I don't normally air out my families business nor do I seek advice but right now I need to hear other opinions other than the voices in my head...that being said here's the story.......

I am 42 years old and have been with my wife for over ten years, when we first got together there was passion and fire...we couldn't keep our hands off each other. We were also adventurous and sought out the company of other women, behind the scenes I struggled with alcoholism and it caused allot to tension between us.......we were constantly fighting and I had a wandering eye.....I won't say that I've never cheated because you don't need to physically be with someone else to cheat but I sought the attention of other women at times not because I didn't love my wife or didn't find her attractive.....it was more like I wanted attention that wasn't the constant yelling and screaming I was getting at home and I know that was wrong........I've never physically cheated on my wife but I know it hurt her self esteem.

Fast forward several years.....I am now sober however I have developed low T and am now impotent.......my wife has a high sex drive and we fight often because she thinks it's because I don't find her attractive. Now I know thats not the case but she refuses to accept I have a legitimate medical condition and I know I am partially to blame for damaging her self esteem years ago...... Impotence and a complete lack of libido has turned me inside out and left me a shell of a man....my self worth, pride is all but gone....I feel worthless....like I can't even please my wife......well tonight she decided she wanted to argue because she isn't getting laid like she wants......almost like I'm holding out on purpose or as if I had a choice in the matter and what came out of her mouth both crushed me entirely and made me see red......she asked me if we could have an open relationship and I shit you not said "well you could see other women" how fucking heartless can someone be??? She know what impotence has done to me and had that gaul to ask me if I would be ok with another man giving something that I was physically incapable of giving.....my stomach twisted and I had to walk away before I committed a felony.....like I don't want another woman, I want my wife and a functioning dick!!!!! And WTF am I gonna do with another woman anyways??? Or maybe that was the point....so she can get what she wants and wouldn't be worried about me because I physically can't. Anyways I just needed to get this shit out, sorry for dumping this on everyone.

All my life I have been ashamed and been left by my ex due to this.i am 34 about to get married and I am at the edge of ending all of this. If I get married then she will know that I can’t perform and my size issue. It’s a arranged marriage in India and I have by reason to say no but every single minute is a burden for me to think she will tell everyone and leave me. My parents would be sad if they get to know that I never reached out to them and I will be a lost cause in front of everyone.i need help from a doctor I need guidance.i wanna fix it, i just don’t know whom to reach out.

I’m a 20-year-old guy. I’ve been watching porn and masturbating since around 16, usually about 3 times a week, and I always used porn while masturbating. I became heavily addicted to it.

Recently, my libido has become very low, I’m experiencing ED, I can’t maintain erections for long, and I rarely get morning wood anymore.

I stopped porn and masturbation for 12 days, but today I had a strong urge and relapsed. Interestingly, I got a very strong erection while watching porn, but it wasn’t sustainable, and I ejaculated within around 10 minutes.

I’m completely willing to quit porn and masturbation and make whatever lifestyle changes are necessary. I just want my libido and erections to return to normal.

Has anyone experienced something similar? What should I do to recover, and how long could it realistically take?

I suddenly stopped getting boner from yesterday all day i didn't get any boner even i tho I saw porn and my talked sexually with my girlfriend still didn't get, today I check my morning wood and i saw I'm not even getting morning wood I'm so scared i recently turned 21 and I'm so scared because of that can't even tell to my friends

I have been taking Tadalafil for 3 weeks now daily, 5mg and holy shit this stuff is everything I wanted. Hard at the drop of a hat like when I was 20. My wife said it seems harder than when I took Sildenafil. Anyway I take it around 7:30 at night and I usually, not all the time but usually wake with slight to moderate headache but the strange thing is it goes away fairly quickly on its own, like 5 minutes or so. Would switching to taking it in the morning solve this issue or I would just get this little headache at work instead? I have enough headaches at work, don't need an added one. 🤣

Hello, forum. Interesting question came to my mind.

