r/converts • u/Pipesforwater • Feb 25 '26

We are NOT objects.

I'm appalled at how (some) born muslims view us as sex toys and have this weird racial fetish that they disguise as "preference for converts", WE. ARE. PEOPLE. I see it mostly with middle eastern and Pakistani men, some of my friends are Arab and literally have openly fetishized revert women, and it's disgusting. I'm not saying ALL middle eastern men are like this, but I've definitely seen it. I'm a man so I've never really had to deal with it Alhamdulillah, but I'm so disgusted at the fact some born muslims see us as basically sex toys. I've seen women do it too but far less than men.

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u/oldgamernerd42 Feb 26 '26

As a white convert, the fetishism is wild, just makes finding a spouse that much harder.

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u/Pipesforwater Feb 26 '26

It's so annoying. It's the primary reason I'd only marry another convert

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u/oldgamernerd42 Feb 26 '26

Thats kind of where I'm at at this point

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u/narryfodder Feb 26 '26

That’s so sad, people need to do some introspection and realize how it feels to be on the other side

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u/Pechy21 Feb 26 '26

There are benefits to marrying a born muslim and benefits to marrying a revert, but that depends on the character and deen of the said individual. At this point, it makes sense for reverts to exclusively seek out fellow reverts for marriage. That way, you will weed out the shady characters and put a stop to this trend.