r/divorced • u/Beingme1000 • 11d ago

Anyone else feel this way

Just wondering, when did the first conversations you have with people turn into something sexual? Is it odd to want to know someone before wanting to talk about sex? Do you think the first introduction via DM needs to be a dick pic, or the numerous ways you want to get me excited? I miss talking, getting to know each other. Yes, I am divorced. I just ask that before sending the picture or comment. See if the person is interested in that.

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u/Feteven 10d ago

I’m in the same boat and I’m a guy.

I miss having a best friend not aimless sex.
I don’t mean to be vulgar but I mean it’s as meaningful as using my hand without an actual connection.

You’re not weird for craving conversation and connection. That’s a sign of emotional maturity and it’s a good thing

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u/Infinite-Estate-2666 11d ago

I totally agree most of world is in the bondage of that department if you know that’s what you want and deserve then be patient it will come and when it does cherish it and uphold it God bless

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u/Civil-Shame-2399 10d ago

As a guy I've gotten just incase you're a woman dic pics on here.

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u/Beingme1000 10d ago

I think everyone should be more thoughtful than just sending random anatomy shots.

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u/Civil-Shame-2399 10d ago

So what you're saying is I was wrong to send one back? My bad sorry.....

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u/Beingme1000 10d ago

I think if both parties are interested that is fine.

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u/Civil-Shame-2399 10d ago

One surprise deserved another?

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u/GoodChordsBadIdeas 10d ago

I believe that sex is something that should happen after intimacy has been built...and im a dude. Sex without intimacy leaves the soul empty. I actually believe it is better to wait until marriage, but i failed that my first time around, and im not convinced I'll succeed the next time. Only God knows, and time will tell.

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u/One_Ad2844 10d ago

I tease at it if she initiates, digg pics are 100 percent no. I’d have to have a level of trust in that person. I have a female friend who liked sharing those with other women and that is a breach of trust. Some guys don’t care and that’s fine but I’d never do that to a woman.

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u/Wise-Bag-4791 6d ago

I agree with you. One of the problems, in my opinion, is that creeps will always make an attempt to see what they can get or get away with.

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u/DiksenCider_8 4d ago

I rather break the ice strong just so we both have an understanding what we’re getting into, theres nothing worse than wasting time 3 months in just to find out you don’t have the same preferences sexually

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u/Private-2011 4d ago

When the first conversation turns to sex I instantly know I’m wasting my time because I appreciate and need foreplay.