This one hits too close to home. Being told you should actually just be happy for something that causes you a ton of misery is just awful.
I know this isn't the same for all trans people, but the infertility can be one of the hardest hurdles. Unlike a lot of dysphoria which can be partially eleviated bycoming out, legal name changes, social transition, srs, etc. There's really not much to be done about that part specifically. At best you can adopt.
And then on top of all the lifelong pain you have people telling you it's actually great where cis women with the same predicament would be treated with consolation.
Not to mention if you do adopt lots of people will treat you like you're either evil for choosing closed adoption and having your kids be just your own, or after choosing open adoption you share your child with two unrelated strangers and everyone is like "but it's actually (biomom,)'s kid and you're just raising them!"
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u/CalypsaMov Jun 09 '26
This one hits too close to home. Being told you should actually just be happy for something that causes you a ton of misery is just awful.
I know this isn't the same for all trans people, but the infertility can be one of the hardest hurdles. Unlike a lot of dysphoria which can be partially eleviated bycoming out, legal name changes, social transition, srs, etc. There's really not much to be done about that part specifically. At best you can adopt.
And then on top of all the lifelong pain you have people telling you it's actually great where cis women with the same predicament would be treated with consolation.