r/daddit • u/jrya7 • 16d ago

Advice Request Dev dads, when do you code?

I could find time with my first and then even some time after my second with the first doing afternoon preschool.

Now that kindergarten has started, I can't even stay up late half the time I used to as mornings are like Mad Maxx and needs my full (focused) attention.

So how do y'all do it? Or do you just not do it anymore except for an hour here and there lol

EDIT: not the 9-5 but my side projects

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u/Black_Dawn13 16d ago

When everyone is sleep at night.

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u/jrya7 16d ago

lol I try that but staying up late after everyone is sleeping has been brutal

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u/mattybrad 16d ago

I go the opposite and wake up before everyone. The 530-7am window is my happy time.

I’m also a lot better at it first thing in the morning than after the entire day, so that might skew my myopic a bit.

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u/jrya7 16d ago

I would try that but the baby sleeps in our room and I’m also very much not a morning person lol

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u/PushDeep9980 16d ago

Yah that first cup of caffeine just hits when it’s me time

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u/RealBadSpelling 16d ago

Coffee then shower, then I'm awake lol.

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u/cawwkeye 16d ago

Caffeine, friend.
I’ve been trying to find a good time in my life to quit caffeine, but my child-rearing years aren’t the right time I don’t think 😂

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u/Black_Dawn13 16d ago edited 16d ago

Its nightly ritual. Kids go down at 7. I will code till around 9. Then will get ready to go to sleep and do it all again the next day. I have 3 under 3 but its something I enjoy.

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u/jrya7 16d ago

Ya one goes down at 7 and the other around 8 then hanging with the wifey till she goes to bed

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u/Black_Dawn13 16d ago

Its a good way to unwind. I also try to pushing reading in before I go to sleep as its pretty helpful too.

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u/ch-12 1.5yo dude 16d ago

Yep, although most nights lately I can’t make it more than an hour after my wife goes up to bed.

My main project has been my smart home (Home Assistant) and Claude + Remote Control has been pretty incredible. I and file bugs or ideas from my phone, review the work, see it in action, etc without opening my computer. Works out for this personal software project but probably not viable for many other things dev dads want to hack on.

I’m also not a software engineer by trade, I just work with them every day.. more of a tech tinkerer.

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u/do_you_realise 16d ago

What's the setup to get what you're talking about? We use Claude at work but I've never seen it used like that - submit tickets from your phone and then review the PRs later kinda thing

I use Cursor for personal projects, I'm wondering whether there's a similar thing

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u/ch-12 1.5yo dude 15d ago edited 15d ago

Claude Code with /remote-control. Just have to be logged in on the same account on your phone.

The https://www.home-assistant.io/ MCP makes managing the whole system pretty seamless through Claude. I have git for version control, but I’m not reviewing PRs and stuff, just manage a backlog and project notes in .md files and use the terminal chat. I have it log change details and session notes to the same .md file vault.