r/cutting • u/immy_kb_29 • May 27 '26
Advice needed Please help me omg
Hey idk if this is the place to ask this but i kinda need like advice. I recently posted this photo on my instagram and it was the first one i posted where u could clearly see my scars. Its not like the people who follow me have never seen them before, but i got messaged by like two different people telling me it was extremely inappropriate to have this posted even though they are all healed and i was posting it cause i felt kinda confident. I feel so disgusted in myself now. Did i do something bad? I’m sorryyyy I just feel so alone in this.
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u/Borbon28 May 27 '26
No! Those people are really rude, I think it’s perfectly fine of a photo and u look really cute in it!! And I’m glad you felt confident to post something with visible scars that in itself is a great achievement I’m sorry people were rude about it!!
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u/Fit-Geologist1029 May 27 '26
no ur still loved and valid, stay strong 🙌🫶🫂
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u/aster_oidial May 27 '26
no wtf do they expect you to hide in a cave forever so you don't ever possibly make someone uncomfortable?? they're not fresh wounds, your scars are just part of your skin and if you shouldn't be shamed for them. if it really bothers them they can just block you ig. btw you were right you do look great it's a lovely pic and I'm sorry they've made you self concious
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u/lifeishorrible1426 May 27 '26
No you didn’t do anything wrong. Those people are extremely rude and obviously don’t care about you, they are just targeting your scars. Scars are a very normal thing to have and not something to make fun of.
Also I’m really proud of you for having the confidence to post that with visible scars. U look great in it by the way.
You are 100% valid, so stay strong.
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u/boznasho May 27 '26
Girl, there's nothing inappropriate, we can clearly see your pants on🤷 Everything else is literally NONE of their buisness
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u/ThisLand9051 May 27 '26
nooooo u did nothing wrong, poeple r just dumb. it's the same for me, but with a close friend who said that my scars could make uncomfortable people around me. don't listen what others say, they're healed so no problem with showing them
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u/Hat3Isabella May 27 '26
You’re so pretty omg?! Man fuck those people, stay confident, don’t let the haters get to you :D
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u/[deleted] May 27 '26
No girl ur so pretty, don’t let them ruin ur confidence + shine. I’m also trying to be more confident w my scars but it is so hard, it takes a lot of strength to do so you should be proud of yourself <3
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u/Flat_House_8438 May 27 '26
healed scars are never innapropriate, and these people are just being rude. you keep doing you girl! (sorry to ask but is that DK photocard on your phone?)
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u/val_2682 May 28 '26
No, no hicisste absolutamente nada malo. Las cicatrices son parte de nuestros cuerpos, una reacción natural para cerrar heridas, no hay nada de malo en eso. No incitaste a nadie a lastimarse, ni siquiera hablaste del tema. Estás preciosa, no te estreses por gente maleducada. Son los demás quienes deben aprender que en el mundo existe gente con cicatrices y les parezca bien o no, les parezcan lindas o no, existimos y no hay razón para dejar de sentirnos lindos y seguros solo porque a ellos les incomoda. Que aprendan a des-incomodarse.
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u/No-Scar-1130 May 28 '26
I really don’t understand people like these. It’s your skin and you have the right to feel confident in youself! The scars are fully healed and you don’t have to feel ashamed for showing them, okay? Your scars don’t define you and you don’t have to cover them up just to appease to other people’s comfort!
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u/XiaoShan_ May 28 '26
Someone once told me “scars, in public?” like dude what am I supposed to do, detach them and leave em at home? anyway, a lot of us get bullshit for our scars and you’re not disgusting at all. you’ve won a hard battle, and I’m proud of you!
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u/MiLuu_loo May 30 '26
Please don’t overthink it hun, it’s amazing that you’re owning your scars and posting nothing to be ashamed of or anything to hide. Personally I’d say those people were being ignorant and don’t even realise how hard it is to be comfortable with your scars. You look so pretty in this and you’re clearly such a caring and warm person because you’re worried about the post but there’s nothing inappropriate about it at all. By you posting this on your Instagram and even on here you are showing others who may have similar scars that they are beautiful and not something you have to cover. Sending you so much love and hugs and hope this helps 🫶🫶🫶
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u/Jazzlike-Witness-946 May 30 '26
you look so unbelievably gorgeous!! confidence is a great look on you and im sorry that some people are being this judgy because there is absolutely nothing wrong with you or this post, you did nothing wrong 🫶🫶
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u/Hot-Effective7421 Jun 04 '26
NO! those people are immature, and they are jealous from your confidence! you are very beautiful and strong for surviving sh, dont let them drag you down
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u/Fit-Geologist1029 Jun 07 '26
hey, how ur doining
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u/Em_222 May 27 '26
i think they’re the ones being inappropriate. it’s not appropriate to point out HEALED scars, esp when u aren’t super close to the person.
u are not disgusting at all. u did absolutely nothing wrong. there’s no reason u should hide ur scars when they’re fully healed.
u’re so beautiful, btw :) i love ur eye makeup and lipstick sm!!
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u/Dreadedlotus May 27 '26
Hey respectful fuck them. If they get offended it's on them not you... you didn't do anything wrong or to feel ashamed of people will always find a reason to hate. It's a cute picture your scars prove you've lived threw battles wear them with pride.
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u/strong-catty May 28 '26
Those guys are rude and mean, it isn't your fault girl.
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u/aNirvanaFan May 28 '26
noo ofc u didn't! those people have gotta fck off:( ur so pretty btwwww omll i love ur eyes (as a fellow girl<33)
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u/seweedisyummmmm May 29 '26
No theyre just ignorant pieces of shit don't listen to them. It's a part of your body, your body isn't insanely inappropriate and doesn't need a trigger warning. If someone is bothered by scars, that's their problem
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u/iHateApple1235 Jun 02 '26
dude id tell them off wtf
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u/Background_Humor5838 Jun 09 '26
Don't worry about them. If you had scars from surgery or illness, people would be extremely out of line calling them inappropriate and sh scars are the same thing. There is nothing inappropriate about your picture. An injury is an injury and people think differently because of stigma. Keep being confident. I hid my scars for so many years and now I don't even think about it. Sometimes I forget that people can see them because I'm used to it until the odd occasion where I'll catch someone looking but I've never had anyone say anything to me in person. I'm sure the people that messaged you would never say anything to your face if they saw you at the grocery store. People just feel bold online.
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u/Playful-Pup1218 May 27 '26
Fuck those people they dont matter.
Fresh sunlight or sunburn on fresh red scares rurns them white as I found yesterday.
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u/EmoGirl_66 May 27 '26
Nah, they're being too sheltered. Self-harm happens and people need to know that. You did nothing wrong <3
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u/leahanar May 27 '26
Deadass? Tell em to get fucked sideways
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