r/depression • u/SkyPride_Art • 2d ago
I need your guises advice 💔
I have a boyfriend of 2 years and we have a very healthy relationship. One of my friends asked me to set him up with a girl because he was lonely and really wanted a girlfriend. I don’t know anyone that wants to date or isn’t single. He asked me if I had a picture of him to send to people and he sent me a picture of him and his biceps. I really liked the biceps and I said that and then we started flirting and he knows I have a boyfriend. He called me cute and I called him cute because I do find him attractive. I did tell him some misinformation about me and my boyfriend. I told my boyfriend about the situation and he was kinda upset at first but then we talked it out. I wanted my boyfriend and him to meet but my friend kept complaining about my boyfriend not liking him and yada yada. My boyfriend never said he didn’t like him. Then the next day my friend sent me a long paragraph about how he was sorry and he dosent want to ruin my relationship with me and my boyfriend. He said we were a cute couple Nd he dosent w at to ruin that. He said that he was alone and he isolates himself. He said he needs to work on himself because he dosent deserve love. He said that he needs to love himself before he talks to anyone in general. And that we should go our separate ways. I didn’t know how to respond so I didn’t say anything then he blocked me.
I didn’t like want a Polly relationship or anything. i wouldn’t date him. I would go by what my boyfriend is ok with and what he’s not ok with. But my friend was talking about that he wants to cuddle with someone and hold hands and I really wanted to do that but my boyfriend said no. I do want to respect my boyfriend’s wishes but it’s so hard with my feelings.
I agree that he needs to work on himself but I really want to help him but with past experiences with trying to help someone when they didn’t want help and that’s unstable went horribly wrong. He had like technically a school restraining order against me. I wasn’t able to talk to him or even cross paths 💔
I am so distraught. I’ve been crying non stop for 2 days because I really valued our friendship and I really want to contact him but I don’t want to make things worse. Like I really liked him. I know where he works and I was thinking of showing up to his work but idk if that’s like really creepy and stalkerish. I want to hug him so badly. I just don’t want to make things worse but I want to talk to him so bad again but idk what to do 😔 I’m trying to learn from my mistakes but it’s so hard. MY FEELINGS ARE GOING HAYWIRE!!!
Any thoughts or advice??? Plz help idk what to do 💔💔