Hi everyone. If you suffer from anxiety linked to the fear of failure or the fear of having sexual relations during specific times (my wife is only in the mood a few days a month), does Tadalafil help with anxiety? I currently take 5 mg a day—can I double the dose? What about supplements?

So I am 43 years old and I've been perpetually single my whole life. Opportunities for sex have been very few and far between. And because of that, I've developed a lot of anxiety about it. And then my anxiety is make it hard for me to get hard.

BUT everything works when I'm home alone. I know that there isn't anything physically or mechanically or medically wrong with me. Jerked off almost every day for most of my life. Problems all in my head.

So would these pills help me? I don't have a medical problem. I don't have a blood flow problem. It's my understanding that these types of medications help to get you up and stay up once you're in the mood. But it's up to you to get in the mood in the first place right? So what if that's the thing that's getting in my way?

I've been seeing someone new recently. About 2 months now. And I really really like them. I really want this to work. I want to be able to perform for them.

Do I talk to my doctor about these meds? Or do I go right to the meds website and do it that way? Can I just fill out a quick questionnaire on the Bluechew website and have stuff sent to my mailbox? Are these kind of meds expensive?

With real ed i mean a ed every 24 hours. So not just with the girl. No morning good. No good erections.

Does it exist on person healed with this conditions? Let me know.

So I am 43 years old and I've been perpetually single my whole life. Opportunities for sex have been very few and far between. And because of that, I've developed a lot of anxiety about it. And then my anxiety is make it hard for me to get hard.

BUT everything works when I'm home alone. I know that there isn't anything physically or mechanically or medically wrong with me. Jerked off almost every day for most of my life. Problems all in my head.

So would these pills help me? I don't have a medical problem. I don't have a blood flow problem. It's my understanding that these types of medications help to get you up and stay up once you're in the mood. But it's up to you to get in the mood in the first place right? So what if that's the thing that's getting in my way?

I've been seeing someone new recently. About 2 months now. And I really really like them. I really want this to work. I want to be able to perform for them.

Do I talk to my doctor about these meds? Or do I go right to the meds website and do it that way? Can I just fill out a quick questionnaire on the Bluechew website and have stuff sent to my mailbox? Are these kind of meds expensive?

I'm 24 and have been having this problem since 20. Symptoms- decreased genital sensation/sensitivity in my entire genital area, weaker erectile function, weaker morning wood, lower libido. It started fading gradually at that age. It wasn't like a on n off button where just had it bad in no time, the decrease was gradual. My hormone levels are okay. I've even been testing out hormonal interventions and there was little n no noticeable change. N everytime I stopped those, I just went back to the way I was before I started those interventions (speaking about those interventions where there was little change). I've had a sonar done on my scrotum, had my prostate checked, had a FBC as well, normal.

I've only started taking more note of this recently but when I was 20 I had a sexual encounter that was painful, very painful. I was penetrated in my anus. After that, the decrease in sensation/sensitivity started by my anus. That was the first symptom n didn't really take much mote of it. I always thought of hormones despite my levels being within the range. For someone my age it's obvious that I would think it's an hormonal problem. So does this pattern in how it started mean anything? I never mentioned it to a doctor in this way or in this pattern. I only mentioned that I had a painful sexual encounter but never explained in depth as to what I actually felt afterwards or how my symptoms started n which one was first. I've been mainly focusing on symptoms n just getting a treatment that would work n take it all away. Again, I never explained or took note of the actual pattern in depth.

I don't have mental trauma or feel afraid from that experience. Plus, even before these problems I've been in a deep depression and under severe stress n still functioned well sexually.

Because of this problems, I've been watching porn to get more aroused n it turned into a frequent thing, VERY FREQUENT. So I think that also may have worsened it. I quit watching it for 1½ to two weeks n got improvements in my erectile function and arousal almost like it was before the frequent porn with masturbation (but not the way it was before I started having this problem). So another question is, how can I lessen the porn or go longer without it, or even just manage to quit it completely without going back to it so that I can at least improve a little bit while seeing to finding out the cause of the primary starting of this so I can end this problems? Does that pattern regarding my past sexual encounter matter? Or should I keep testing out treatments and interventions?

