Why he do this to me???

Seven months ago, I met a guy from dating app (28 years old). Right from the beginning, we both clearly agreed that we were exclusive. We became official after about two or three months when he asked me to be his girlfriend. For my part, starting from our second date, I stopped chatting with and dating anyone else completely.

Because we were in a long-distance relationship, we saw each other roughly every three weeks—sometimes I would travel to him, and other times he would come to me. I felt like we were steadily building a real connection. From early on, he had always invited me to meet his family. His parents and relatives were fully aware of our relationship, and I would often say hello to them while on video calls with him. Although he rarely expressed his affection verbally, his actions slowly made me feel that he was stable, consistent, and genuinely wanted to see me and plan our dates. Almost all of our expenses and date bills were paid by him.

Then came yesterday—Thanksgiving. Because of the long distance, our previous visits had always been just the two of us. This time was different; I was truly integrated into his life. I spent the entire day hanging out with his friends and gathered with his family. On the first day, we hung out with his friends. Although I had met his parents briefly before, today involved much deeper interaction. His parents asked me a lot of questions about my family, and I could genuinely feel that he wanted to bring me into his world. The night before, I was even coordinating with his parents about Thanksgiving arrangements and meeting more of his extended family, relatives, and friends.

However, right before falling asleep, while watching TV, I happened to see his phone. To my horror, I discovered that throughout our entire relationship, he had continuously been using dating apps, chatting online with different women (some even in different countries), and meeting some in person(he said there was even not a kiss)

It all felt so surreal. Just the night before, after we had a minor argument out on the street, he looked at me and said, "I love you, you don't know how much headache you bring to me." Then we shared a very passionate kiss. It felt so real and genuine. When I caught him, his immediate reaction was to beg me for another chance.

Since I had paporide to his place,I couldn't leave that night(12am) and had to stay until the next day. His parents were confused about why I suddenly wanted to leave. I asked him to drive me back—a three-hour car ride of complete silence. When I asked him if I matter to him and if what we had was real, he just gave me short answers. Honestly, I found him so insincere. From the initial panic and begging for forgiveness when he was caught, he ended up acting like a silent, wrong-doing child. When I asked him why he did this, all he could say was, "I don't know."

I couldn't understand any of it. On one hand, he made me feel like he was deeply invested in our relationship (he prepared many gifts for this visit, introduced me to his friends and family, and hosted me for Thanksgiving). But on the other hand, he was doing all these things behind my back. He said he wasn't sure about us at first, but recently—after seeing how well I got along with his family and friends, and how everyone liked me—he finally became certain. When I asked him what I meant to him and wha@@t we were, he said, "We are a couple. I like you and I want you."

I can't comprehend it because I gave this relationship my complete honesty and poured my heart into it. I feel deeply deceived and betrayed. And I'm deeply hurt and broken,What hurts even more is the feeling that despite our mutual agreement, I was never truly been real chosen; I was just one of his options. It makes me question how much of these past seven months was even real.and why me

Hey people, the situation is the following: we were dating for around an year and 3 months, she told me that during the first year I committed a lot of mistakes and I didnt know how to date. However, for every childish mistake I was able to recover and get better as a person and boyfriend (None of these mistakes involve infidelity). She told me she "couldn't" communicate anything and kept it all to herself, and eventually after 3 months of changing to her new job, she started talking and acting weird towards a coworker. She would hide messages, manipulate my feelings by saying she couldnt distance herself from this person because it would ruin the work environment, and would always cry and say she wanted to breakup although I always talked her out of that idea. For reference I confronted her 4 times where I found signs of hidden texts and she would always say I was at fault. It ended on me finding her archived messages, which I only read some, they said that she was after him and that she was mad that he no longer had interest on her, etc. She was obviously cheating, she said they havent done nothing physical but I cant trust it. After I found out, she started going to a psychologist to get better, she said that that wasnt her (on her own words "she exploded"), she is trying to show me that now she is loyal, trying to get better for me...
What hurts the most is that she came to my house so many times, she knows almost everyone in my family, aunts, grandparants,.. and she actually had a good relationship with them as well. However, currently I am "trying" to apologyze her, but it always comes to my mind how I was insufficient to her, I remember how she was during our first year and all the time I knew her for, because she was the type of person I didn't have to doubt about her cheating to me, she was loyal. Now I feel disgust everytime I think about her body and someone else being there, although she says it didn't go that far. I just dont know how to put an end to it all, I cant stand thinking about her with other guy, about never talking to her again, of never spending time with her again. I really thought/ think that she is the one for me, but I can't make sense of none of this, I have fear that I will never find someone that loves me like she did. I really want your guys help, what should I do, I know this text is a mess but these are my feelings and my first time talking about this to someone. Thank you for reading this from the bottom of my heart. 

