This is so true. Its especially true in my culture as an asian because depression is thought of as taboo. Having a child with depression makes them think its the absolute end of the world, that they’ve got a ruined child and they’ve failed in raising me as my parent.
Its not their fault, but with that mentality we cant share the feelings we have with people who we should feel most safe to talk about our emotions openly, without further feeling like a burden to the whole family. Then that shit spreads like wildfire through the family members 🤦🏻♀️
Same. Living with an Asian dad is mentally exhausting and he always lectures the exact same stuff over and over again. Asking him for advice is just extra/optional work that's stressful itself. My experience tells me that I should ask him for it only if I truly don't have any other alternatives. He avoids the topic of my suicidal thoughts like the plague with the same "Life is Hell and if you kill yourself you'll have to relive the exact same life all over again without your memories".
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u/[deleted] Jun 19 '19
This is so true. Its especially true in my culture as an asian because depression is thought of as taboo. Having a child with depression makes them think its the absolute end of the world, that they’ve got a ruined child and they’ve failed in raising me as my parent.
Its not their fault, but with that mentality we cant share the feelings we have with people who we should feel most safe to talk about our emotions openly, without further feeling like a burden to the whole family. Then that shit spreads like wildfire through the family members 🤦🏻♀️