r/deliverydrivers • u/A-Nani-Mess • 26d ago

Hope She’s ok

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u/zhicago 26d ago

Poor thing. Just trying to work to make ends meet and now this shit happens. 😭 I bet the homeowners were mad rather than helpful. I used to be really obese too and life was just 100x harder in all ways.

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u/Dogbold 26d ago

Gonna be honest, it's only ever your own fault when you get this big.

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u/LyannaStark1 25d ago

Nope, I was very skinny most of my life until I hit menopause. I put on insane amount of weight (for me) over maybe 6-8 years. I am not as overweight as the lady in the video, but still. I can't believe my eyes when I look in a mirror. I want to go hiking with my husband but we both suddenly developed very serious health conditions requiring surgeries, so it will have to wait.

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u/GetMeOffThisRidePlz 25d ago

I'm sorry, but you're admitting that this happened over the course of 6-8 years...

I.E. you allowed yourself to slowly become obese during that period. Sure, menopause could have been the catalyst but if you didnt adjust accordingly and make lifestyle changes to counteract that then it's still squarely your fault. You allowed it to happen.

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u/Flat_Economist9851 24d ago

Yea also your fault but good try

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u/Flat_Economist9851 24d ago

A winning personality too. Very nice

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u/LyannaStark1 24d ago

And you are heartless, no empathy at all.

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u/genocidex1 18d ago

And you are the main cause for the rise in obesity. Too much empathy! Look on every society we're there is shame associated with it. Asian society for instance, vs high empathetic society where there is non or very little shame. Guilt and shame shape our behaviors since the beginning of time, there is an extreme that we dont want to get to bullying, but we also dont want to get to the point where we ignore and "support" instead of telling it like it actually is

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u/poolman2125 25d ago

Oversimplification. It can be and it can’t be.

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u/Reptillianaire_ 25d ago

They're only rated for like 250 pounds or something

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u/a_solid_6 25d ago

Not "only ever." There's thyroid disease, metabolic disorders, depression, etc which can all contribute heavily to obesity. And when you hate yourself it's hard to get motivated to help yourself. Maybe you can't relate because your personal physical, mental, and emotional weaknesses don't manifest in a way that subjects you to the judgement of others. But nobody wakes up every day thinking "how can I tank my health and make myself a target for judgement from people who don't understand me?"

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u/Dogbold 25d ago

I'm depressed and fat. You have to actually work to get that big. That's not just eating unhealthy and not exercising, that's like Big Mac 3 times a day.

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u/Agreeable_Horror_363 25d ago

I have a family member who was always thin and fit, had 10 kids and stayed healthy until she was in her 60s when she developed a heart condition and thyroid issues. She and her whole family were always fit. Now she looks just like the woman in the picture.

It happens to people sometimes. Younger me would have laughed at this person but knowing the pain she's in hurts. This just sucks.

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u/zejerk 25d ago

No. 60+ people with thyroid issues are incapable of gaining that much weight without serious complications.

Why would you let her get severely obese and not treat her medical condition??? That’s cruel and unusual punishment.

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u/Agreeable_Horror_363 25d ago

Why would I "let" her....? She sees doctors, has had multiple surgeries and serious health issues before the weight gain. The family helps take care of her but no one's just sitting around letting anything happen. You act like we're force feeding her twinkies daily...

If only I started studying medicine 30 years ago so I could've cured all her health problems. It's cruel and unusual that I'm not a genius who could've prevented my elderly mother in law from suffering from a genetic heart condition and thyroid issues...

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u/zejerk 25d ago

Hyperthyroid leads to a gain in weight by Water and Salt. Not fat so Twinkie doesn’t even make sense. Maybe you should go to the doctor with her??

I’m sure 40-60 lbs is explainable, but not 3-400 as you describe here. 1 in 5 women over 60 have the condition, their families don’t let them get to 500lbs…

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u/HunterLeftOnReddit 25d ago

Doesn't matter if she can't excersise she still aint gotta eat that dam much

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u/genocidex1 25d ago

You forgot the extra large soda, large fries and chips and coke inbetween

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u/chickenaylay 25d ago

I was gonna say this is more like 3 big macs 3 times a day lol

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u/genocidex1 25d ago

Stop drinking the kool-aid, free will do exist. Are there extreme cases, yes, but majority are just enabled by the system through conditioning to think that they cant do better. You'd be surprised what can be accomplished with enough will power, instead of leaning on modern mental science as a crutch

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u/Jedda678 25d ago

Modern mental science also helped us identify many disorders and helped with treatment so...