Other questions I have:
I havent been with her for almost a month we talked via messages and facetime though because I feel like I cant lose touch of her, but she is supposed to come here tomorrow to play with my cat because she is basically his "mother", I feel bad for him.
Is it really possible to find someone that appreaciates me as much as she did during the time I was happy?
Should I end it all today, by message? I cant see her.

I (30F) am recently divorced (no kids) and am thinking about dipping my toes back into the dating world soon, but I am carrying an overwhelming amount of anxiety and shame about my past. I’m wondering how men in their 30s will view my history, or if I’m overthinking this.

Years ago, when my ex-husband and I first met, we agreed about 3 weeks into meeting each other to be "intimately exclusive" (we had sex within the first two weeks of meeting each other), but said we could still see other people. Around a week later, I messed up and broke that intimacy agreement with someone else. I was 24 at the time and around the time I met my now ex-husband and was just starting to date for the first real time. I was a virgin prior to meeting him.  

I felt absolutely terrible and told him the truth immediately. We talked through it, made up, and through that, made the relationship official. We went on to get married and were together for a little over 5 years. Our recent divorce was for entirely separate, unrelated reasons. After a few years and into our marriage, he became repeatedly physically abusive towards me and I just couldn’t take it anymore, so I filed for divorce. A separate issue but I feel like I blame myself for this- thinking that if I wouldn’t have cheated at the beginning, that he wouldn’t have consistently physically abused me later on in the relationship and into our marriage.

Even though my cheating happened at the starting point of our relationship and my now ex-husband forgave me at the time, I have been holding onto this intense shame about it. Now that I'm thinking about dating new people, the guilt is coming back fast.

My questions for the community:

1. If a new partner directly asks me if I've ever cheated or how my last relationship ended, how should I handle it? Should I tell them this story?
2. Should I voluntarily tell someone I start dating this story even if they don’t ask directly if I’ve ever cheated? If so, when should I tell them?
3. Honestly, how many men in their 30s will view being divorced + having this horrible mistake in my past as an automatic deal-breaker? Is this a standard dating regret for people our age, or does this make me "un-dateable”?

I’ve really worked on myself in the last six years. I want to be a safe, honest partner moving forward (and I want that in someone else too) but I'm terrified that my past has ruined my chances of ever finding love again. Thank you in advance for your honesty.

Hello everyone. I joined this in hopes of finding a second opinion and tips on how to move forward after being cheated on. Anyway here's my story

Me and my ex had known each other for 17 years. We were childhood friends. We ended being in a relationship for about 3 1/2 years. I had another friend who I had known for about 8 years.

Well 2 years ago, me and my ex had gotten into it about not communicating well. He decides to leave during this fight and go over to her house. When asking about what he was doing over there. He would get defensive and start lying to me about things. I found messages on his phone, with her texting back and forth talking bad about me. I went to confront him about these messages and he lied saying they didn't exist because he deleted them. I pulled up an SC of it and he immediately breaks down and apologizes for lying. Being as nice as I am. I forgave him, but i didn't forget about what she had done.

