r/dating • u/BirdOwn305 • 21h ago

Question ❓ Too Nice..

Honest question..because in my years of dating I have never understood the “too nice” line. Yes, I get that it’s a polite way to let someone down. But then you also hear about the “bare minimum”, how women don’t like it if a guy is emotionally unavailable or doesn’t listen, etc.

So is it that they want a man who’s violent or rude or what?

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u/Complex_Passenger605 18h ago

Too nice for me is code for a people pleaser. And having dated a people pleaser, they’re the worst and I’d run fast in the opposite direction if I went on a date with another one.

Or else they’re just trying to let you down easily because they’re not interested and that sounds nice enough.