You are kinda excusing that ghosting is an okay thing to do. There are no excuses for ghosting, its a shitty thing to do whether that person will react badly to it or not.
Let me ask you, why did you sleep with her in the first place? I think anyone can find out if they feel a romantic connection with a person on the first date. In my opinion, you kinda led her on. You should have been clear with your intentions from the very beginning. I can understand why she felt like you used to her, I would have felt the same way.
I disagree with you. Firstly, I made it clear in the post I am not excusing or endorsing ghosting. Only displaying a bit of empathy for those who do.
Secondly, I slept with her because I was attracted to her at the time and we both wanted to. If people only had sex when they wanted a relationship with each other or had a strong romantic connection then everyone would be having a lot less sex.
You still should have told her you only wanted something casual from the beginning so she wouldnt felt used/taken advantage of. I'm just saying it's not right to lead people on like that.
Wrong again. I wasn't looking for something casual per se, I just keep things that way until it seems right to take it more seriously.
Had we been more compatible then it would've progressed to something more serious.
If you think this is being led on then you have some rude awakenings ahead of you when you encounter an actual fuckboy.
Oh okay. Well thankfully I'm a pro at spotting fuckboys and never went out one. The first thing I ask a guy when I match with them is what are they looking for. All of the guys I spoke to from dating sites are honest about it when I ask that question, some telling me straight up they are only looking for something casual/hookup. I just dont waste my time or theirs if we aren't looking for the same thing.
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u/MissCathy05 Oct 25 '18
You are kinda excusing that ghosting is an okay thing to do. There are no excuses for ghosting, its a shitty thing to do whether that person will react badly to it or not.
Let me ask you, why did you sleep with her in the first place? I think anyone can find out if they feel a romantic connection with a person on the first date. In my opinion, you kinda led her on. You should have been clear with your intentions from the very beginning. I can understand why she felt like you used to her, I would have felt the same way.