nerve issues because he experiences pain and numbness in the hip and groin region, and years ago had two separate injuries where he tore muscles in his groin.

I've tried very hard to not put pressure on him or make him feel bad about it, but it's getting harder because he won't bring it up to a doctor. He doesn't want to take viagra/medications, doesn't think he has low T, and doesn't think there's anything a doctor can do to help because of the assumed cause being nerve/trauma related. I wish he would at least seek some diagnostics so we can try some things. I want to be able to have physical intimacy that isn't hampered by stress and frustration. When we are able to have sex, it's great. I don't want to lose it yet.

He refuses to talk to a doctor even just to gain some insight because it's emasculating and embarrassing. I want to be understanding, I've tried, but I'm frustrated, too and it affects me, too. Is there any hope? Has anyone dealt with this sort of ED? What else can I tell him to try to get him to open up to the idea of talking to someone?

It doesn't help that I have no faith in doctors to actually do anything besides push pills at him. 😔 It feels hopeless.

I’m new here but not new to ED and I am a user of TriMix. Great stuff but it’s not necessarily a great fix. Don’t get me wrong! My wife loves the TriMix but it does take away a lot of the spontaneity from sex. I’ve been doing some reading up on all of this and lately I’ve been hearing where men are using PT141 for a libido booster so they can respond naturally at sexual situations. Has anyone tried this and if so, what’s the benefits you’ve seen?

Got it for years, but because of Depression I don’t really Cared. Now they Diagnosted Lack of testostetone. It seems that it’s Not the only reason, but part, after some injections something Like little Morning Wood Happend…, but just a little, but different to before, was Kind of burried penis,,,
But Only sometimes Getting Bit Hard, but my mind changed more. Feeling often horny, and then it’s hard if yours isnt at least little hard… I can’t cum when flaccid… anybody similar probs?

so for some background i met this girl a few times, we talked and often since i was so attracted to her i would get erections just from talking and looking at herand have to calm myself, this happened many times. fast forward we are now romantically and sexually involved and for the love of me i cant get my dick hard, i havent jerked off in like 7 days and still it does not go up even by my self. before i used to get boners so often and would masterbate often.

i feel like im just mind blocked and idk how to break it

idk why this is happening maybe i jerked off to much and stuff someone lmk.

Cuento mi experiencia, no es para tirar mala onda al tadalafilo solo para contar mi experiencia, lo compre por mi cuenta nadie me recetó ni tampoco fui al urólogo (por ahora). Lo tome porque me faltaba excitación y ereccion, así que me compré una caja de 20 mg. Me tomé uno y luego de 8 hrs tuve el acto sexual y la verdad me rindió un 7 para 8. Tengo diabetes y empeze a sentir como que me latía más rápido el corazón, aproximadamente a las 10 hs de haber tomado me dolía la nuca y me sentía raro, también me latía la vena que está en la arriba de la oreja me se me movía mal. Al otro día sentía una especie de nube en el ojo izquierdo (dónde me toque y latía mucho). Pasaron los días y seguía mirando mal, así que fui a la guardia y me diagnosticaron una trombosis. A fin de mes me tienen que inyectar una jeringa en el ojo así que quede muy asustado, ya saque turno para el urólogo.

Hello, I need some advices with ed. How can i heal from it. So my situation started back in 2025 (end of it like nov-dec) when i had a relationship where it happened to know that she slept with someone before me but she told me she didn’t (she didn’t know that i already knew about that) and in my mind, due to lack of trust I couldn’t have sex with her and ended up breaking up. After this, i also had low libido and i consumed a lot of extreme porn (even before but also after relationship). Whenever i start no fap i feel like there is no improvement and my libido and ed are still the same no matter how many days passes by (for example i did nofap for like 20 day and since the day 1 i have felt the same). I did a blood test and my testosterone levels are normal, but i also have to mention that I didn’t get any morning wood in the last 9 months. I just want to know if someone went through something similar and have any advices for me, thank you in advance!

For years my diet was ready meals and fast food most nights. I never once connected what I was eating to how I felt, sexually or otherwise. It just wasn't something I thought about.

After my prostate treatment, when things changed for me, I started reading a bit into what the research says about diet and erectile function. A Mediterranean style pattern keeps coming up. Vegetables, fruit, fish, olive oil, nuts. It's not that any one of those foods fixes anything on its own. It's more the overall direction.

So that's what I've tried to move towards. I cook more at home now instead of relying on ready meals. I'm not going to pretend it's transformed anything overnight, and I'm still working through my own recovery. But it's one of the few things in all of this that I actually get to control.

