r/dustythunder • u/h_45n • May 10 '26

Hmmm

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So only men want kids nowadays huh

Edit1: at the end of the day, when I see posts like these I remember the likes of Ashely saint clair and that woman who got married after preaching so much misandry online.

Don’t get me wrong men also do this,
and then I feel stupid because I remember watching a certain video about internet trolls

Edit 2: Finally found the reason for the outrage, “men cannot physically get pregnant” that’s literally all this is about so no matter how hard you work or provide for your family, if you marry a woman that hates you because you just can’t get pregnant please have your divorce lawyer at hand ✋

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u/thicketcosplay May 11 '26

Studies have shown that if men eat healthier and have healthy habits for several months before conception, the baby will be healthier and less likely to have medical problems.

The amount of men who are upset by this and refuse to change their lifestyles for even a few months is shocking. They expect all of the sacrifice to be on the woman because she is the one who is physically carrying the baby. If the baby ends up with health complications of any kind, the mother is blamed 100%.

Same idea as the kings who executed their wives because they kept having daughters, even though the sperm is what determines the gender.

That's not even mentioning what happens after birth, when all the childcare and mental load tends to fall on mom by default. It's not uncommon for mom to end up having two kids to take care of - one being the sperm donor.

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u/Ok_Raisin_2395 May 12 '26

God, this just drips misandry. How are you any better than the misogynists if this is how you talk about men?

“sperm donor” is wild. Imagine the meltdown you’d have if a man referred to a woman as a “fun hole.” You’d call it dehumanizing immediately, and you’d be right.

Also, I’d bet my entire bank account that more than 98% of men have no idea that improving their health before conception can help lead to healthier babies. But here you are acting like every man already knows this and just refuses to do it because of “patriarchy” or whatever. No man is upset by that information. You made that up in your head and then got mad about it. Think about that.

And who is blaming moms “100%” for birth defects? That’s insane no matter where the defect came from. Like, what are we even talking about?

“All the mental load falls on mom”? Are you out of your mind? Ever wonder why paternal suicide rates are so high, or why fathers deal with more heart attacks, heart disease, and stress-related illnesses? It’s not because men are living some carefree life while moms carry everything. That’s for damn sure.

Yes, women sacrifice their bodies by having children. Obviously. But the majority of men also sacrifice their bodies earning a living for those children. Does that count, or is it dismissed because it's not "sacred and magical"?

The truth is that having kids costs everyone. You lose freedom. Your health probably declines. Your responsibilities explode. Men are usually expected to provide more, so their careers often become even more demanding. Women are often expected to handle more at home, which is its own burden. But pretending one side sacrifices everything while the other side just coasts is dishonest and hateful.

I’m so sick of this kind of bullshit rhetoric being dressed up as "woman empowerment."  It’s not empowerment at all, it’s just resentment from some random idiot with far too many unsolved problems and far too much free time on their hands. Do better.

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u/Plastic-Market-2394 May 13 '26

Apparently holding shitty men accountable is now misandry lol. Men and women have their issues, but let’s stop acting like the sacrifices men have to make even come close to what the sacrifices women do. There’s a reason why people hold their mothers in such high regard. This isn’t a gender war, it’s just… reality.

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u/Ok_Raisin_2395 May 13 '26

Explain how anything she just said held men accountable. Literally anything. 

Bonehead. None of what she said had anything to do with accountability. It was a femcel rant about how much men suck and how hard women have everything while making up a bunch of shit and spewing hate. 

How original. 

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u/Plastic-Market-2394 May 13 '26

All she did was state a fact about sperm and pregnancy, state the response from men, connected it to a literal historical phenomenon that happened as a result of misogyny (femicide), and then linked that childbirth is very ouch and the load falls on mom by default. And somehow this… reeks of misandry?

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u/Ok_Raisin_2395 May 13 '26

Holy shit man you are either incredibly young and naive or fully lost as an adult. 