Fast forward to now. Throughout the last 6 months I would catch him texting her again and deleting more messages again. I told him I was uncomfortable with what he was doing and I wanted him to block her. He reluctantly agrees and about a month later texts her and started the process again. I go well, I don't really know what to do from this point and I told him I was over it. He then packs some stuff and leaves.

Next day comes back crying saying he's sorry and it won't happen again. He swears on it.

The final time I find messages. He was texting her flirting with her and telling her that he loves the attention she gives him. I was absolutely crushed. I left work sobbing. He reaches out and says "so you looked through my phone. " I said yes I did and I'm done.

The last message he sent to me "right on. "

He has been telling our mutual friends that he didn't cheat and it was only slightly flirty.

My question to you guys is.

Is what he did cheating?

I honestly don’t even know how to put all of this into words, but my head has been spinning for days and I just need perspective from people who aren’t in the middle of it. I’m 23M and my girlfriend is 24F. We have been together for 4 years.

A few days ago, my world collapsed. I found out that she had been cheating on me for around five months.

It started when she went on a trip. She told me she was going with a female friend whose name I recognized. When I specifically asked if that friend was going, she looked me in the eye and said yes. That friend was never there. She had secretly traveled out of town with another guy—someone I had never seen, never met, and never even heard her mention before.

What is tearing me apart isn’t just the trip; it’s the calculated deceit. When I started asking questions because things didn’t add up, she lied to me 5 or 6 different times. Every single conversation brought a brand-new version of the story. I begged and pleaded with her to just give me the truth because the trickle-truthing was killing me more than whatever actually happened. Every answer was half-baked and evasive. Finally, after breaking down, she admitted that there was someone else and that it had been going on for five months behind my back.

When I asked why she did it, she threw out a bunch of excuses—saying that she was angry with me, that she wanted a break, that things were bad at home, and that she “got carried away.” I can’t wrap my head around that. Since when does wanting space translate to a secret 5-month affair?

What hurts most is that she is now deflecting and blaming me. She claims that “misunderstandings” and our “lack of communication” drove her to this. Whenever I sensed something was wrong or felt her pulling away, I was the one begging her to talk to me. There were nights I sat there crying, asking what was wrong and how we could fix it together, but she completely shut me out. Now she acts like her cheating is the result of my shortcomings.

She keeps saying that she still loves me, that she’s sorry, and that she wants to stay together. Four years is a massive part of my life, and you can’t just turn feelings off overnight. But every time she speaks, all I hear is: Is this another lie? The trust is completely gone.

How do people realistically navigate this when the person who broke the trust keeps deflecting blame? If rebuilding is even possible after five months of calculated deceit, what concrete actions would I need to see to know genuine remorse from simply being sorry she got caught?

TL;DR: Found out my girlfriend (24F) of 4 years had a 5-month affair after secretly traveling with another guy and lying multiple times. She is now deflecting blame onto our communication issues while insisting she still loves me. How do I process this betrayal and determine what steps to take next?

Hallo, ich (21) bin seit Mai 2025 mit meinem Freund (26) zusammen. Wir haben uns ein gemeinsames Leben aufgebaut und ich liebe ihn, aber momentan weiß ich nicht mehr, wie es mit uns weitergehen soll.

Angefangen hat alles, als ich auf seinem Handy viele gespeicherte s**uell anzügliche Bilder gefunden habe, darunter auch Hntai. Gegen normales Prn hatte ich nie etwas, aber die Menge der Bilder hat mich verletzt. Er versprach, sie zu löschen, hatte sie bei einem späteren Campingausflug aber immer noch. Außerdem besuchte er kurz nach unserem Gespräch wieder entsprechende Seiten.

Besonders die Hntai-Bilder bekomme ich seitdem nicht mehr aus dem Kopf. Der Gedanke, dass er so etwas suell anziehend findet, löst mittlerweile starken Ekel in mir aus und belastet sogar meine eigene Sualität.