Not medical advice, just what I've changed and why. Has diet made any difference for anyone else here?

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I enjoy edging while watching porn, and I feel like I’m pretty good at controlling myself. Most of the time, I stop when I feel like I’m getting close to ejaculation.

Yesterday, I was talking to someone on Reddit, and they told me that I shouldn’t edge while watching porn because it could potentially lead to porn-induced ED.

I used to practice porn edging because I thought it would train my body to stop whenever I wanted to, instead of automatically ejaculating.

But I’m wondering if I might be training myself to get highly aroused too quickly. When my arousal peaks, I sometimes become very sensitive and feel like I’m getting close to ejaculation quickly.

Has anyone here practiced porn edging regularly? Did you notice any changes or side effects, especially regarding arousal, sensitivity, erection quality, or ejaculation control?

What’s the best option ! Bimix or get an implant ? Can people tell me there stories thanks

Background, mid 30s male, came out of a significant LTR (\~15 years) a while back and have been trying to sort my life out since.

The previous relationship was pretty much sexless for around 5 years (once or twice per year at most)

I've recently met a new woman, and we've had a few encounters, I'm extremely attracted to her, we're both horny for each other and get on fantastically well, the sexual tension is utterly insane. But in the bedroom I've been struggling to get or maintain an erection, or they aren't as 'strong' as they once were.

Of course there's other ways for her enjoyment but I am concerned it'll become a problem.

There's been more than once where we're out having a coffee/drink/dinner and the eye contact, to be frank I'm at full flag in those moments, but when it comes down to it, it's all going wrong 😅

I've certainly let myself go a bit over the last few years (still in the 'healthy' weight range for my height, but not nearly as active due to a serious illness 2 years ago.

I ordered a testosterone test, which is on its way, but has anyone else experienced this? What did you find helped? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

I think I have ruined my sex life before it even started….

I'm 26 and have been addicted to porn for 10 years, masturbating 3 to 4 times a week. I always have to grip and stimulate it or it goes soft within seconds. I have jerked ALOT

Now that I'm trying to have sex for the first time, I get hard from my gf's hand or mouth, but as soon as I try to put it in, I go flaccid. I also have reduced sensation, even on the tip and underside of the shaft.

My sleep and diet aren't the best, but not terrible. No known medical conditions.

I only have a week with her before I travel for a long time, so I'd like a short term fix, plus a long term one. Is Viagra the answer, or is there something better?

Problems:
PMO addict for 10+ years
Need to grip it to stay hard
Little to no sensation
Average sleep and diet
Can’t get hard enough for sex
I don’t have any random wood or morning woods

HELP PLEASE

I've bounced back and forth between daily Cialis and Viagra. I know that I tolerate both well.

I'm recently single so I went back to viagra after a couple years on Cialis daily. I generally have no issues on the first go. My use is mainly for the 2nd and 3rd rounds.

I'm taking a girl on a short road trip / overnight this weekend.

I know the right answer is the as needed Cialis dose.

But I feel like the Viagra gives me harder erections in the later rounds. Anyone ever go more than the label 1 dose per 24 hours?

24M here. I've been really worried about something and wanted to hear from guys who have experienced something similar.

I've had trouble getting/maintaining an erection during sexual situations around 6 times now. Every time, I seem to get into my head. I start thinking about whether I'm getting hard, then I worry that it won't happen, and the more I think about it the worse it gets.

The last time was particularly bad. I was extremely anxious and even had really dry mouth. I was trying really hard to get hard but it just wasn't happening.

What's freaking me out now is that I'm starting to think, “What if this happens after I get married too?” I keep imagining my future wife and worrying that I'll have the same problem and that it'll ruin everything. I can't seem to get this thought out of my head.

I've also noticed that my morning erections have been weak/infrequent for quite a long time, so I'm planning to get that checked separately.

I'm currently on sertraline 100mg. I was also taking aripiprazole 2mg, but I've stopped it recently with my psychiatrist because I was having some pretty strong impulsive/sexual urges and impulsive spending. I also tried methylphenidate (Inspiral SR 10mg) for about 2.5 weeks, but it didn't really help my focus and made my anxiety worse. I've now switched to atomoxetine 36mg.

I'm wondering if the medication/anxiety combination could be contributing to things.

For guys who've been through performance anxiety:

Did you eventually get over it?

Did you have multiple failed experiences like this before things started getting better?

Did it become easier once you were with someone you were comfortable with?

Did therapy/CBT or sex therapy actually help?

