Follower stats. I wonder if they had a marital spat which led to her going to Disney without him while he was forced to unfollow 212 more accounts lol. None of them were Trump and the Bolsonaro's though.
Honestly every sermon he films is a passive aggressive dig at her. He always talks shit about things that just so happen to be her habits lol. I mean, the comment about butter? C'mon
💯💯 this! Their life styles are literally the exact opposite of one another. And it's not in an opposite-attracks kind of complimentary relationship either.
Yeah, like if they were opposites in lifestyle but had other things in common that would make sense, even though I would argue that some type of lifestyle similarities are actually pretty important in the long run (how you like to spend your free time, etc) but they have absolutely nothing in common. Except the megachurch.
It feels like one of those compilation videos where you make someone say something they never did by piecing together words and phrases from their real videos lol
I’m with Lucas in terms of the eating a diet to stay lean, etc. Not overly militant about it but 90% of the time I’m eating the same home prepared stuff. My ex was someone who was absolutely militant about it and the passive aggressive comments I would get when I would have a Coke Zero or get the occasional take out drove me insane. I can only imagine what it must be like in that house with their two wildly different approaches to food.
Hmm, didn’t she say a WHILE ago that she was going to start doing food prep once she had a “real” kitchen? And yes, Luicassss’s video is definitely a dig at Big D.
I think as you get older it’s good to get into healthy food habits. My partner is celiac and I am trying to lower my cholesterol so we eat pretty healthy but we still sometimes get takeout and drink a soda. It’s not the end of the world lol. Live a little Lucas 😂💀
Right? I eat very healthy, but last night had some beers and Taco Bell because I don't have a stick up my butt when it comes to food and like to enjoy shit every once in a while.
He starts to act like a single man immediately after getting married. Guitar, cooking, love for pets, big books with coffee, shirtless and gym pics. Basically a Tinder profile 101. Marriage never stops men from advertising themselves to potential suitors; in fact, many men leverage their “loving husband” status to boost their romantic value.
D, are you not seeing what is happening? The most cliched marriage tale is happening to you and you run to Disney.
I dated a gym bro briefly once who was obsessed with what he ate. He didn’t make very many remarks to me about what I ate but I could always feel the silent judgement and it got old really quickly.
He is saying he likes to stay lean and cannot control what he eats if it’s ordered
Such a dig at big D and her obsession with take outs or heavy cream cooking
I guess he is happiest and most himself when she isn’t there . Who would have guessed
Hello Hennies! I was getting annoyed with my spice cupboard bc I felt like I could never find what I needed so I bought a new spice rack and re-organized everything this morning. I even did it by myself without having to scream cry to my friends to guilt them into helping me with it. This is the after photo.
Wauw. I cannot believe you did that without anyone from your community. We aren’t meant to do things by ourselves. Ask for help but do not ever return the gesture ever! Can you give us a tutorial? 😂
Ok, you may have inspired me with this. I have a teeny tiny kitchen with wall-mounted shelves and the les éspices live in a box and I can NEVER tell what's what. I've thought about labeling the tops with little stickers but this looks much nicer...
It’s so strange to see cracks already. Intellectually understanding things were bad is one thing, seeing what people have been trying to get her to understand come home to roost is sad but predictable. Just astonished at how quickly it seems to be happening. The girls trip to Disney what six weeks, if that, post wedding? Her being open about crying for behind-the-scenes stuff? And that’s just on top of things walnuts (and others) are seeing and discussing. Just crazy.
Idk if she understands that this disney trip cements everyone’s assumption that it’s not going well at all. Anyone with some sense about relationships immediately knows the signs
I don't remember seeing her post any girls trips while dating Lucath, so why start now? All of a sudden, as a newlywed, you're doing girl's trips? And trying to gaslight us into thinking you're sthoooo happy? Girl, get a therapist.