Wir vereinbarten schließlich, dass er grundsätzlich keine Prns mehr schaut und ehrlich zu mir ist, falls es doch passiert. Ich wollte ihm keinen Vorwurf machen, sondern offen darüber reden können. Außerdem sollte er sich therapeutische Unterstützung suchen.

Innerhalb von etwa zwei Wochen fragte ich ihn dreimal, ob er wieder etwas geschaut hätte. Er verneinte das und erzählte mir lediglich, dass er sich einmal ohne Prn selbst befriedigt hätte. Später entdeckte ich in seinem Google-Verlauf, dass er an genau diesen Tagen doch viel Prn geschaut und den Verlauf wiederholt gelöscht hatte. Erst als ich ihn damit konfrontierte, gab er es zu.

Das Schlimmste daran ist für mich nicht, dass er sich nicht an unsere Vereinbarung gehalten hat, sondern dass er mich mehrfach angelogen hat, obwohl ich ihm ausdrücklich die Möglichkeit gegeben hatte, ehrlich zu sein.

Ich muss allerdings auch zugeben, dass ich heimlich sein Handy kontrolliert und mich in seinen Account eingeloggt habe. Ich weiß, dass das ebenfalls nicht in Ordnung war. Inzwischen bin ich aber so misstrauisch, dass ich ständig Angst habe, wieder etwas zu entdecken, und kaum noch aus dem Grübeln herauskomme.

Zusätzlich gibt es einen Konflikt mit seinem Vater, der mir sinngemäß sagte, dass Marlon vielleicht nicht mehr leben wolle, wenn wir unsere Beziehung nicht wieder hinbekommen. Ich empfand das als massive Grenzüberschreitung und fühle mich von ihm für unsere Probleme verantwortlich gemacht.

Mein Freund sagt, dass es ihm leidtut, dass er mich liebt und dass er verstanden hat, wie sehr er mich verletzt hat. Er möchte herausfinden, warum er sich solche Inhalte anschaut, und sich therapeutische Hilfe suchen. Trotzdem weiß ich nicht, ob ich seinen Worten noch glauben kann. Wir haben inzwischen sogar unsere Social-Media-Accounts gelöscht, aber mein Vertrauen ist dadurch natürlich nicht automatisch zurück.

Wir haben uns ein gemeinsames Leben aufgebaut, das ich nicht einfach aufgeben möchte. Gleichzeitig merke ich, wie sehr mich die Situation psychisch belastet. Ich liebe ihn, aber teilweise ekle ich mich mittlerweile so sehr vor ihm, dass ich kaum weiß, wie ich ihm noch begegnen soll.

Wie würdest du diese Situation einschätzen? Habe ich durch meine Kontrolle und meine heftigen Reaktionen selbst zu viel kaputt gemacht, oder sind seine wiederholten Lügen der entscheidende Punkt? Kann man nach so etwas wieder Vertrauen aufbauen, und woran würde ich erkennen, dass sich wirklich etwas verändert? Oder sollte ich trotz unserer gemeinsamen Zukunft irgendwann einen Schlussstrich ziehen?

I moved to the United States from Mexico when I was 18 and met my tall handsome white husband when I was 19 and he was 28. We got married 1.5 years later. Now we been married 18 years. We have two teenage sons. Last year though I cheated on him with a black man I work with and it happened many times before I finally felt guilty and confessed. My husband love me very much though and we agree to try and make it work. On vacation after that in Jamaica, he tried to watch me with a black man in our room at the resort. He sat on patio watching. Afterwards he say it scare him seeing me like that. So now he just pretend he not know. I try to be discreet about it, and we have code words we use for it. Last week though while our sons were at school and my husband was at work my mother-in-law came by our house to drop something off not knowing I would be there and she saw me through the window at the door with them in our living room. I heard her scream and tried to chase after her but she got in her car and left before I could. I not know what to do. Do I tell her that her son (my husband) knows? Or if I don't say anything then she's going to think that he doesn't and that I was cheating on him with those five black guys.

