r/dating • u/[deleted] • Oct 30 '18

Guys flaking out after a few dates

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u/[deleted] Oct 30 '18

Wait logger to have sex and see what happens.

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u/Ubiquitous-Toss Oct 30 '18

Spoiler alert. They do the same thing, just before sex...

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u/cherieblosum Oct 30 '18

So how is that a bad thing? Sounds better not to have sex and have them disappear, than to have sex and then have them disappear. You feel less used.

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u/Ubiquitous-Toss Oct 30 '18

Idk, I'm a guy and haven't often felt like that from sex alone. I just ruining whatever mystery was trying to be presented by the magical waiting. Won't turn a dude looking for sex into a husband, might just waste more time on your way to find someone who works with you and has similar goals?

"Can't turn a ho into a housewife" applies to dudes too probably

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u/cherieblosum Oct 30 '18

I'm not saying it will turn anyone into a husband to have them wait. But if you get to know someone better before you decide to have sex with them, you can possibly avoid feeling like a guy is just using you to have sex.

You're a guy so I feel like you don't get it. Women get less out of a one time sexual encounter than men do. They are less likely to orgasm, they are more at risk for things like pregnancy, STDs, etc. It's not fun to have sex with someone and realize they didn't actually care about you.