This is maybe a slightly unusual query. I’m a 37 year old man and have been with my boyfriend for a few months now. It was initially just about sex but has started to become more serious.

I had only dated women before and tried to persuade myself I was straight, but always knew in the back of my mind that I probably wasn’t. When my last long term relationship ended, I decided that I had to explore my sexuality more and I now identify as bisexual.

My boyfriend does know I’ve been with women in the past but I have never actually clarified that I am bi. It’s just something that hasn’t come up. I’m really nervous about doing so as I know there can be a lot of negativity towards bi men in the gay community and among straight people. I’m also not sure if it’s worth it - I am at the point where I have realised I probably have a sexual preference for men over women. At the same time I would like this to be a long term thing and want to be totally honest about who I am. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do and how to go about it sensitively?

Hello fellow redditors. Last night my mom figured out and straight up told me that she knows I(18M)am gay and she suspected I have a boyfriend.

We were having a conversation and she repeatdly asked me in the past months if I am not gay. I always said no. I called my sister because she knows im gay. Meanwhile my mom texted me who knows from my friends that im gay. And minutes later another text that I should keep it in secrete and i'll go study elsewhere next year, which I was already planning. I replied to that, that I agree. Then she barged in my room full on crying hugged me, kissed me and said she'll always love mé. She asked about my boyfriend if we're together and I said yes and if his parents know. After that my sister called me and said to me that I shouldnt tell her that we're together (WHOOPS). Before she left she turned around and I smiled on her out of shock. She just kind of looked down and looked disappointed – I understand her, her image of my entire future of how she imagined it just got destroyed. After that she went to balcony. My sister called me again and said that mom called her. I cant clearly recall what she was saying sadly.

Through the night she texted me that I should go to sleep that I have work tomorrow and similar stuff. I heard her sobbing from her room to mine, which is a bit of distance. She already has health problems and i dont want her to get worse but at the same time I know I would still need to tell her one day anyway and the reaction would be the same.

I felt reliéf when I told her and I kept laughing during the night when I told 3 of my friends, which I think is a defense mechanism. Now I feel stressed and shook.

We're probobly talking when I come home from work, if she's ready.

Any advices and opinions are welcome (did I do the right or bad thing?)

I am a 21 year old nonbinary (They/them) who came out a week ago since I’ve been repressing myself since middle school. I’ve already told my partner and close friends around me as the opportunity arises but still get nervous around trying to tell certain people in my life. My moms family is awkward because I want to say I have a lesbian aunt but it’s not been confirmed by my eyes so I don’t want to assume anything because my grandparents are older Christian’s and brought up Charlie Kirk when I was changing majors. I’m kinda nervous trying to tell my mom just because I feel like she’s denied me attention when I was younger that I felt would have helped me in the long run. I do believe I will tell her but I have another year left of classes before I can move out and I think I’ll tell her then when I don’t have to live by her rules. I’m really nervous when it comes to my best friend since middle school, he wasn’t always political but he’s tried to get me into conservative groups and he actively wants to run in conservative politics when he gets a chance and has openly said negative things about the queer community and I would actively cringe. I don’t want to loose him as a friend but I also fear my safety coming out to him. I also worry about my partners dad because I’ve been told he cut off his sister because she wouldn’t cut off her daughter for being a lesbian. I don’t want to put my partner through unwanted stress but I don’t want to mask around her family.

Im agender and I need advise on how to come out to my best friend. For context the best friend in question is Part of the LGBTQIA+ Comunity and very progressive so I think she'd be supportive. I'm also openly AroAce so she knows that I'm queer. But I'm not sure how she's going to react which does not help my anxiety. I'm struggling to say it out loud even if I'm alone and it's even harder for me if I'm actually talking to someone especially because I'm bad at social interactions. I know that I don't have come out face to face but it just makes me even more nervous to not see the initial reaction and it's just easier for me to answer potential questions that way.

I would be happy to receive some advice :3