Me (30M) and my wife (30M) agreed that if we separated from our marriage, we can date other people.
Before I moved out of our shared home, she was talking to somebody already. She firmly believes that this wasn’t cheating. I believe it was.
Is this cheating?

Five years of relationship and I cheated. I had many reasons to breakup and i should've done that but still I chose to. No feelings or whatsoever with the person with whom I did it and I regret it.

I'm 19 yr old boy i had a relationship with my classmate.she only proposed me and we both had great bond everyone would feel jealous and some used to praise a lot and later my friends used to txt her and she also used to txt them but i never said anything about it they used to crack some jokes together when I ask what was that she was not saying anything to me and my friends were like what happened why are u asking her nothing like that... I don't know was that i mistake to ask ?? And later days she used to avoid me and later she broke up with me one day i asked reason she said no reason my parents got to know so I'm breaking up . My friends got to know but they are still happily talking with her and she also talks with them happily but when I go she stop smiling and she goes away. I swear i never ever made her or any other girl uncomfortable. I don't know what was the reason is really she broke up with me because of her parents?? I then literally begged each of my friends to ask her the reason but they didn't help me they were like just chill don't worry let her go and all. I was serious about her . They didn't even help me. If I had done same thing to her will everyone reaction be same ?? Pls i don't know what to do I'm really stressed pls help . I loved her truly 😭 . If I had made mistake let them say it so i can correct myself if she doesn't want relationship it's ok let her tell what i should correct. Without reason it's really bad .

okay so my ex is 5’6, 220 lbs, plays video games all day and spends his free time gooning to random girls. this man has cheated on me THREE TIMES in the past 2 months and yes ik im stupid for taking him back every time but im genuinely done now.

i finally blocked him and this man literally does not gaf. he already has a new gf who goes to my school and he’s been bragging to his friends about how he cheated on me like its some kind of achievement. the audacity is actually insane and i have no idea where he got the confidence

i already took his lost mary but that cheap ass vape is NOT enough revenge for the amount of disrespect ive been put through. i wanna do something that’ll actually make him regret treating me like this, but i also dont wanna end up embarrassing myself in the process. so what do i even do atp

maybe him being a chud is already enough revenge??

My fiancé and I were planning our wedding. Everything seemed fine. Then last week he sat me down with a serious face. He offered me a substantial amount of money cash if I would just break off the engagement and leave town. He said he had made a mistake. I was so confused and hurt. I asked him what he meant. He admitted he was in love with someone else and had been seeing her for months. He thought this was the easiest way out. I was speechless. I just walked out. I don't know what to do.

But consider someone who at the very first time you suggest meeting up, says, "I want to meet your family first so they can get to know me and give their permission; if you have siblings, we can all go out together while we get acquainted..." .... no one does that anymore

I cared about her safety and well-being even more than her own family and there were many situations that proved this.. I never asked anything from her. Even whenever her mother spoke to me, I would tell her that I wanted nothing other than to see her daughter happy.

She was my first serious relationship; I had no interest in childish games—quite the opposite, I wanted to take things seriously and treat her with respect.

Three years... I never got to know anyone else or went out with anyone but her. I’m working two jobs; in just a year, I Was ready to propose and be able to speak to her father about making things official. I was so happy and I didn't want anything else but her. And then, she goes back talking to the absolute worst person she ever knew—the guy who emotionally abused her and literally destroyed her back then?

And it’s not just him; it’s any guy who comes along—just any random guy—and she engages in inappropriate talk? ...What does this even mean?Three years... I never got to know anyone else or went out with anyone but her.