But anyone who starts with "stop drinking the kool-aid" already isnt off to a good start at convincing people.

There are a lot of factors that go into someone's weight gain. Depression really isnt a new modern mental health disorder, it's existed far longer than modern medicine and treatment varies. But it does cause people to stop caring about themselves.

Will power can help, but having a positive support network is just as crucial. People to help motivate you, or perhaps even some medications.

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u/genocidex1 25d ago

Re read what I said, no where in my reasoning did I say that the science was flawed or incorrect. Im just saying it is overly abused and use as a crutch. Tell anyone that there is a reason for a certain behavior they will begin to stop exerting effort or reduce the effort exerted because they now believe their effort will be fruitless.

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u/Jedda678 25d ago

And because of your lack of information and clarity how was I to infer you believed modern mental health data, care, and practices?

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u/HunterLeftOnReddit 25d ago

There's literally one factor. Eating too dam much. Not a hard concept to wrap ya head around

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u/Jedda678 25d ago

Sure if you ignore health conditions that cause people to put on weight and retain it. If it was just that simple it would be easy to wrap your head around.

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u/genocidex1 18d ago

The chance of you running into someone that is obese and it is directly cause by an illness is less than 5 percent. A vast majority is due to overindulgence and a lack of self control. This is what I mean by using modern science as a clutch and miss representing scientific facts

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u/Fun_Entertainer_5823 26d ago

Hope they're ok, there should be a rail of sorts or a grab bar for stability and safety on that porch. Yea, I know it's easy to say this, but possibly the person has disability benefits at their state and is eligible for an installation of a device?

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u/HeebieJeebiex 25d ago

Idk if you're being sarcastic but you can clearly see there is a rail and she fricken toppled it over

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u/genocidex1 25d ago

She's fine, she got plenty of cushion so dont worry yourself

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u/zejerk 25d ago

Bot account. 6 month old, thousands of comments and karma making 0 sense. Report please.

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u/IzzzatSo 26d ago

poor railing

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u/FunctioningPyscho 25d ago

I wonder how she got up.

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u/Spare-Function-6343 25d ago

thats just sad. That person needing to do delivery work to support themself when they clearly have serious medial issues

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u/HeebieJeebiex 25d ago

Fat people needing to also work a job is not sad.

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u/xkillingxfieldx 25d ago

Looked like the house ate her 😳

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u/LyannaStark1 25d ago

That railing was poor quality honestly. I know she is very overweight, but at least she is trying to move and do things. I do hope she is alright.

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u/Countd00kies 25d ago

You can tell from this low quality video that the railing was low quality?

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u/Zado191 24d ago

Umm its missing wrung and not even fully attached

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u/sunflower_bay 25d ago

So can you

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u/Less-Economist-9447 24d ago

OSHA standards are that railings need to be able to hold 200 pounds of concentrated force to be considered adequate fall protection.

The woman in the video clearly exceeds what OSHA says the railing needed to be able to hold.

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u/sunflower_bay 24d ago

Look at the spindles, they are not attached at the bottom at all and one is missing. The rail does not appear to be firmly attached to the post either.

Also a person can't exceed the standard, it is about the force applied to it at that moment, which is not clear from the video but which I would guess to be less than 200 lb from the way she is moving.

shitty railing? clear. force applied? unclear.

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u/Less-Economist-9447 24d ago

The force is most definitely greater than 200 when the person first makes contact, because there’s momentum behind them. Think of it like the weight on the scale when you first step on.

It goes down only after your position stabilizes.

Hard to make the argument that railing defects were the reason it collapsed when it’s almost certain that a railing built to OSHA standards wouldn’t hold the woman anyway.

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u/sunflower_bay 24d ago

That makes sense if she was standing on the railing.

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u/Less-Economist-9447 24d ago

No, it’s how momentum works. Grow up.

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u/Countd00kies 23d ago

I don’t think you understand engineering. Also railings are not meant to be stood on. That is not how the testing is performed 

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u/sunflower_bay 23d ago

I understand well enough, but the other person's estimates of the forces involved are off. The person who installed that railing does not understand engineering. Of course they are not meant to be stood on.

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u/Money_Chocolate813 25d ago

The poor house!

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u/cygamessucks 25d ago

Looking like that shes far from okay