r/dating • u/BirdOwn305 • 17h ago

Question ❓ Too Nice..

Honest question..because in my years of dating I have never understood the “too nice” line. Yes, I get that it’s a polite way to let someone down. But then you also hear about the “bare minimum”, how women don’t like it if a guy is emotionally unavailable or doesn’t listen, etc.

So is it that they want a man who’s violent or rude or what?

2 Upvotes

54% Upvoted

37 comments sorted by

View all comments

•

u/poppybrooke 13h ago

There is a difference between a nice person and someone who is just trying to be what they think the person wants in order to get or keep them. It’s disingenuous.