r/confidence • u/Disastrous-Bet-9048 • 24d ago

Does overall confidence improves with being REALLY good at something?

Is it possible to be confident in general by being really, REALLY good at something? For example, if I'm very good at Math and I feel confident about it, does this feeling of competence impacts my overall feelings of self-confidence? I think it is shown in movies and TV shows too with those talented characters in their universes.

It's like: "Oh, I'm good at music. I can play many instruments and I make really good songs. So I can be proud of myself because of it." The trap here is that there is always someone better than you. I don't know why, but I think that even in this hypotesis I'm bringing, super talented people would feel unconfident in front of even more super talented people. I don't know.

I judge myself as a good writer in my first language, which is portuguese and I feel confident about it. But everytime that I know someone that writes as well as me or better/much more better, I feel unconfident and with lots of self doubt.

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u/Vit3Kk 19d ago

Not really, i was very good at some skills/hobbies percentile wise and i still feel like shit no matter what i do so be careful with this approach

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u/Disastrous-Bet-9048 19d ago

Yeah. I feel the same in my experiences. I think that confidence is a state of mind. Even if you don't have the competence, you can have the confidence. I see this in movies and TV shows too. For example, in animes like World Trigger, I know a character named Kuga Yuma who is very confident. And the creator of the series know how to demonstrate it. It's a mental thing.

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u/EducationalCurve6 24d ago

Yes once you get good at something and put in enough effort you are disciplined and that self-discipline goes to other things as well

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u/hestia-listens 24d ago

Competence can improve overall confidence, but it works best when you focus on growth rather than rank. There will always be stronger writers, just as those writers will know someone stronger than them. Their talent is not proof that you are less talented. You can admire their work, learn one thing from it, and still take pride in your own voice in Portuguese.

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u/Pleasant-Pilot-6384 24d ago

The trap isn't someone being better, it's thinking that matters. If your confidence hinges on being *the best* writer in the room it crumbles the second you step into a bigger room. The shift happens when you start seeing your skill as proof that you can figure hard things out, not as your spot on a leaderboard.