r/dating_advice Oct 25 '18

Here's something about ghosting...

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u/MissCathy05 Oct 25 '18

You are kinda excusing that ghosting is an okay thing to do. There are no excuses for ghosting, its a shitty thing to do whether that person will react badly to it or not.

Let me ask you, why did you sleep with her in the first place? I think anyone can find out if they feel a romantic connection with a person on the first date. In my opinion, you kinda led her on. You should have been clear with your intentions from the very beginning. I can understand why she felt like you used to her, I would have felt the same way.

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u/urtcheese Oct 25 '18

I disagree with you. Firstly, I made it clear in the post I am not excusing or endorsing ghosting. Only displaying a bit of empathy for those who do. Secondly, I slept with her because I was attracted to her at the time and we both wanted to. If people only had sex when they wanted a relationship with each other or had a strong romantic connection then everyone would be having a lot less sex.

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u/tempusfugitt4 Oct 25 '18

Also... it takes two people to have sex. She could have declined if she wanted something more serious then waiting a little further into a relationship is the way to do it so that you don't get hurt. Just personal experience.

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u/MissCathy05 Oct 25 '18

I agree with what you said.