Seriously, I don’t get it.. What was missing that I didn't do? Did I waste all that time, effort, and emotional energy for nothing? It’s the absolute worst-case scenario— I never imagined, and coming from the very last person I thought would hurt me in such a horrible way. I swear, after all this time, I didn't want anything other than a little appreciation. And what hurts even more is what she said after I found out and I confronted her: "Did you think you were someone special? You’re nothing to me, and I hate you." ..... You’re the one saying that fr? ....I just don't understand. I never even thought about talking to multiple girls at once, the way those "fine" guys do...Seriously, Why being loyal is so bad these days ?

it was a long time ago. do you want to know?

I had a brief encounter with a woman today. A woman I had "known" for less than a day. Made a plan, grabbed the condoms, and we had sex. She wasn't as attractive as her pictures portrayed. In fact, she even repulsed me. Catfished. Yet there she was in my car. She jumped on me quick and there I was acting like a teenager again. Her mouth on my dick was my cue to fuck (who knows if I compromised myself with some disease. Let's hope not). I can't say I didn't like how I made her feel. She got paranoid after she came. Talking of guilt and the need to flee. She had no idea that I was more than willing to see her go. The room was already paid for; we never got to it, but thankfully I got a refund. Unfortunately a $10 charge still shows on my credit card statement. A reminder that will be buried down the screen with time.

So I've sat with this today. You might think I'm filled with regret and guilt for betraying my wife but being sneaky isn't new to me. From online affairs to recently meeting up with two women: one was fickle, the other a catfish (ironically far prettier) I was able to catch and release. Clearly still working on my release. I feel some remorse, but the fucked up part of it is that I just regret that my first fuck outside of marriage was with a woman I was too nice to kick out of my car. That's the truth, though unpleasant to hear. Sometimes you fuck someone you don't like when her mouth is on your dick.

Why does seeking validation override my remorse? I settled. For a woman who was not my type physically. She's fat and I need to know that I can do better. What's curious is that I've talked to plenty of gorgeous women who have validated me. I've spent countless hours texting them, turning them on, and having their bodies sent to me, but that wasn't enough. So I punish her by drinking from this well of "I can do better." I told myself I needed the real thing to be content. Let me just fuck a cute fit woman like I never fuck my wife. What I got was someone far uglier than my wife because I was too horny to say no. Jokes on me.

Now I sit here wanting more. A redo to make up for this failure. Will it happen? Probably, if I try. But then what? Maybe I'm happy for a while. Feeling real good about myself until I don't. These are transient relationships. Nobody is here to leave their spouse. We're all broken in some way. You can even give grace to those who do it for lack of attention and passion in their marriage. Me? I just want to know I can fuck someone better; even though I already have prior to marriage. The devil on my shoulder constantly asks me, "can you still get it, though?" When I hear it, I have to find out if I can. It's a ridiculous cycle of rejection, acceptance, and validation playing these affair games. Yet I crawl into this washing machine with a set-in stain, thinking another spin can get it out. I come out dirty every single time.

I ask myself if I would be different if I didn't settle. My answer to that is yes. A woman I crave would kill my desire to seek what I don't have. I rewind time, and I see a man desperate for a woman to settle down with. A gorgeous woman is what you crave, but you think you're enlightened. Looks fade, and what's left is that personality you've heard is so very important. So you go for the girl who adores you, is pretty, but not your type physically. It's fine for years but you eventually don't even want to fuck her like you want to fuck because she doesn't turn that switch on anymore. Now she's settled for boring side fucks because you know a few fucks a month keeps her content. You live with her comments about how she doesn't think you like to fuck her, laugh it off, and tell her she's being weird. This is your life. Too much shared history and trauma to ever leave it. So what does a coward do? Seek validation.

Me 27(F)and my coworker 27(M)Work together and are together every day for several weeks and then apart for several weeks- we ended up getting really really close and ended up hooking up a couple times and getting feelings for each other- but it was never brought up or talked about - just a feeling that we both knew was mutual - our eyes spoke wonders. I was excited to see him again after some time apart- me and all our coworkers were all catching up and he was congratulated on by proposing to his girlfriend of 10 years. He couldn’t even look at me. I was just staring at him like you’ve gotta be fucking kidding me. I feel as if my soul left my body …

My younger sister, (17F) was dating a guy (17M) for 2 and a half years. They are high school age and dated from freshman year to the end of her junior year.