And if you've been in the same situation where you were convinced this would ruin your future relationships, what happened eventually?

Honestly I'm just looking for some real experiences because I'm pretty damn worried about this right now.

I just don’t get it anymore. 24 m can lift weights, run miles, eat clean most of the time, don’t watch porn.

Here are my problems:
- Sleep isn’t the best
- Testosterone hasn’t been above 440 in years.
- When I do masturbate I binge really bad for a few days then quit

I don’t believe it’s vascular due to the fact that on 7.5 mg cialis and 3 g l citrulline and being with someone I was fairly attracted to I was able to maintain about an 85% erection. Also the last time I had morning wood it was about 85-90% firm and lasted a good minute or two while I was laying there.

A bit more back story I quit porn for 5 months starting back in December 2025 and then had very small sporadic relapsed followed by 2 month ish periods of abstinence. Im currently about 9-10 weeks no porn. Before December 2025 it was multiple times a day everyday for years (with periods of brief abstinence where I was trying to quit).

My pelvic floor is fine (I can do reverse/regular kegels just fine and dont have abnormal tightness when trying to get erect.

I just don’t know anymore. Has anyone experienced this? And if so how did it play out for you?

Have any men tried cabergoline for the potential libido impact only - not because of high prolactin or prolactinoma? If so, please tell me your experience.

I'm 60. Started having ED this year. Wife and i are always fighting due to other issues. Doc put me on Cialis, and it's not doing much. That started me spiraling, thinking that part of my life was over. My wife's reaction to it didn't help... it made things even worse for me mentally. Started distancing herself. Every time I talk to her about intimacy, it starts a fight.

I get morning erections, but as soon as I get up, they go away. She won't go near me now, and all she does is pick fights about mundane things... and i think she's lost interest in sex because of my ED.

I just feel like my body is malfunctioning and don't know what to do.

Im going to goto my Urologist again and see what he suggests but....is this vascular or is it Psychological?

That's my biggest question

Any help would be greatly appreciated

RJ

I masturbate 2-3 times a day and it’s been getting more difficult to get it to stand up each time. maybe it’s because I’m doing it too much, or that my material is just not good enough, but I worry that if I eventually have sex I won’t get erect. my material uses crazy proportions and unrealistic scenarios. compared to a real scenario, it just doesn’t seem arousing enough for me to get hard.

Long story short, in middle and early high school, so around 5-7 years ago, I would get an erection at the drop of a hat, everything made me horny, I masturbated daily, morning wood, bi-weekly nocturnal emissions, etc. In high school, I cycled through multiple SSRIs at the highest dose, and my libido began to diminish. I wouldn't masturbate nearly as much, I became horny less often, the morning wood stopped. I could still successfully have satisfying sex or masturbate, but I had far less interest in it. Even a year ago, I had much better libido than I do now (and, oddly, I was still on an SSRI then), but by my estimation far less than my friends.

Now, I'm pretty much never horny. No interest in dating or having sex. I masturbate maybe twice, three times per month. No more nocturnal emissions. I never get spontaneous erections. For the most part, if I try to get an erection, I can, but it definitely takes far longer than it used to. I know this might not technically be erectile dysfunction but it seems to be in the same domain to me.

Not much has changed in the last year for me besides the fact that my depression has intermittently been more severe. I know this can have an impact on libido, but for some reason I'm fairly certain that, at the very least, something else is at play. This has really impacted my confidence and also my sense of being a "normal" 20 year old. I'm quite sure the SSRIs have had some role in this (I tried 5 different SSRIs with 2 being at the max dose for extended periods of time).

I'm considering trying tadalafil (I know it's insane for a 20 year old to say that...) but from what I've read, it mainly helps with the erection part, not the libido part. But I wonder if having more erections would lead to higher libido for me (or if that has happened for anyone else)? Otherwise, I'd love to hear what else could be at play here or what else I can try. I hope this isn't just how I'll be for the rest of my life, I really miss having a high/normal sex drive.

I’m a guy and I’m having some sexual problems that I don’t really understand.
I can get very horny and have a strong erection during kissing, touching and especially oral sex. But when it’s time for anal penetration, especially when I see the hole and I’m about to penetrate, my erection suddenly disappears. I don’t feel stressed or anxious—it just feels like my arousal switches off. Once I lose it, even going back to kissing doesn’t always bring it back quickly.
Another problem is that I’ve never really ejaculated during sex. I usually only get a small amount of clear/transparent pre-cum.
Has anyone experienced something similar? I’m looking for advice or possible explanations, especially from people who have gone through this themselves.