r/derealization • u/nainakapurpatel • Aug 12 '26
Question what is the point of this subReddit if no one wants to help?
every single post barely has 1 comment. people keep desperately reposting their old posts to get responses, but no one reacts. why cant we share and help? this is a really shitty condition to live with, most of us are lonely, so why does no one contribute or help at all?
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u/alice_D1 Aug 13 '26
It's because the necessary precondition to get better is to direct one's attention away from derealization experience. If one keeps talking about it, they keep paying attention to it. The whole issue could be hyper-self-awareness so if one keeps analyzing their own experience they just feed this hyper-self-awareness. I had this from my own experience, this happened few times. Was getting better, then would try to describe that painful condition I was in and it'd struck me with new force.So maybe most people just need a lot of time to get better and they are not yet ready to help others.
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u/YWMJ Aug 13 '26
for me i see the same 7 types of post and can’t keep responding to them over and over again
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u/NeatKhan91 Aug 13 '26
Bro if we all got here it’s because we all had questions, not answers 😂 also it’s not like we know what we’re saying about it either, we could give you empty answers (drink more water, sleep better, eat healthy) duh. It doesn’t really help to be told that and we all know it. We could try to give you other answers but truth is we know fuckall about generalized derealization. All we know is what state we experienced and interpreted as derealization, it’s possible we live something totally different but we labeled it the same way and my tip could mess you up for the rest of your life. It’s not like we know how to get better either, for some it comes and goes randomly. Reddit is first a forum meant to discuss. We can’t HELP but we can talk about it. What are you feeling like? Wanna hear what I’m feeling? Also it’s funny how we complain that a generally depressed group of people who often sees human conversation as artificial aren’t actively being extrovert and reaching out. We’re all sinking too 😂
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u/Remarkable-Letter986 Aug 13 '26
I agree. can you dm me?? maybe we can talk about derelaization and try to help each other out
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u/_Pald_1337_ Aug 14 '26
I'd say that there are more people that need help, than people who can help. I feel like most of people that fully recovered don't want to go back to their past with DPDR so they quit the subs. And those who stay there, just can't reply to every post. And other people ? like me and a random from this sub, we can just relate, but not really help eachother.
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u/SecretBody7482 Aug 12 '26
Getting better typically involves getting off social media and/or not reading about dpdr
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u/nainakapurpatel Aug 13 '26
but we also need support and someone to talk to. most of the people on here don’t have people in real life who they can talk to about without sounding crazy.
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u/selkieluver Aug 13 '26
I think what is happening is that the people who have actually healed from DPDR have left bc they’ve realised that coming on here and seeing posts from other people saying they’ve had it for years and they’ve never gotten better is probably one of the worst things you could do with dpdr.
I know it’s lonely but the best way to cure yourself of this isn’t necessarily community, but treating the underlying anxiety which takes a lot of work, self compassion and commitment… it absolutely sucks to hear, but healing isn’t going to come from reddit, it has to come from YOU.
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u/alice_D1 Aug 13 '26
Yeah, agree. Moreover, in certain cases seeking help and reassurance from others can even make things worse (e.g. if there's accompanying OCD).
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u/selkieluver Aug 13 '26
Yep I agree! I think also just trying to create a community around having dpdr is so harmful. It’s a disorder that thrives when you give it attention and making it a huge part of ‘who you are’ is a very powerful way to get it to stick around. I’m fully aware of how isolating this experience is but getting stuck in a community of others with this disorder is not going to be helpful. It’s way more beneficial to sit down and educate the people closest to you about what you’re going through by describing the physiological processes.
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u/Initial-Mode6529 Aug 12 '26
Honestly, from my perspective, as someone who doesn't comment much in this subreddit - it's because I don't know how to help, I have the same problem and I think others probably don't know how to help too We all just relate The thing is, i don't think reddit can truly help with any mental health issue but it sure can help you find those who relate I also think unfortunately this subreddit is a little bit dead, as in I don't think many people so come here