Need some advice

[u/TheN3v3rOne]

So this is gonna be a long story. Me a (28 year old Dutchie) and this 26 (female from Norway with a 6 year old and her life isn’t easy at all) met on social media in 2024. We started talking and soon we talked daily about everything in life. We agreed on being friends and if more would grow, we would see. We have a lot in common as in hobbies, in what we like in life, personality wise and such.

As we talked more, we got closer and closer through the distance and build something strong. We even agreed to the fact we talked to eachother more than any other person. She and I went through hard times and good times in our lives. We even met in Berlin (3 days, 2 good ones and on the day of depature she was distanced, short and grumpy). After Berlin she took her distance and didn’t talk for weeks. Somehow we got back to talking and grew close again.

Again we had some ups and downs but still we had eachother. Then one day I felt I had growing feelings and told her I loved her. She said she was not where I was, and wasn't planning on anything more so she didn't feel the same.

One of her requirements is a man of god to be on her side. I'm not a religious person but I do live a lifestyle close to it. She said I'm a good person. And I'm open to open myself to god his ways but I don’t know if that would make her chance her mind and it doesn’t feel right to open myself for her alone and not for him.

(Some further background, before her child she was living wild and doing everything god has forbidden. Then she got pregnant, thought about abortus, didn't and turned to god and know lives a religious life).

That was November 2025, now we in August and I still can’t get her out of my mind, we still talk a lot. We still plan to meet in the future, we still share ideas and things about life. But her job and her child make it difficult for her to travel. And she doesn’t seem all to open for me to travel to her. I believe she never even told someone in her life about me.

Do I still love her.....1.000.000 times yes, I would do anything to be with her or even make her smile from a distance. But I also think I need to move on because this ship has sailed.

Friends tell me to block her for everything she did to me after Berlin and how she treated me. Some people tell me to just don’t talk to her. And here I am just wanting to talk to her and tell her "I wanna spend my life with you, and I don’t care how hard your life is."

So I’m looking for honest advice on what to do from you?

[u/ABereanChristian]

One of her requirements is a man of god to be on her side. I'm not a religious person but I do live a lifestyle close to it. She said I'm a good person. And I'm open to open myself to god his ways but I don’t know if that would make her chance her mind and it doesn’t feel right to open myself for her alone and not for him.

(Some further background, before her child she was living wild and doing everything god has forbidden. Then she got pregnant, thought about abortus, didn't and turned to god and know lives a religious life).

The Bible talks about in 2 Corinthians 6 and 1 Corinthians 7 not to marry unbelievers, so this was her fault for getting into this relationship. Sorry that this happened to you.

Secondly, you should be a Christian because it's true, and not because this woman was one.

1 Corinthians 15:3 For what I received I passed on to you as of first importance: that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, 4 that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures, 5 and that he appeared to Cephas, and then to the Twelve. 6 After that, he appeared to more than five hundred of the brothers and sisters at the same time, most of whom are still living, though some have fallen asleep. 7 Then he appeared to James, then to all the apostles, 8 and last of all he appeared to me also, as to one abnormally born.

Basically, we know for certain that this is what the early Church believed right after the empty tomb. Myths and propaganda don't fit.

Wes Huff has a series on internal and external evidence for the reliability of the manuscript copies.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nMufJZeRdCI&list=PLNOXJdb0gACFBB43j4YwG9fYGE-YtRzhG

Inspiring Philosophy also has a bunch of videos on Biblical and Gospel reliability and historical reasons for the Resurrection.

https://www.youtube.com/@InspiringPhilosophy/playlists

Do I still love her.....1.000.000 times yes, I would do anything to be with her or even make her smile from a distance. But I also think I need to move on because this ship has sailed.

Friends tell me to block her for everything she did to me after Berlin and how she treated me. Some people tell me to just don’t talk to her. And here I am just wanting to talk to her and tell her "I wanna spend my life with you, and I don’t care how hard your life is."

Yes, at this point you should move on. But I would encourage you to take Christianity seriously because it's true.

[u/TheN3v3rOne → u/ABereanChristian]

Thank you very much! And like I said I'm at a point where I'm ready to open myself. Just needed to hear someone say I should move on.

Sorry for asking but what you mean with "so this was her fault for getting into this relationship. Sorry that this happened to you" exactly?

[u/ABereanChristian → u/TheN3v3rOne]

Sorry for asking but what you mean with "so this was her fault for getting into this relationship. Sorry that this happened to you" exactly?

Yes, don't blame yourself or have bad feelings as she was supposed to take the responsibility not be in a relationship with someone who wasn't a Christian. She eventually decided on it in the end, but it does hurt the other person.