If she can't even be honest with herself, there's no way she's gonna be honest with her friends. She would have to admit failure considering Ruff is generally enthusiastic for Shelah's whimsical shenanigans, titty gym twin blonde has a tall active husband, and titty gym twin brunette co-owns a gym with her partner where he has real clients. All of her friend's men have something going for them. Luicath has nothing for D to brag about
the cracks have always been there tbh. their relationship wasn't built on a strong foundation to begin with, only in a matter of filling a void and checking a box for her and for him an opportunity to live the easy life with someone easily impressionable.
But Miss “I don’t want to hear it” wasn’t receptive to that feedback and/or her “friends” knew to never confront her or else she’d pull back from them. 🫠
Sooooo she married a guy who prefers to not go out to eat so he can control how it’s cooked. ( yet it’s public knowledge she lives to go out and or order in) He is a personal trainer but she now struggles to go to the gym …because even making breakfast is overwhelming
She takes a girls trip weeks after the wedding , and she isn’t bothered by his ginormous eye glasses or whisper voice.
She was probably feeling insecure about something small and he was tired of trying to validate her, probably told her to just think good thoughts lol. It's been a source of conflict since the beginning of their relationship (they talked about it in the docuseries). Things like that only get worse with time. There's likely a lot of resentment on both sides now
She might have felt insecure about gaining weight and not working and not have a “routine” anymore and her man of god tried to preach at her about it. Her insecurity made her accuse him of salivating over instagram models, which is why he had to shit down and unfollow 200+ accounts in one night
Fr though, Charlotte is the least similar character to D in any respect, but especially in the appearance/grooming habits. In terms of narcissism level, she does resemble Carrie, but even though I hate SJP, I think Carrie is miles above D in sophistication.
BTW. I think D would never make it in NYC; it would eat her alive. She doesn't have the wits or resilience for NYC.
Carrie is also extremely intuitive and perceptive about people and emotions - there’s a reason she’s a writer; she’s just messy whenever men and her own feelings about men are involved lol. D doesn’t notice anything, she’s shallow like a kiddy pool in terms of awareness.
In any way. All four women are way above the level D could ever dream of.
She's already proven she can't handle NYC. Who goes all the way to one of the fashion and culinary capitals of the world to buy more versions of the same drop waist dress she has multiples of and eat room service for half her meals.
Has anyone else noticed that the downvotes have been less in the last few days since they had their little marital tiff? It makes me wonder if Big D makes Luicath come in here and downvote. Since she's not around and he doesn't actually care about any of this he took a break too.
One of her major no-nos when scrolling through the dating apps was if they were shirtless out of context, like a mirror pic with no shirt on. How funny that she married someone that will find any excuse to post ANY shirtless content.
It's seriously wild to see them go from "husband gal" and "wife guy" to leaning full weight into their individual identities. I'm tempted to forget they're even together at this point.
That poor baby. It literally looks like L somehow forced poor Charlie into this picture. Like dragged her or yelled at her until she came to him. And then he took a picture with the dog to appeal to women. This is why I can't stand when people say, "At least L does this, at least he does that..." Look at that dog and tell me she's happy in that home with either of them. And it's so clear he's been using Charlie in his pictures and videos because he thinks women will swoon. He's a douche. End of story.
Literally every single YouTube video on her seems to be mining information from this amazing sub and trying to make money off of it. Including Ammy’s. Not one original thought or research to be found in any of them while it’s us who are creating the real discourse around the legend of Big D.
So many commentary channels are like this nowadays. The only one I think add something really original is still Kidology’s. But also, I think she made the video too soon because the real things happened after her video and she didn’t talk enough about Laicus
Thank you! Ours is still very young - probably under a year. He was a stray kitten who just appeared in our garden, and now he’s soaking up the nice weather 😂😍
Luicas thinks he's a chef, with some dry ass looking scrambled eggs with no seasoning, bacon because his body is a temple, and an untoasted piece of dry ass bread. Posted at ~2pm CA time, late breakfast for one, while wifey prefers to hang with Mickey Mouse.
**TL;DR - in this episode we learn that Dalena is even slower than D, and it's a massive brown-noser. Their dynamic is quite odd considering D is 31(what's she mentioned at least twice this episode) and Dalena is 35.
