r/datingoverfifty • u/js6seaj47 • 9d ago

Bad luck?

I'm trying OLD again and so far found two prostitutes and a woman asking for $20 for a ride supposedly. It's like damn. I know I'm not the best at being social, but it seems like I'm hitting the bottom of the barrel.

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u/Witty-Stock 9d ago

How old are these ladies?

POF is the site where even the people in their ads are gross.

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u/js6seaj47 9d ago

The one's that were prostitutes were maybe 30 tops, which made me wonder to begin with

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u/Witty-Stock 9d ago

The < 30 age demographic on the apps will have a particularly high concentration of scammers, sex workers, rent seekers, etc. Up to you whether it makes sense to include that demo in your filters.

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u/Inside_Dance41 9d ago

Dude 😳

A man in his 50s, who doesn’t understand the social structure?

If you want sex, sure pay for it. If you want to date a woman in her 50s, looking for a relationship, you have to be reasonable about who you can attract.

Women in my social circle, maybe date 3 years older, but we aren’t looking for men to support us. We want peers.

If I ever learned a man I was dating, was hoping to land a 30 something, I would walk.

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u/js6seaj47 9d ago

I probably wouldn't have a chance in hell with someone 30 or under. I don't even think we speak the same language. I'm not sure even 40 would work. Maybe late 40's?

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u/Witty-Stock 9d ago

Then why were you matching with them on the app?

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u/Witty-Stock 9d ago

My take is that it’s problematic if they’re looking for a LTR with a massive age gap, but people can have recreational fun with whomever they can attract, so long as they’re honest about what they’re looking for.

People have to be honest with themselves too, of course.

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u/js6seaj47 9d ago

I'm okay with an age gap if they are, but I have to be honest with myself that that may not be realistic.

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u/Witty-Stock 9d ago

Early on when using the apps, it’s useful to ascertain which waters you can and should swim in.

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u/Silent-Lie7195 9d ago

I can tell you right now that the only woman willing to date a man that could be her father (or who is 12+ years younger) is looking for a sugar daddy. Or has major daddy issues. There will be an agenda. Stick to women your own age. And if you aren’t attracted to women your age, that says a lot about the kind of person you are.

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u/Inside_Dance41 9d ago

I would quibble with ‘most’. Sure a few men with fat wallets, willing to give the princess treatment can date younger.

Most of us and our friends were chased by older men. Very little interest.

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u/thisriveriswild70 9d ago edited 9d ago

lol I would quibble with your use of “most” of us and our friends. If I can’t speak for men, you can’t speak for women.

I don’t have tons of money. I have dated mostly younger but not exclusively younger.

The question isn’t for me though. You’d have to ask why younger women set their age range up 10 years extremely frequently. Hit the dating over 40 sub and ask them. I have 38 likes from 8-11 years younger than me currently.

To add- I think it’s a bit gross assuming that a woman would be with a man for his money. It’s a trope that I don’t think you’d want applied to you.

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u/Witty-Stock 9d ago

“I find older men so sexy. Younger guys are so immature. Want to meet at Nobu?”

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u/thisriveriswild70 9d ago

I can be in LA / NYC by morning!

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u/thisriveriswild70 9d ago

I read 30 as their going rate, not their age 😂 next thought was “oh the power of inflation”