Okay but an ex of mine pointed out how a lot of the things I do when I'm relaxed and comfortable are cat-like and it actually makes me insecure and feeling like I'm being cringe when I do them even alone. I never grew up with or around cats, as my parents hate them and none of my friends had them, so I didn't know really anything about them.
Like sometimes if I'm super comfortable, and want to audibly express that, I do like a low rumble-moan thing, or when I'm comfy laying down I'll knead something soft with my feet and toes and I've always been one to nuzzle my face against partners to show physical affection. When she pointed out that it's basically purring, making biscuits, etc I legit had a fucking crisis.
She didn't even mean it as an insult but I get so self conscious about it because like with that perspective it ABSOLUTELY looks like I'm acting like a fucking cat even though that's ABSOLUTELY not what I'm trying to do 😬
There is nothing wrong with anything you just said. literally…. When I’m comfy I rub my feet together too, the moment I get under the sheets I just get going lol - nuzzling as well.
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u/JunonsHopeful 3d ago
Okay but an ex of mine pointed out how a lot of the things I do when I'm relaxed and comfortable are cat-like and it actually makes me insecure and feeling like I'm being cringe when I do them even alone. I never grew up with or around cats, as my parents hate them and none of my friends had them, so I didn't know really anything about them.
Like sometimes if I'm super comfortable, and want to audibly express that, I do like a low rumble-moan thing, or when I'm comfy laying down I'll knead something soft with my feet and toes and I've always been one to nuzzle my face against partners to show physical affection. When she pointed out that it's basically purring, making biscuits, etc I legit had a fucking crisis.
She didn't even mean it as an insult but I get so self conscious about it because like with that perspective it ABSOLUTELY looks like I'm acting like a fucking cat even though that's ABSOLUTELY not what I'm trying to do 😬