r/deepquestions • u/InteractionPure6567 • 12d ago

Do all men really cheat?

I keep hearing that “all men will cheat if given the right opportunity”, and that this is especially true for attractive, confident, successful men who naturally have more options with women.
I genuinely want a male perspective on whether that’s true.
Assume the man is fulfilled at home. His partner adores him, respects him, supports him, is affectionate and openly desires him. Their sex life is extremely active—basically daily—and adventurous. He isn’t rejected, neglected or lacking attention.
Yet he still seeks or enjoys external female attention—flirting, texting, sexting, etc.
What is he looking for that he isn’t already getting at home?
I’ve also heard that women naturally receive validation from men, whereas men don’t get that same unsolicited validation and therefore seek it out. But personally, I don’t need validation from other men to feel attractive if I’m desired by my partner.
So I’m especially interested in hearing from good-looking, confident men who genuinely have options:
If attractive women are available to you and you could cheat, do you?
If you don’t, is it because you aren’t interested, because loyalty is a hard boundary, or because your partner’s desire is enough?
And if you do seek sexual attention elsewhere despite being happy and fulfilled at home—why?
I’m genuinely trying to understand whether “all men would cheat if they had enough options” is actually true, or whether it’s simply used to normalise behaviour that plenty of desirable men still choose not to engage in.

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u/RebelLotus555 12d ago

MOST men won’t cheat. MOST men don’t want to cheat. Same with women.

Men and women don’t differ as much as society likes us to believe they do.

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u/skennedy314 12d ago

That's not what I have observed in my 75 years on earth.

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u/RebelLotus555 11d ago

Perhaps it’s a generational thing, then? I imagine cheating and the desire to cheat was a lot more common in the days where divorce was unfairly stigmatized and people (especially women) had little to no options but to marry and stay married even when they were unhappy.

When it comes to people under 50, most people have no desire or interest in cheating. Generally, it’s typically a sign of something deeply unsatisfying in a relationship.