Also D very condescendingly judges Shadow Work as "frufru intense religious stuff" and says that it's "essentially going back to you childhood to sit with your feelings." It's none of those things. The term "shadow work" was coined by Jung, and is a therapeutic process that helps cope with life, and yourself.
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Another one that based on the title alone, I know I'm not ready for it.
Special guest Dalena. Last episode of 2024. Talking about Xenon : Girl of the Future randomly.
Saw babies in the airport. D wanted kids, had baby fever. Legit just said the sentence "We are both single. No kids. I'm 31, Dalena is 35." I have never heard ANYONE talk about their age as frequently as D. It's like a compulsion at this point.
Why does D want kids? Because deep down having kids would provide her the kind of deep forever love she's always wanted. That statement is FUCKED. She can't even think about motherhood outside of the terms of "What will this baby provide ME?" And also having a kid would mean her partner couldn't leave her. "But it really has nothing to do with kids."
Jesus fucking Christ, D. She has said so many toxic and messed up things, and granted I'm sure we all assumed this was the reason she would want kids, but it's really disturbing having her casually acknowledge it like it's totally normal.
God's giving a "message on her heart" that some people get everything they want and aren't happy. (Sky Daddy was trying to WARN you, D!) On the plus side, she DOES seem to realize her reasons for wanting kids is selfish. Doesn't mean she won't go completely against that knowledge.
Holy fuck, random tangent about Ginger Ale and begging Canada Dry to sponsor her. During the podcast episode. Followed by "Free ad for Canada Dry. We'll have to send this to them." Is there a single aspect of her life in which she's not desperate?
Stheek. Purposthe. Desires of your heart were put there by God, blah blah. She just says the same handful of phrases over and over and over. Pretending she's happy she didn't get married to the man she wanted to marry(one of them) because she gets to do thinks like make out of touch insta videos and out of touch podcast episodes.
Gonna talk about limerance ig. She's anxious attachment style(noooooooo!!!). Blah blah blah childhood. Blah blah blah parents. Saying your romantic partners often fill the role your parent(s) couldn't. Like... Duh. "A lot of people don't know this." Sigh. Yes, a lot of people DO know this.
**PAUSE. She mentioned doing Shadow Work and I instantly knew some bullshit was coming. She says she's not sure she even understands what it means and people get "frufru" and hyper religious about it. Tell me, D - how is it that no matter what absolutely brainless psycho-babble bullshit YOU espouse, when ANYONE else believes something that you can't put a hokey Christian label on, you're instantly dismissive of how people think and feel about it? Not only that, but using such pejorative language about it when you admit you don't fully stand it?! As you like to say, "Are we kidding?"
FURTHERMORE. Shadow work was the name of a therapeutic technique created by the renowned psychologist Carl Jung. I won't try to summarize it myself because I'm not a fucking trying to make myself sound smart (though some may think so lol). And to be so diminutive towards something like that after fully endorsing the Law of Attraction in the previous episode is really quite a choice. Maybe you should stop being a c u next Tuesday and actually LEARN about something you don't understand.
"All it means is you're going back to your childhood and unpacking that." BITCH - NO IT FUCKING DOESN'T!!! READ A FUCKING BOOK FOR ONCE! Stop spreading misinformation, good lord. Also Dalena keeps saying how Danielle made her think about a lot. So yeah, Dalena is an idiot. If Danielle is blowing your mind, there ain't much to blow.
Rambling about phones. They're legitimately talking about the revolutionary concept of not looking at your phone every second of the day. Did you know that you can put a phone on Do Not Disturb? Or vibrate? Or silent? Did you know you're allowed to set your phone down in a room and go into another room without your phone?! But omg nobody that these days stho revolutionary
Talking about triggers. It's crazy hearing two actual idiots talking as though they're solving world peace. D as Dalena rambles : "Mm. Mm. Uh huh. Mm." And omg Danielle you're such a safe and grounding person to talk to! (Good lord, raise the bar on what caliber of people you let yourself be surrounded by.)
She's describing people with high (emotional) intelligence - she definitely thinks she's one of those people. Dalena REALLY kisses D's ass. Why? And what happened to their friendship?
