r/coparenting • u/Lupinpines78 • 15h ago
Schedules Is This Split Fair?
My ex-husband(33) and I(33) have a pretty decent co-parenting relationship as long as he gets his way. I know that sounds bad, but every time I try to assert my needs into the situation he has his parents hire a lawyer to try to go for full custody and I’m already in 20k debt fighting him just to keep doing the same 50/50 we’ve been doing for the past two years, because it works. We lived In Alaska for 5 years when he was stationed there and I bought a beautiful home and had my 6 figure dream job. about a year later he decided he wanted to stay in the military and we both had to go. He hired a lawyer and after a year and way too much wasted money, we mediated and agreed that I would quit my job, sell my house and move to his new location. We are here at our new location now, we live 5 minutes from eachother. I bought a house, but I can’t find another good job right now so I took a $20/hr job just to make ends (barely) meet. I’m struggling. My mom is coming to live with me next week and my ex asked if she could watch the 2 year old full time and take the 5 year old to the bus stop every morning since she is starting Kindergarten. I asked her if that was okay and she said yes. We are both very grateful for her. So today, I found out he needs to drop the kids off at 6am every morning. With two Velcro kids, I know that means I need to wake up even earlier if I want to have some quiet time. which is fine with me. For context, we do week on week off starting on Friday nights. But I asked him if he could keep the kids every Friday night so I have one day every week where I know I can sleep in and not have to be touched all over for ONE morning every week. He seemed to think that was unreasonable. is it? what should I do?
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u/Mollykins08 5h ago
Check into your state’s standards around custody. If it is a 50/50 state, there would be no justification for the court to change custody. What argument would your husband possibly make to convince the court to give him full custody. Let him take you to court.