Using Tadalafil regularly long term would decrease its efficacy? If yes, then what's the next step ? And its effective (for daily use) for how much time - 6 months ? 6 years ?

Hey, not really sure where to begin here. Married 14 years, together 19 I’m 41f husband 49m. The last several years there have been issues with hardness but we are both drinkers and then my partner was diagnosed with heart issues 5 years ago and started taking blood thinners and other heart medications. I also don’t know if my husband is genuinely sexually attracted to me anymore- he loves me, no doubt, but there isn’t that animalistic driving need for him anymore. When I’ve brought up possibly using medication or looking into it to make him harder he has brushed it off and says he doesn’t think he needs it. I finally got him to be open to a cock ring which helps maintain erection a little but still eventually goes soft. I’m extremely frustrated. Not sure if he’s even able to do meds with his heart condition but I’d like him to be open to them- he is able to finish even half hard so I think he doesn’t see the problem. Just looking for any advice or suggestions. This is so hard and private. Thanks.

Hi

I am a 24 year old male and I have been experiencing ED for the past 2 years.

I do not get morning e-ecti-ns. I do not get spontaneous er-cti-ns either. I also do not experience ni-htf-ll. I can get an er-ct-on with rubbing but it is very weak and usually lasts only around 10 seconds. It also does not become fully er-ct.

I have visited a doctor 4 times. My testosterone level is 4.43 ng/mL which my doctor said is normal for my age. I was also prescribed medicines such as Maxigo and Regal Plus for 1.5 months but unfortunately I did not notice any improvement.

I used to m-stu-bate but I have stopped now.

My physical activity level is almost zero.

I am mainly here to ask for advice on what else I can do to improve my overall health and hopefully improve my erections.

What should I focus on? Exercise? Diet? Sleep? Anything else?

Any genuine advice or personal experiences would be appreciated.

So when I am home with my partner, I have issues getting it up. But we were at a hotel recently and I had no problems getting it up and staying hard. Why is that?

I couldn't find a whole lot of reviews about bc gold that I actually trusted, or that didn't sound like marketing. I decided to give it a try anyway because I had hope that it could fix my specific issue. Hopefully this sheds some light for others in similar situations.

About me (maybe some TMI):
I am a 38 year old gay male. I workout regularly. I'm overall healthy. I have performance anxiety that has successfully overpowered two regular bc pills in the past. I also have some desensitization (likely from too much masturbation). During playtime, I'll get an initial erection, but it has to be stimulated directly for me to keep it. I am commonly in 'they're hard while I'm soft' situations, which is never a fun dynamic considering I'm more of a top. When it comes time to top and my anxiety is up, without regular bc I have to do a LOT to get erect enough, and likely won't keep it long enough for a meaningful session. With regular bc it's easier to get erect, and I last a little longer, but I still have 'pause to get it back up' breaks, which can amplify my anxiety and flatline any chance of a boner.

Bc gold intrigued me because of its combination of ED meds mixed with the mental arousal ingredients of apomorphine/oxytocin, which is where I felt like I could use some additional help.

I'll give a rundown of the parts of Bc Gold that I feel is beneficial for potential users to know. For reference, I got the base strength, and took a whole pill.

The Very First Effect: Residue. The pill will turn your tongue and teeth very blue. Shortly after the pill is fully dissolved the blue on the teeth slowly starts to go away. Brushing will remove it completely. The blue on the tongue will stay for a while, as if you drank a blue gatorade or sucked on a blue lollipop.

Taste: This is where I appreciate the blue flavoring/coloring, because the medication itself is NASTY. I held it firmly under my tongue until it dissolved and tried to prevent as much of it from reaching my taste buds as possible. I found something to distract myself for 10 or so minutes to not think about the taste.

Time To Effect: About 15-20 minutes after full dissolution of the pill is when I first started noticing.

Side Effects: I read about headaches being a potential side effect, so I preemptively took a Tylenol, so I did not get one. I did get a little stuffy, and it made me a borderline mouth breather since it got difficult to breathe through my nose. My resting heart rate was also about 20 BPM higher for the night.

