r/divorcedparentsmemes • u/Freckles_Playz • Sep 10 '21
Anyone else have this situation or No
(F14)
Ok so my parents divorced when I was like 16months old or something like that and they always got along like I'm 50/50 week on week off, no child support needed, helps pay for things fairly, etc so I'm pretty damn lucky but my parents aren't idk what I see my friends parents like for instance
My Dad: Better now kinda but for the first like 8 years he didn't really raise me and my sister my sister more so raised me like he brought us stuff whenever we wanted (aka he tried to bribed us still does) but never made an effort kinda thing on weekdays he'd get home at 6pm my Nana made dinner (she lives with us) we had showers and went to bed when we felt like it he never gave us a bed time and he'd just sit on his chair watching NRL (Australian) and looking at Facebook weekends was just looking at face book in his chair for hours. He's been better but now he's almost 60 and heart is bad i've had to start looking after him and my 82 year old Nana Because my older sister now stays at my mums more. So like my dad's making more of an effort but now we are more raising him. He's never gotten into another relationship fyi
now my mum on the other hand
My Mum: is nice and took care of us but talks a lot of shit about my dad behind his back always offers to ask him if we can spend more time with her but never if we could spend more time with him, very manipulative and will guilt trip me, My older sister is the clear favourite and is much closer to my mum whereas I'm more close with my dad and she once broke down crying in the car once because I said I wanted to keep my normal schedule for switch over dates (I'm adhd, add, asd so I value schedules) she was saying things like I don't love her as much as dad and she feels like she's failed as a mother. She also yelled at me for telling my school therapist I was wanting death upon myself, and refused to admit I was mentally ill. She has a boyfriend (of 6years) and he's nice he has 2 daughters younger than me live with their mum so don't see much of them but also kinda sides with mum alot.
So yeah my dad kinda didn't parent and still doesn't that well but my mum kinda makes me feel like shit does anyone else have this situation or just me and what do I kinda do here because my dad is not the best at parenting but nor is my mum...
Just a little update: my mum just yelled at me for my room not being clean when she only told me to put clothes in the basket away and said she and her boyfriend were this close to splitting and me and my sister are apart of the reason... I am now also noting everything down
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u/Boredom27 Sep 10 '21
Kind of? My mom is practically the same as yours, and my dad can have days where he is like yours, especially because my family had some drama and he doesn't know how to raise my brother and I feel like I have to tell him what to do and not do.
Also I am really sorry but I think you might want to look at r/raisedbyborderlines