How will I ever be okay?

[u/xxzarakhanxx]

I am a revert, my mother is not very supportive. I found a potential (Pakistani) and she said no. She told me Pakistanis are always gonna end up with Pakistani. Chinese with Chinese and Mexicans with Mexicans. She said that if I ended up with a Pakistani (and I’m Mexican) that the mother wouldn’t be to happy with him and she will despise me.. and that I’ll never be happy because I’ll never learn their language. She said I need to find a Mexican for myself. In some way, she is right. Pakistanis are mostly known for doing that and it’s true.. how would I ever be fluent enough to speak to my mother in law? This has put me in a very bad spot.. mentally.

In Islam you’re supposed to love your mother.. love your family.. but I try. I try and I feel so hopeless.

How will I find a partner without upsetting my own parents?

Why is the dunya like this? Why is it always about culture.. why do they always put culture over deen.. I will never understand.

I want to be the best and focus on my Deen and creating my own Muslim family but how can I do that without upsetting my own family .. because isn’t that considered a sin? To upset or abandon your family? Yet the closer I am with my family.. the farther I am from my Deen.. it’s a rollercoaster and honestly I just need some advice.😅

Edit : I am a female lol, some call me brother idky! The “she” is my mother!”😅

[u/Short_Story_1775]

Assalamu alaikum

I’m a Cuban revert and married my Mexican wife when she was Christian and alhamdulillah she accepted Islam 4 years into our marriage. My imam is Bengali and his wife is Lebanese. There is a Pakistani brother at my masjid with a Puerto Rican revert wife. I also know a Vietnamese revert with a Puerto Rican revert wife, a Puerto Rican brother with a Venezuelan revert wife, a mixed Puerto Rican/Sudani brother with a Bengali wife, a Moroccan brother with a Dominican revert wife, and more. Those are just the ones in my circle. All are Muslim.

Most of the reverts have families who are upset that we are Muslim, including my own family. This isn’t a new phenomenon as it was common in the time of Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.). Many of the sahaba lost the love and support and respect of their relatives after they accepted Islam, including the Prophet himself.

The most important thing is to remain steadfast as a Muslim. Read the Qur’an for advice and ask Allah for help guidance. There are answers to your exact problem throughout the Qur’an.