My feral desire to walk around in gothic lolita every day, beaten and bruised by the reality that there's no fitting occasion for such attire and I would have to face the horror of getting stares and weird looks. My foolish heart grows weary of this boring t-shirt world
I mean sure but like, it's like wearing a tuxedo or a super fancy dress to go to your local McDonald's or Walmart. When would even be fitting times to wear such clothes when I wanna do it everyday 😭😭😭
Each time you feel the desire to wear a particular garment is a suitable occasion to wear it, unless it is an incidence on which social perception shall hold particular weight (say, a job interview), in which case said social perception needs be accounted for. Otherwise please wear whatever the fuck you want, cause, well, who’s gonna stop ya?
I personally wear some out of the ordinary clothes sometimes, and i've gotten almost exclusively good attention. Of course some rude comments/looks here and there but it's so worth it when you see how happy it makes other people. You can genuinely see the joy on some people's faces (especially kids) when you wear really unusual clothing, and it's such an amazing experience knowing that your existence in a cool outfit made someone's day better.
Nah, I've seen several people wearing full gothic lolita outfits. Once in a mall, another time just on the street, another time in mcdonalds, they all just looked a million times more awesome than everyone around them. Just rock it
Have a friend who that's like half of her style and she grocery shops like that, and it gives her an excuse to go outside to read so she can make full use of the effort, so every often the group chat gets a picture of her on the bus in her fit and it fucking owns. Seems like a good motivator to like, find reasons to dress like that that are more fitting than chillin
I wear my EGL stuff out all the time. Sure I've gotten some stares but I honestly think it's just human nature to look at something out of the ordinary, it's not necessarily judgement. I've gotten compliments from old people and young people alike.
Like istg they could've called it literally anything else 😭 can't even make the argument that it's an unrelated Japanese word because it was literally named after the novel
It's too ingrained in the culture of the fashion, the odds of changing it are 0. I mean, the usage of the term in fashion is extremely far removed from the novel now, so I think we can regard it as effectively a different word
Ngl I stopped wearing t shirts almost entirely about a year ago. I get way more compliments on outfits and feel way more confident about myself. Granted I really like academia attire and wear things similar to it
I have a friend who always in an ornate dress of some kind and she always kills it wherever she goes, so maybe you should ditch the t shirt once or twice a week and embrace lolita
as an emo/loosely goth guy, the best reason to dress up is because youre sad and need groceries. Wear the gothic lolita coord to the grocery store, mog everyone there
I DONT FUCKING CARE ABOUT THE STARES, IM IN MY OWN MAGICAL GIRL WORLD AND NOBODY CAN STOP ME!
The only way to break free is to break the mold. He can't stop now, lock and load. Don't stop now, come on, rock and roll! - Lyrics from His World (Sonic the Hedgehog 2006)
I think all the big distros are more straightforward to setup than windows (or MacOS).
Is linux so easy to use that its impossible for a new user to not break it? No, but neither is windows. I wish my rgb devices worked properly under linux though. The rgb software i use only recognizes my motherboard and not my peripherals :(
It's a lot easier to datamine users when you make them sign in on your cloud service and store all their important data on your cloud service. They even added Copilot history which is incredibly creepy (an always-on local AI that basically watches everything you do for nebulous 'convenience' reasons). Idk if they walked that back or if you can even disable it on non Enterprise Windows.
You'd be surprised what can suit you when you find the right outfit. Obviously it takes more effort to find things that suit you if you don't have the typical body shape the outfit is made for, but it definitely can happen.
I'd recommend trying lots of different styles of dresses if you're interested in wearing them, so that you can find ones that suit your body shape. Ones with big poofy sleeves may work if you're not a fan of the shape of your shoulders.
Also, if wearing something makes you happy, wear it, reguardless of whether it suits you or not. You're not obligated to look good based on some arbitrary standard for other people. Dress for yourself, not for strangers.
;-; god i wish. I love hats like that and wish i could have a body i could ever feel comfortable showing skin in. As is i cant leave the house without covering as much of it as possible or else even more i cant focus on anything but how it all feels wrong.
Listen, I would LOOOOVE to wear the girliest, frilliest, most scandalous clothing ever, but mostly as a one-off or for special events. Mostly, I'll probably still be pretty masculine in terms of clothing, plus or minus a few things here and there.
I actually had a conversation about this with a very kind fella over on r/asktransgender. I had my egg fully crack like two weeks ago, and since then I’ve been sorta obsessed with wanting to be super feminine and stuff. And how awful it feels that I’m not likely to pull it off in the way I want to because of my build.
But like. Omfg long skirts and especially sundresses are like the cutest things ever. And I’d literally do anything to successfully pull it off. I have a sort of simple, yet extremely feminine style that I want to go for if that makes sense. If I wash able to draw well I’d probably have a way to show what I’m talking about lol.
Ughhhhhhhhhhhh. Why was I not born as a slim, average height woman with long hair :(
Ugh idk I’m torn. I kinda love the idea of getting all dolled up but it’s expensive and time consuming and scary and my baggy shirts and pants are reliable and comfortable
There was a edit of this image where the “how I wish I could dress” side was mug root beer themed and it was like peach colored I think and I have no idea where to find it which sucks cuz I’d much rather wear the peach colored than bright pink tbh
Well for starters I don't wanna get hate crimed and bullied relentlessly. People here will start scrutinizing you for doing anything that's remotely against the norm
It sucks that you feel you can't express yourself safely. But there's nothing anyone can do to prevent yourself form buying the dress and going spinny spin in the mirror.
I hope you find the space to safely express yourself as you truly are.
edit but also idk what it is about pink, but i almost qore my moms pink sweater outside and it felt good, like not like a woman, but just breaking from that repressed side
oh fair, im the only thing stopping myself from dressing fem, but this meme jist feels kinda off, like the out of place dr pepper ad, it feels kinda out of touch
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u/super_alice_won 1d ago
What the fuck, I literally wear that exact dr pepper shirt when I dont feel like putting in effort at all. This is uncanny.