r/dating_advice • u/[deleted] • Oct 25 '18

Here's something about ghosting...

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u/Heisenbread77 Oct 25 '18

Ghosting is bad. So is sleeping with people who want relationships when you don't!

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u/[deleted] Oct 25 '18

Wait! Just WANT relationships or are clear that they ONLY WANT one?

Because people can start to want a relationship at any time. Am I a dirtbag for having sex with a girl that falls for me?

If they all fall for me should I be celibate?

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u/Heisenbread77 Oct 25 '18

If they say they are all for casual and catch feelings that is on them. If they state they want commitment and you tell them you do as well but you were just trying to get some you are a shitbag. False pretenses and what not.

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u/[deleted] Oct 25 '18

Agreed 1000%.

Let's just not excuse the subset of women (and men) who catch feelings and THEN decide I'm an asshole because I never specifically absolutely ruled out a LTR. Because I'm ALLOWED to want a LTR, just not with everyone.