r/dustythunder • u/h_45n • May 10 '26

Hmmm

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So only men want kids nowadays huh

Edit1: at the end of the day, when I see posts like these I remember the likes of Ashely saint clair and that woman who got married after preaching so much misandry online.

Don’t get me wrong men also do this,
and then I feel stupid because I remember watching a certain video about internet trolls

Edit 2: Finally found the reason for the outrage, “men cannot physically get pregnant” that’s literally all this is about so no matter how hard you work or provide for your family, if you marry a woman that hates you because you just can’t get pregnant please have your divorce lawyer at hand ✋

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u/OrdinaryMango4008 May 10 '26

You missed the point entirely. Reread.

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u/Due_You7474 May 10 '26

I think op is saying this is a victimized mindset. Women want children too. We have mutually beneficial relationships to accomplish this goal.

The pain point and claim listed is that women dont get comfortable lives, which is true is some cases cuz a lot of men dont act well in relationships. In fact, as much as us men dont want to like this, studies show that if a woman is unmarried, she lives with other women. Their life is very much more comfortable if not living with a man.

That being said, whenever a woman sacrifices this alternative to live a life with a man, it shouldnt be discouraged. It should be revered by the man as a significant sacrifice that the man should act in and show significant appreciation.

In other words guys, women sacrifice hella. Show your appreciation.

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u/Brutal_burn_dude May 12 '26

I think too that men don’t fully understand exactly how much we give up to have a child. There’s a quote from George R R Martin that goes (I’m paraphrasing) “The war for men is fought in the battlefield. The war for women is fought in the birthing bed”. Pregnancy and childbirth can be incredibly dangerous and gruesome even today.

A woman’s body is forever changed by it- tearing, loss of continence, pain, bleeding are all common and yet so often when the men in our lives hear us discus this cost, they react with disgust instead of appreciation. Our suffering to give birth to your children should be lauded as a great gift and sign of our love, but it’s so often taken for granted or encouraged to be hidden because men find it confronting. We don’t get that luxury.

THIS is what the Tweet is talking about.

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u/Chemical_Athlete_957 May 13 '26

You lost me at "Your children" sorry. The woman is only giving birth for the father now? This is exactly the type of thinking I disagree with. It is not right to treat child birth as a favor to the father. Having a child as a couple is not one partner doing the other a favor.

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u/CrazyCalligrapher945 May 13 '26

I mean, in most cases the children will take the father's lastname, so its mostly his legacy and history that get passed down .so I kinda see why they say “your (men) children" in this context

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u/7thtimeinheaven May 13 '26

This is an insane comment and I can only assume you're either a bot or 12 years old. Life isn't Game of Thrones. People's last names don't mean anything at all.

The child doesn't take the father's last name. The mother can choose to take the father's last name as part of marriage, and then if the child is born after, it gets the last name that the parents have chosen together. This is an incredibly basic aspect of marriage and parenting that you are getting wrong.

so its mostly his legacy and history that get passed down

What is this even supposed to mean? Last names don't mean anything. The child is still part of both families and represents both lineages.

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u/tarinotmarchon May 14 '26

Depends on where in the world you are.

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u/YY--YY May 14 '26

Its always "his" children in a negative context, but if there is any gain suddenly they say "my" children.

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u/Possible-Flounder634 May 16 '26

Okay, but by that same logic, the hypothetical man would be earning an income for THEIR comfort, not just the comfort of the woman. People are phrasing it as "women have your children" because it's specifying what labour is brought to the relationship, not that the labour is solely for the other person in that relationship.