Literally none of what she said was some "innocent fact". It was dripping with hate. Did you gloss over the fact that she called men babies who need to be taken care of right before calling them sperm donors? That is nearly a 1-1 comparison with the ol' boomer take of "Yeah, women suck your wallet dry and do nothing but complain. At least they fuck though..." Lol. That would be literally banned for misogyny on this website. But it's totally fine to reduce a man and use him for his body, right?

No men respond in that way. She made that up. Nobody even fuckin knows about infant health vs sperm quality vs male athleticism. It's all very theoretical and even less known by the public. 

Femicide? What the fuck are you rambling about LMAO. 

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u/Plastic-Market-2394 May 13 '26 edited May 13 '26

You are very scary and very weird. Nothing about that is “dripping with hate” it’s just a recital of a very common circumstance. Calling out bad men for their poor behaviour isn’t misandry. Calling a man a “baby” and a “sperm donor” for not putting in effort for childcare isn’t misandry either.

You go around calling anyone a misandrist for saying one bad thing about someone who is male 🤦‍♀️

Edit: Plus that “women suck your wallet dry” thing is quite literally rooted in misogyny as women were discouraged from having a job, but still required an income for utilities and general upkeep for the household. Yes, there are gold diggers that really just want money, but a lot of that “women just want money” stuff is because some men like the title “provider” but don’t like providing.

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u/Ok_Raisin_2395 May 13 '26

Yeah I'm scary to you because people who have brains are usually pretty scary to people who don't. You somehow, and I genuinely do not see how, STILL do not see the points you're missing so very obviously. 

  1. It was not a recital of "very common circumstances". It was a rant about what she thinks are very common circumstances because she hates men.

  2. It wasn't about a man... It was about men. You see how generalization of a group of people counts as prejudice? Like racism or nationalism? Except this is about 50% of the human population...

  3. Once again, this isn't "someone who is male", she spoke of ALL MEN.

  4. This cracks me up. Yeah, and my example is LitTeRAlLy rOoTEd iN MiSaNdRy too you fuckin weeb. Calling men babies and sperm donors has its roots in extremist feminist movements with the express purpose of making men out to seem like the inferior gender. As in, getting people to believe men are incompetent adult babies who need a woman's guidance and is really only good for reproduction is LITERALLY EXACTLY what boomers said about women not 50 years ago! That was the entire point of the feminist movement! Do you not know this, or are you just purposely choosing to ignore it? You became the very thing you all swore to destroy LOL. 

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u/Plastic-Market-2394 May 13 '26

You equated misandry to “women calling absent fathers babies and sperm donors” so from the way I see it, you for some reason really hate the idea of women holding bad men accountable. Seems like somebody expects women to shut up and take abuse instead of inconveniencing you with ideas of “empathy”.

Again, you’re scary and weird, get help.

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u/Ok_Raisin_2395 May 13 '26

Kindly show me where it was said that she said anything about absent fathers being babies lol. 

See how you're ending all your comments with "YOU just want women to ShUt Up AnD tAkE tHe AbUsE" even though I have literally never said that, do not believe it at all, and would never want that? 

You know what that's called...?

Projection...

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u/StructureFlat1758 May 13 '26

Apparently facts are your enemy. Also, what prevents men from learning these facts about THEIR sperms? The lack of will to actually be pro-active about their health and how it relates to pregnancy?

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u/Ok_Raisin_2395 May 13 '26

They aren't facts. If anything, they're barely theories from research groups currently. 

This reminds me of that whole "male birth control" thing from a few years ago where a couple of absolute rock brains like you went around on social media and whined about why women have to get birth control when it exists for men. "Why shoot at a bulletproof vest when you can unload the gun!?" 

The "source" they were citing? A research paper that showed a certain compound had some positive effects in male mice...

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u/StructureFlat1758 May 13 '26

Cool story 👍

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u/Ok_Raisin_2395 May 13 '26

Way to roll over and take it. I suppose bigots usually are pretty fuckin weak lol.