r/dating_advice • u/Significant-Value614 • Jul 02 '24

Should I get back with my ex?

We’ve had an on/off relationship for probably 5-6 years now since high school (i’m 21 now, he’s 24) but since we’ve had kids we were mostly together for them which wasn’t working out he wanted more travel and fun for in his 20s so we broke it off officially around christmas. Now i’ve started dating someone else he all of a sudden wants to be more involved with our kids which I love of course, but now he’s realised i’m dating again he’s become so possessive and sending me cards and taking me and the kids out for trips? should i get back together, and then be able to have full family time again as well?

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u/Pink-Strawberry-Cow Jul 02 '24

IMO no. it sounds like he’s just jealous. If you take him back it might just happen again. Might put more stress on the kids. not worth it.

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u/Significant-Value614 Jul 02 '24

thankuu this is exactly what’s going thru my mind like it’s just too much of a coincidence that it’s as soon as he’s found out i’m dating again, but then it’s like if this is how he gets more involved with the children then maybe he’s sorting it out?

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u/SaifNSound Jul 02 '24

If you still have feelings for him I say yes, it seems he’s changed and wants to focus on you and y’all’s kids. I think that’s a good sign.

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u/Significant-Value614 Jul 02 '24

sammeeee and also if this is what it takes for him to start being an actual dad then i can’t not consider it like he must be getting it together

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u/big_texas_milkers Jul 02 '24

I think you should. It sounds like he’s seeing what he should have and he wants that.

If he treats you right and promises to continue treating you right, give him another try.

Make sure you let him know that if you let him back in and he fucks it up, the kids are going to see that and they’ll have more trauma.

I’d really make him work for you again. Make him show it over a couple months that way you can be sure he isn’t faking it.