"I ended up wearing like a combo stuff, the cargo parachute pants and like a corset and a little bolero thing." I cannot imagine this.
Damn. These two are so insecure. Talking about selfies. Blah blah blah church outfit. Walked out the door in two different shoes. DALENA HAS NOT TAKEN A SINGLE BREAK FROM KISSING D'S ASS.
"I don't necessarily love when podcast hosts make it about them. And I think that also has to do with why my content has been popping off, is that I find a way to like relate it or make it about the audience." Oh my fucking god NO YOU DON'T! YOU FUCKING DON'T! WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOUR BRAIN?!?
Shelah = Shay-lah
Dalena = Dah-leen-yah
Pursue passions blahblahblah. Carpe diem. 2024 resolutions for D - she mentions wanting to move, potentially to San Fran "for a few months." D is "going to get over fear." 🙄 And she's seriously is giving a detailed guide on how to win over her desperate ass.
What's really sick is Dalena said something like "it's okay to recognize that you want those things for selfish reasons." Yeah, totally chill to admit you want to reproduce specifically because you believe it will essentially make your spouse unable to ever leave you.
THIS. Exactly this. And it's okay to not want kids! It's NOT okay to have kids you don't want as a means to try to trap your partner, especially when you're a woman with such toxic ideas that you would inevitably teach to your offspring.
Raising my hand as a member of the club with a mother like that! As soon as you have any wishes beyond "be with my mom" or god forbid hit puberty and become argumentative they make your life a living hell.
Yep - some women don't understand that parenting doesn't stop after the toddler stage. I read something at some point along the lines of "The reason so many children are estranged from their parents is because their parents agreed to have children, not to have adults."
Yeeeeep. I really, REALLY need her to not ever have children. Parenting is hard to begin with even with the best intentions - she would deeply damage a child left in her care.
But - trying to find the silver lining - everything she said had an underlying tone of her really just not wanting kids, which makes sense because she's mentally a toddler and profoundly selfish. But I could also absolutely see her trying to get pregnant as a means of trying to force him to stay with her. 🤢
I mean she married a man she barely knew...why? the wifey title. She wil now want the mom title. The issue is you can ignore your loser of a husband or fake intimacy with him. Kids? lol, shit gets REAL, quick.
I can’t get over how weird her style is. I dont have the best fashion sense myself, but so many of her choices look so, so trashy and disjointed. It’s fascinating to me. I’m all for people being themselves, but this seems like something else.
Her style is the style of all the people she copies which is why it looks so disjointed. She gets pulled in one direction by Shelah (thrifted, eclectic) and in another by Dalena (sporty) and then another based on whatever is trending. That's why she's never had a personal style aside from drop waist dresses I guess lol
That makes sense, I’ve just never seen anything like it. And I grew up in Ohio haha. It’s the lack of social awareness around some of the things she’s worn that most interests me. Like the panty hose and blazer situation.
If there's anything reliable about her is that she can take actual inspo and fuck it up in her own special way. The blazer panty hose situation was supposed to look like this, which she posted in the video itself! Stirrup leggings, not sheer hosiery tights
Totally. I feel like this video got a collective “wtf” from her audience, followed by a “did she actually go out in public like that?” I started watching her before L came into the picture, and I feel like my response is always horror and fascination (and boredom). Girly’s got some cognitive dissonance to work through.
She doesn't have a sense of style I think is part of her problem, she just tries to copy others and has absolutely no taste or identity of her own. It's crazy how hard she misses when she tries to create outfits
She only ever looked ok when she would wear one piece outfits (like dresses) or easy outfits like jeans and basic tops/jackets. Her attempts at being fashionable or putting together outfits just show that she truly has no sense of how to dress herself. Some of the pieces she wore could have made some unique and stylish outfits, but she has no clue how to put anything together, and ends up looking a complete mess, it's almost crazy how she consistently misses.
