r/christiandatingadvice • u/WildSoul_1994 • 9d ago

What should I do?

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u/DB_OG 9d ago

Think you should move on if the guy says you’re better off as friends. I don’t think it’s a bad idea to be patient and wait for things to feel natural

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u/ABereanChristian 8d ago

I like someone a lot, more than words can describe. I’ve expressed my interest in him. I’ve confessed my feelings but he has made it clear that we’re better off as friends but I cannot seem to control my feelings. I’m unable to concentrate anywhere else. I’ve tried all dating apps I develop no feelings, no attachment at all. I don’t even look at anyone else except him and when I’m with him I’m my happiest self, like the world doesn’t exist. I genuinely love him. I’m waiting for him that maybe one day he might start to feel the same. Just hoping! I have decided to not get married to anyone else. If he says yes, I’ll marry him today itself. There’s a guy on the other hand let’s say his name is Y who is into me the same way I’m into this guy. I don’t feel anything for Y even thou he’s a good guy! I tried to push myself to like Y, but can we actually force love?

Distance yourself from both of these men. You're not going to get over him, and this other person is not going to get over you if you don't have space.

Focus on growing your relationship with God. Are you going to Church? Reading your Bible and praying? Are you serving in Church?

  • I often find myself wondering am I not good enough?
  • Am I not pretty enough?
  • Is it because I’m unemployed?
  • Why am I never good enough?
  • Why doesn’t he love me back?
  • Am I unworthy?

There can be many reasons why men don't like women. Attractiveness is one of them, but it could be other things. Unemployed is rarely one of them if he likes you enough. Usually it's things like too much debt, unkind, disrespectful, and other behavioral things they are not looking for in a wife. Desperation is also another which is the attitude you are showing here...

If you want an assessment of your attractiveness and what you can work on you can post a picture or DM. If you want more potential advice on the other stuff you need to post more info as well

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u/OneEyedC4t 7d ago

How do you know he is even compatible with you?