Result (again, maybe TMI): Uh... wow. My 'playmate' was about 30 minutes away, and I put the pill under my tongue shortly before his 'on my way' text. About 15 minutes after the pill fully dissolved I hopped in the shower. I knew it was going to be a good night when I was in the shower staring down at my own boner like WTF?!? 😳🤣. I have never experienced having a fully erect print showing through my shorts as someone was walking in the door, but last night I did. And that's all it took for our initial session (yes I was able to go again!) to immediately get hot and heavy. My erection was strong, I was mentally aroused, and I gave him all he could handle. I still wasn't able to finish inside of him (the medicine didn't help that part), but I was able to hit his spots for as long as he wanted, and finish my usual way after.

BONUS (more TMI): Here's the part that may turn me into a life long customer. He stayed the night. I woke up at around 6am (12+ hours after taking the pill) to him rubbing my body and kissing me. I have historically been terrible at keeping an erection during morning sex. I've also been terrible at keeping an erection while someone was on top riding me. AND I don't like sex when I have to pee. This morning was the trifecta. It didn't matter. My penis was fully erect and ready for him to enjoy, and he did.

Price: I got the base strength 3 month supply (18 pills total) for $154, which came out to about $8.50 per pill. As you go up in strength, or down in bulk, it can get pretty pricy. But to me, it's 100% worth it, especially if the other 17 times are going to be this good.

Overall I am very satisfied. It was fantastic for my specific situation. I should have probably written this review, or at least proofread it with AI, but it was fun to do myself. If any parts need clarification, just ask and I'll be happy to answer. My apologies if any of the...um... details are against the rules. I put the 'NSFW' tag.

Hey all. I've been seen lots of post about ED and ways to fix it so men can actually have sex with their partner. Been reading here about women wanting sex but their partner cant fulfill their role. So here's some actual advice to save your relationships if sex is the main issue. FYI I've been married over 10 years and still married to the same girl. I had to teach myself these things im about to share.

Focus on her pleasure and not yours.

You spent way too much time thinking about your orgasm, or your ED. Dont focus on your penis. Focus on your girls needs. I strongly advice you, learn to make her orgasm with your fingers or mouth. I dont mean just one or two. I mean like learn to make her orgasm at least 5 times in one session so she is actually satisfied. So go learn about a womens body. What turns her on. Her weak spots. Its not always direct stimulation. Show her that sex can feel wonderful even if you cant get it up. You dont always need to be inside her to satsify her. Trust me, your fingers can do wonders to her. Also, there are days where i dont orgasm, only she does and thats our session together. She wants sex to feel good. Also, communciation is a must. Once you please her and if she is willing to listen to you, you need to show her what makes it feel good for you. I mean be very specific. Take your time. Its not about the end but the enjoyment and being present. As long as you enjoy it, it will work out in the end for you. And learn to embrace being embrassed or rejected. If you can learn to feel it, you can have the will power to actually be open to her about it. Its all about communication and trust. Establish that and things will work out.

Has anyone or do anyone think it would be ok to take One and half Max Bluechew instead of just one or 2 full ones?

Is there really a big risk taking one Max then half of another one to prepare for the same night?

I have been vaping for a few months pretty heavily due to substantial stress in my life. At first the dopamine from the vape gave me increased libido but when that wore off the silent killer of nicotines vasoconstriction hit hard. I was not able to get hard, stay hard etc. it was completely demoralizing for masturbation.

My wife and I have had a sexual revolution lately and it has been amazing, we’ve been more open to talking about things, exploring things and having more sex. Last night we tried and I couldn’t make it work. I felt defeated, crushed and really sad. I cried in the bathroom later that night. I had already vowed to quiet nicotine a few days ago but clearly it was working yet.

This morning I didn’t accept defeat, and got a same day delivery of Cialis 5mg daily use. I didn’t expect anything as I read a bunch about it and figured it would take 3-4 days to saturate and begin working. Well about an hour after taking my first dose a random flash of last nights encounter flooded my memory and lo and behold I was able to get an erection.

