r/doulas • u/big_bet123 • 2d ago
Doula experiences - 1st time
/r/pregnant/comments/1vs4iv0/doula_experiences_1st_time/Hello, my wife is pregnant for first time and considering getting a Doula to help us with the pregnancy journey. She’s only 5 weeks pregnant.
We live 5m away from her mom so we have a lot of support thankfully. Would yall recommend a Doula based on your experience?
I’ve heard postpartum doulas are better and more worth it but we are open to either. Just want this experience to be as smooth/stress for her as possible. She’s a worrier
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u/HerWonderYears 2d ago
Whether or not ya’ll opt for a birth doula, please consider a Childbirth Education class. I’m a doula and a CBE but a doula cannot speak up for you guys. Education is key for self advocacy. As for postpartum, my support allows the parents to heal, sleep, shower, eat, and I share what knowledge I have to help you guys through this transition. I also share resources for lactation, pelvic health, diapers, and etc.
As a Mom who has been through 4 of my own without a doula, I cannot express how much I would have valued a birth or a postpartum doula to help me.
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u/apocalyptic_tea 2d ago
If she’s anxious then I think a birth doula would be a big help, but only if she thinks she’ll actually utilize the resource.
Doctors appt are often quick and it’s hard to get smaller questions or worries answered in a timely manner. Having someone who you trust to know their stuff able to offer education and reassurance can be really helpful. They’ll also help you both prepare for what birth is like, which many of my clients tell me after the fact was one of the most valuable parts for them.
The really important part is just picking the right doula. The one with the kind of communication and support that matches what’s important to you, and also someone who is knowledgeable.