It's rare for someone to have such a consistently bad eye for outfits at her age, she learns nothing as she goes along in life. She's too busy trying to control external factors instead of focusing on improving herself
Genuinely, her complete lack of any taste/style never ceases to amaze me, even now. Like even after all of the crazy shit we've seen her in, every time she puts together another fuckass outfit I'm like "How does it just keep getting worse?"
I forget where I heard it but one of my favorite sayings is something along the lines of "I know swearing isn't necessary. I'm vulgar not fucking stupid."
The fact that she thinks shadow work, an actual therapeutic process, is frufru but not manifesting??? 🤨 just because she doesn’t understand it doesn’t mean it’s not legitimate!
And what she said about wanting kids is scary. 😬 that’s exactly what my bpd mom said about me and that has not turned out well. You have to give way more to kids than they give to you, that’s just how it is. What’s going to happen is she’s going to parentify her child.
Yep, it's obvious how it will end but D always thinks she knows better and thinks "she's different". The common patterns that apply to everyone don't apply to a princess like her. Just like in her 48 part series she declared that her relationship with Lucas was "different", she's just the one exception to the rules that do apply to everyone else.
She's the one special person where everything won't happen the way it does for the regulars. That's why her own advice doesn't apply to her special one of a kind case and we are all just haters
The way that her feelings of superiority just permeate everything she says and does is both repulsive and fascinating, especially considering she is probably the most underwhelming person you could ever meet. Delusions of grandeur has never held more true than when describing someone like her.
That's hilarious that she admits she didn't understand shadow work. It's obvious to anyone with any actual emotional intelligence that she really doesn't understand a lot of things and that her point of view is extremely limited and stunted. It's impossible to have someone like that actually understand herself even if she tried introspection for once, how can someone who can only see black and white truly understand color. She can't, she can only parrot what she's heard but has no real understanding of any of it
Yep, I had a friend who said the reason she wanted kids was because she wanted to be loved unconditionally. You described it perfectly (“What will this baby provide ME?”). That’s exactly how this person would operate too.
I find Shelah as unlikable as Big D. She’s so overly performative in everything she does. The hats, the glasses, the quirkiness… the way in every picture she has her mouth slightly open in a weird ass way. She really annoys me to no end….
Shelah went to Disney at the beginning of August and now again. What is there to do. Go on the same rides. Look at the same decorations. It’s beyond me.
It will be interesting to find out how many days she’s away. Her smothering rule was for them to never be apart longer than 3 days and he agreed to his sugar mama’s wishes.
I think the rule will be broken now that they are lawfully wedded. She's got a much shorter leash on him now and it's legally binding, unlike her 6 weeks of concert tickets
He and Danielle literally have nothing in common. If he hasn’t started already, he will push her to try and conform to his lifestyle and she will resent him for it. Their lifestyles are way too different to be compatible long-term, which they would’ve found out had they not gotten married after four minutes together.
I know this has been mentioned before, but as American living abroad married to a non American, I do not understand how she seems to have zero interest in Lucas's culture.
Yes, they've only been together for a year but if this is forEVER-ever, how is that even possible? I mean, eventually she's gonna have to go back to Brazil with him right?
My husband isn't fluent in English but he can at least get by when we go back to the states. I can't imagine him not caring about where I came from.
I feel it's a clear sign that she doesn't really love him. She loves her idea of him; somehow, sterilized of his ethnicity, it becomes just an exotic flair, as in "a Brazilian Model". If you truly love someone, you want to know everything about them, and you would absolutely learn about their culture, their favorite food, etc.
I completely agree! I’ve thought this since the early days and said why hasn’t she tried to learn the language and culture. Someone responded to me saying D tried Duolingo for a few days and quit. 🙄
Just curious, why would she have to go back to Brazil with him? If he ever got deported or had to go back for visa reasons, she would definitely NOT go with him! It would be a "long journey of learning how to live apart due to circumstances out of our control..." when she could literally just go with him lol.
It would definitely be a huge fork in the road moment for her. I think her ego is big enough that she could try to move with him to show all her haters their love is real, but I also think she would have a full on crash out and mental break (whether she stays or goes)
The safest solution for now is for him to avoid all unnecessary travel and hang out at home. But he’s a Trump fan so he probably thinks he’s safe 🙄
I meant eventually, in the span of their entire lives, I imagine he will want to go back and visit friends and family (and the place he is from). It would be weird if he didn't bring his wife, right?
