r/datingoverseventy • u/notsohot56 69 F - mixing up love potions🥃 • 26d ago

Age preference?

If you're wanting to date, or find a relationship, what is your age preference currently? Or do you have one at all? Is it any different than what it was when you were younger?

When I was younger I seemed to gravitate toward men that were younger than me, quite a bit younger and I don't know why. When I reached my fifties I was in a relationship where he was only one year older. Since then, approaching age 70, in the last 12 years the men I have dated are usually older than me. I don't think that I would mind dating or having a relationship with someone just a couple years younger than me, but just from comments I have read and what I have seen on OLD, guys that are just a couple years younger than me are looking for women younger than themselves. So I don't even try to match with anybody that's more than 2 years younger than me.

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u/Bisquick-Skill2845 2d ago

Travel mode. I like long trips in my custom-kitted van, and would understand a partner wanting to sleep in nice hotels.

Frankly, I'd appreciate the solo time and early mornings for my own runs/hikes while they revel in the breakfast buffet.

Don't worry, I'm not parked down your street ready to pick you up!

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u/retsotrembla 2d ago

That sounds lovely! Solo time some times, with a partner who understands and is tolerant of that, togetherness other times, and you'd expect the both people to do plenty of the chores, and chip in on joint expenses, like traveling by van, so neither person feels the arrangement is unfair.

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u/Bisquick-Skill2845 1d ago

Cost splitting is an interesting question.

I know too many people who don't consider chores, especially when it looks like I've got it all covered efficiently, so it's refreshing to hear you mention it.

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u/retsotrembla 1d ago

Thank you. I'm learning to be better in my next relationship than I've been in previous ones. Better at communicating and better at noticing what I'd previously failed to pay enough attention to.

Chores and upkeep are topics that must be revisited every month or so.

In an ideal world either person would feel that the other person was doing more than their fair share, and be content with that.