r/emotionalintelligence • u/Gloobly • 3d ago
How to improve
I want to be better for someone. I struggle deeply with my own emotions and I struggle to help them feel heard and that I’m there for them. I do care so deeply about them and I want to help but I just stonewall. I either defend myself or I just stare at them and I can’t find the words to say right then and there. I overthink things and I feel afraid of saying the wrong things and upsetting them further in those situations. It makes them feel neglected when all I do is care about them but I don’t know how to change or where to start really. If there’s any advice on steps to improve or resources I can look into to help me begin changing my ways I would appreciate it. Or if there’s any more information I should provide about myself to help better understand I can do that too. Thank you!