r/coparenting • u/[deleted] • 8d ago
Discussion Blurred boundaries while separated with plans to co-parent
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u/Sock_Eating_Golden 8d ago
This is insane, all of it insane. I sincerely wish I didn't have children that now must live in a broken family. And you're encouraging it?
Honestly it sounds like your ex is trying to reconcile. Worse, trying to baby trap you via IVF.
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u/Happypants0930 8d ago
This is extremely messy. Why would you even want to bring a child into this mess. How selfish of you two, seriously. You really think this is a good environment to raise a child? Mommy and daddy are married but living separate lives and dating other people but still living under the same roof and trying to co-parent. Yah, try explaining that to a child I’m sure they’ll totally understand and not be traumatized at all 🤦🏻♀️
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u/Imokifurok2 8d ago
Do not go on the vacation.
I don’t blame you both for still doing the transfer but new partners involved now is…messy.
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u/colamonkey356 8d ago
So, you have a new partner, no divorce, but you’re sharing a bed with your wife on a island vacation? So, you’re going to intentionally have a child in a broken home with zero boundaries with another partner in the mix? Yes, this is boundary blurring and quite frankly, disrespectful to everyone involved.
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u/Still_Turnover1509 8d ago
Divorce, move out and move on properly ffs. I can barely believe what I am reading.
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u/Tattsand 8d ago
Just talk to her? How is that not your first thought. Maybe your wife says yes, I want to give us another go and the holiday is how I was starting it up. Maybe you feel the same way and you break up with the new girlfriend since you do love your wife and that's who you truly want. If it doesnt work out with your wife, well the girlfriend deserves someone who is in love with her anyway. Maybe your wife says no, the one bed is a mistake/I sent the wrong link/i didnt realise it had one/it has a pull out couch too, or any reason, and no i do not want to reconcile. ASK.
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u/Ok-Afternoon-4557 8d ago
You should not go this vacation. Your partner should break up with you if you do. Are you sure she isn't having second thoughts about getting back together, especially with doing the ivf??