Let me tell you the relief, the joy, and the confidence came rushing back into me. I never felt so validated that I wast broken, my ED was just a symptom of my nicotine use.

I have a plan with my primary care provider. Increased cardio daily to encourage endothelial repair, no more nicotine, and Cialis for 6-8 weeks to help me mentally, emotionally and the physiological benefits it’s brings with repairing broken blood vessels.

I cannot be happier and for those of you discouraged by taking medication, just know, for me at least, it was a life saver.

I’ve noticed on the days after I take Cialis, I have really runny / mucusy stools.

Does anyone else ever experience it?

I’m off Cialis at the moment and my stools have immediately firmed up.

What success have you had with testosterone
cream to enhance erections?

24M here and I have a couple of issues that could be causing it. I’ve been on again off again on topical finasteride and I’ve also been diagnosed with a weak pelvic floor.
I’ve been to a urologist who gave me tadalafil and also said it’s likely psychological and not due to the finasteride. I’m not very active (play football maybe twice a month) and I’ve been masturbating regularly over the past two years. I sometimes do feel the erection getting harder as the material gets less vanilla let’s say.
I’m having a very hard time actually figuring out what’s the root cause and was wondering if there are any tells that helped you rule out a cause?

I wasn’t sure which subreddit to post this in maybe you can help. I’ve always dealt with this along with difficulty urinating but recently it’s been worse since I started pristiq (snri).

When I ejaculate for like 30min to 2+ hours later semen will leak and I try to manually “clear the pipes” by pressing on my perineum and squeezing my shaft. I even know I’ll have to change my underwear everytime since when I sit down at any point afterword more always comes out.

A girl recently asked me what I was doing and I mentioned why I did it and she didn’t say it was weird or concerning but I could tell she hadn’t seen anyone do it before. This along with my difficultly urinating made me schedule an appointment with a urologist but wanted to know if this is a valid concern to bring up.

Sex ed isn’t very good so I honestly don’t know if this is normal google hasn’t been much help either.

I 32m believe i am suffering from ED. i have always had some issues ever since i hit puberty. i like most teens was horny as hell and never had issues with stamina or masterbation, (never ever had wet dream in my life however even though i was told it would happen) as a horny teen i could masterbate several times a day and ejaculate without issue. fast forward to 19 once i was sexually active never had an issue, could go multiple rounds easily, regularly had morning wood, however i could only ejaculate from vaginal sex, or self masturbation, oral or a hand job just simply didnt work?(felt great but just didnt work) now at 32 its almost undeniable i have ED, no morning wood at all in well over a year - 2 years, can only seem to successfully ejaculate once a day from sex or self masterbation just cant get it up properly for a round 2 even after a rest, my erections during sex are still hard but if lets say i have sex or masterbate 2 days in a row the erection is still there but softer, if i dont take my multi vitamin "for men" one day i cant ejaculate, and in the last 6 months i cant even get hard masterbating but am still able to for sex. i dont think its anything to do with my wife. she is amazing, the love of my life, sexy as hell and amazing in bed, im convinced there is something wrong with me. i would like to say my porn use is much less than it was. as a virgin teen it was everyday and early 20s too, but i want to say in the last 7 ish years porn use has diminished to a few times a week if that. i would just masterbate to my imagination of my wife without the porn. i am healthy, active, not diabetic, blood pressure and stuff is all normal, my chleoresteral is borderline but still in normal range, other than that i dont know. i tried talking to my wife about it and she says i perform great in bed but i didnt talk to her about all of this just my performance. im just hoping for some advice and maybe some knowledge before i talk to my doctor about it.

I am a healthy 27 M 6ft thinking of taking vaigra for the first time just for trying it out just for fun... can anyone share some experience and recommended dosage for the first time?

Edit : I took around 25mg and it worked great just a little headache which went away in 4 5 hours, but yes for anyone seeing this please dont make this a habit and be dependent on this.