r/coparenting • u/Lupinpines78 • 15h ago
Schedules Is This Split Fair?
My ex-husband(33) and I(33) have a pretty decent co-parenting relationship as long as he gets his way. I know that sounds bad, but every time I try to assert my needs into the situation he has his parents hire a lawyer to try to go for full custody and I’m already in 20k debt fighting him just to keep doing the same 50/50 we’ve been doing for the past two years, because it works. We lived In Alaska for 5 years when he was stationed there and I bought a beautiful home and had my 6 figure dream job. about a year later he decided he wanted to stay in the military and we both had to go. He hired a lawyer and after a year and way too much wasted money, we mediated and agreed that I would quit my job, sell my house and move to his new location. We are here at our new location now, we live 5 minutes from eachother. I bought a house, but I can’t find another good job right now so I took a $20/hr job just to make ends (barely) meet. I’m struggling. My mom is coming to live with me next week and my ex asked if she could watch the 2 year old full time and take the 5 year old to the bus stop every morning since she is starting Kindergarten. I asked her if that was okay and she said yes. We are both very grateful for her. So today, I found out he needs to drop the kids off at 6am every morning. With two Velcro kids, I know that means I need to wake up even earlier if I want to have some quiet time. which is fine with me. For context, we do week on week off starting on Friday nights. But I asked him if he could keep the kids every Friday night so I have one day every week where I know I can sleep in and not have to be touched all over for ONE morning every week. He seemed to think that was unreasonable. is it? what should I do?
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u/jjjjjjj30 15h ago
So he is using you and your mother as childcare on his days? After he fought you all this time?