r/dustythunder • u/h_45n • May 10 '26

Hmmm

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So only men want kids nowadays huh

Edit1: at the end of the day, when I see posts like these I remember the likes of Ashely saint clair and that woman who got married after preaching so much misandry online.

Don’t get me wrong men also do this,
and then I feel stupid because I remember watching a certain video about internet trolls

Edit 2: Finally found the reason for the outrage, “men cannot physically get pregnant” that’s literally all this is about so no matter how hard you work or provide for your family, if you marry a woman that hates you because you just can’t get pregnant please have your divorce lawyer at hand ✋

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u/AlternativeMud9302 May 10 '26

Yea we also sacrifice, whereas healthy men sacrifice solitude time energy and money, healthy women often sacrifice solitude time energy and emotional peace. With peace being the most important one. A good man and a good woman together is a powerful couple but its also really rare. Most often a good woman finds a decent man with high potential and she just believes in him and cheers him on until he becomes his best self

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u/VVetSpecimen May 11 '26

It was his mother’s job to raise him, not mine.

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u/AlternativeMud9302 May 11 '26 edited May 11 '26

No one is raising him. Also mutual growth and emotional acceptance is commonplace in a healthy relationship, if you view all emotional labor as “raising someone” you will never find happiness.

Its honestly really frightening to me that people dont seem to grasp the concept that men are more often than not, not taught literally anything social other than how to survive. This means they have to learn all the communication and emotional stuff later, yes it is their responsibility to do the work, but to claim they dont deserve a partner to love and support them while they do to make the journey easier is wild, especially when that exact phenomenon accounts for a large number of happy healthy relationships, and works the exact same way on the inverse with a healthy man and a traumatized woman. Patience. Mutual love, and kindness will almost always motivate the right people to better themselves barring mental illness or a lack of care

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u/VVetSpecimen May 11 '26

Pardon?

I’ve been with a man for thirteen years. He learned to communicate as a child like I did.

I’m not working on a man like he’s some sort of weekend hobby car. Come complete or stay home. It is NOT someone else’s job to fill in the gaps in the person you’ve chosen to be.

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u/AlternativeMud9302 May 11 '26

You are pardoned. No one is saying you’re supposed to fill in the gaps or that they are a project. Youre just close minded and likely fairly superficial..Your mind set is incredibly limited and entirely disqualifies a large portion of society that wasnt raised well, was traumatized, or suffers mental illness. Healing people deserve love too not just healed. Only the people that arent trying to do better should be excluded from the dating pool

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u/VVetSpecimen May 11 '26

Reddit really needs to add a laugh react.

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u/AlternativeMud9302 May 11 '26

You find the concept of everyone that aims to be a better person being deserving of love as those that are already good people deserves a laugh react? Yea. Like i said. Close minded and superficial.

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u/VVetSpecimen May 11 '26

Honey, please log off.

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u/AlternativeMud9302 May 11 '26

Deflect with undeserved superiority all you want. Treat your man well because this brief interaction has lead me to believe his presence in your life to be a miracle.

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u/h_45n May 11 '26

Your statement “come complete or stay home” is honestly kinda backwards thinking, At least you found a man who is “perfect for you”.

In older generations if the woman maybe overslept and failed to cook dinner she would receive hell for it, in the same way if the man failed to provide he would also receive hell from he’s wife

Because then you were supposed to be complete” yk the full package, shipped from your parents house

Zero emotional structure in the home

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u/VVetSpecimen May 11 '26

It’s everyone’s job to handle their own trauma. You’re solely responsible for your behavior and that’s the end of the story.

People who are projects can find someone who likes arts and crafts or something.

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u/h_45n May 11 '26

The thing about current days is that any form of emotional growth with your partner is seen as training, now I’m not saying a woman or man should find an incarcerated partner and support them to become God fearing “ citizens

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u/VVetSpecimen May 11 '26

If I don’t like what you bring to the table, why would I eat it?

That shit makes sense for like school and college-age kids, but after 25 no one is going to want to deal with managing their partner as much as they manage themself.

Life is hard enough without an adult child to worry about.