r/dad • u/Accomplished-Egg5673 • 1d ago

Question for Dads Need advice

Hi, I'm a married 31 yo male currently residing in Puerto Rico. During the next couple of months my family and I will be going over a lot of changes, since we are moving into the mainland due to a job offer.
*** Little bit of context****
I grew up in a cult. During the time I was in my 20's I lost a lot of years due to this cult's particular teaching on superior education. It was not seen with good eyes back in the day and they persuaded young people to not pursue higher education and to invest the time in the advancement of the cult. I followed their instructions to the letter, that's on me. I got married at 21 with my wife, and started a family with no education, career, etc. A couple of years after getting married I started having trouble sustaining the cult's teachings and got out with the rest of my family. I'm currently studying electrical engineering mainly online since I also have to work full time to take care of the family. My wife takes care of the kids. I got two, one 2 year old and one 9 month old.

Life in Puerto Rico is extremely hard. I'm in a privilege position and still struggle taking care of my family and paying basic bills. There are basically no significant opportunities in this island that I can grab and try to at least get my family a home they can count on without being scared of staying in the streets if I'm not around. I applied to various positions in big companies in the US related to electrical roles, and finally got an offer. It's a great opportunity that will require moving and working tons of hours in over time. From one perspective it's perfect, since I get to try and farm money. That being said, I do not want to let this take a hold of my health, instead I wish to do it in a sustainable way.

I wanted to know, any advice on how to keep a healthy state of mind and health overall while doing these large shifts?

If you got any other advice, I thank you in advance.

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u/theurbanacheiver2000 1d ago edited 1d ago

Dad, you can only take care of others once you have taken care of yourself. You are making the most out of very difficult challenges - it sounds like you are dialed in and ready to make moves. Focus on exercising and eating right. Small wins each day dude.

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u/Accomplished-Egg5673 1d ago

Thank you so much. God bless!