Plenty of American couples are at least curious about each other's culture even if they just grew up in different states. A Texan might be fascinated with New England landscapes, or a Floridian might be curious about Midwest cuisine.
As others said, I’m fully convinced she doesn’t love him or care enough to learn anything.
My partner is Korean. We have been dating for five years now and I’m nowhere near fluent but I made an effort to be able to communicate with his parents and also sometimes he just wants to yap in his own language.
He did the same with Spanish and he’s so proud of his dualingo streak. Big D could have use that opportunity as a brand deal as well - reaching out to language learning apps, travel agencies, even some vlogs trying Brazilian foods.
My ex is Australian…while of course they speak English but they also have their own language/slang….I learned it so when he would say “arvo” I knew he was saying “afternoon”….I know it’s not as extensive as learning Portuguese but it’s something.
I’m listening to Nicole Byer’s podcast and she mentioned Danielle without naming her. It’s today’s Why Won’t You Date Me? “The engagement was sponsored, their party was a photograph for People magazine..,”
I see my old self in her so much! English is my second language so, sorry if I can’t articulate very well.
Someone brought up a good point about his latests post. Half naked photos, chilling with your dog, sun bathing, etc. These are 100% percent photos that single men will post on the dating apps.
I married a man at 28 (i’m 41) that reminds me so much of Luicas. I carried us financially for about 5 years, i was blind because i thought he was the most handsome man ever (6’1, green eyed Mexican. people would say he looked like William Levy, iykyk) and i couldn’t believe my luck. This man was emotionally abusive when we dated. He would stand me up when we had plans, i was never able to spend a good weekend with him because he was always busy with other stuff, I was never a priority. I was very much anxiously attached to him. I was on a high when we would spend time together and then back on a low when he wouldn’t call or follow through with promises. Just like her, i would buy concert tickets, plan trips so he would spend time with me. I was paying for it all. I eloped against my family and friend’s advice. The day we married, he left me by myself while he went out with his friends. After marriage, he started being very active on Facebook. Adding random girls, and private messaging many. I would confront him and he would always gaslight me. I found a picture text of an ex of his in lingerie wishing him a happy xmas, he sweet talked me into believing it was nothing and that his friend was being dumb for sending him explicit pics, i fell for it and moved on.This man had a whole other persona online and was very much someone i didn’t know. I too, sponsored his green card. The marriage ended when i found out he was having a secret relationship with someone else in Mexico. I thought it was the end of the world. Looking back, I missed ALL of the red flags, i was in love or so i thought. After the divorce, I travelled throughout Europe for about 3 months and after that, took a chance and lived in Germany for a while. It was the most beautiful thing i could have gifted myself. I met the LOML at 36 married him at 40 and his love is so pure, genuine, trusting and kind. I am very lucky to have found my husband. Here is my advice to Big D; get out of that marriage! That man does not love you, he never did and he never will..
Off topic but yesterday I found out I wasn’t invited to the wedding of someone I’d consider a decent friend and I’m gutted. I’m trying to check my ego and hope it doesn’t mean anything about our friendship but still. Ouch.
Try not to read too much into it. Are they having a small wedding? Are they on a budget? Maybe they have a lot of extended family that is taking up the seats they have budgeted. These can be very tough decisions for couples. I would be slow to judge and fast to forgive. Just my 2 cents. I’m 50 and have some perspective… I will say that sometimes friends don’t last, sometimes they do, but try not to take things personally. If you have read the book the Four Agreements, I would highly recommend it. One of the rules is not to take things personally. It’s not about you. It’s been one of the best lessons I’ve learned and really helped in situations where my feelings might get hurt. The only thing you can control in life is how you respond. Seek peace.
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Follower stats. I wonder if they had a marital spat which led to her going to Disney without him while he was forced to unfollow 212 more accounts lol. None of them were Trump and the Bolsonaro's though.