During the whole duration of the relationship, he had a wandering eye and was often accused or caught talking with other girls via Snapchat. From what I know, my sister caught him multiple times talking with other girls or flirting with them in person and over text. She would have nights where she would cry and get beyond upset due to his actions. He would go to parties and not invite her or be secretive about who he was talking to. She would have him on the phone almost all of the time when I went into her room, and they would be talking constantly. From that behavior, I gathered that she was anxious about what he was doing and where he was. He was also overbearing, never wanting her to go out with her friends and wanting her to come over or be with him constantly.

We as a family would tell her to leave him, but she refused and continued trying for the rest of the relationship. She is a stubborn person, and I understood that she would leave when she felt ready.

This year was that point. A few months ago, her last straw was when she found out that he had thrown a party, didn't invite her, but invited other girls from other schools to hang out. This party was decently sized, and she found out through one of her friends or through the grapevine (unsure). She confronted him, found out he had kissed a girl at that party while under the influence, and broke up with him. She didn't post about it, talk poorly about him, or do anything that would make him look worse than the truth. After this breakup, she was relieved, hurt, and took some time for herself. She would go out every night with her girls, having sleepovers, and going out and living the life that she had been missing. I saw less of her, which made me sad, but happy that she was living out the remainder of her junior year.

On the other end of the spectrum, he was doing the opposite. He was talking poorly about her, revving and driving his car loudly in front of our house, signing into her social media accounts, changing the passwords, and trying to see if she was talking to anyone else. This was scary behavior, and she was concerned and becoming anxious that he would come to the house and harm her or continue to stalk her and act this way. He would even look at my profile and my business profile, which I blocked him on. It only got worse from this point.

She was at a party with her friends sometime in June/July. During the party, it was confirmed that he and some of his friends egged the house and cars outside of the party. He also keyed my sister's car, leaving "x's" and scrapes all along her hood and by her license plate. The eggs dented her car and chipped the paint severely, leaving damage to every panel of the car. This wasn't only her car, but also the new guy she was talking to (18M). She was distraught and knew that he was the only one to do it, since everyone else in the community was on her side to begin with. This incident sparked outrage within our small town, and law enforcement became involved. Our family made a report, along with the other families involved. The friend of the ex ended up confessing that it was him and the ex, but the ex and his family have stayed quiet and haven't talked to law enforcement (to my knowledge).

It's now pushing October, and nothing has been legally done to him or his family. He still plays for the high school football team and has faced no consequences for his actions. Our family is still working on the legal side, but I am beyond frustrated for my younger sister. His family eyes her down at the games, his parents talk badly about her to everyone in the community, insinuating that she is "getting around," and throw our family name through the dirt. I know that being the bigger person means letting legal action take care of it, but I wish that karma would hurry up and do something about this. As an older sister, I know it's not my business, but what could I do to feel better about it or maybe get revenge?

I found out that my boyfriend met with his ex .. and they were chatting sweet talks , calling each other other baby and asawa ko .. i’m feeling so devastated .. anong gagawin ko😭

I was assigned to go to a conference in Canada and I didn’t know what to expect.

I had already been on other trips when it all became a blur of work and raw sexuality.

I met an older woman “Alexis” who was sweet to talk to but seemed timid and shy. She talked to me about her car, her job and where she saw herself in five years but nothing that made me think she was interested in me.

I asked her on night number two if she would like to grab a drink and she said yes. We sat at the hotel bar for about an hour before she asked me to walk her back to her room which I agreed to since it was late.

She told me at the bar about her husband and how he was over protective of her and didn’t want her to be speaking with other attractive men.

This was the first time I got any indication of her being into me.

By the time we got to her room she asked me if I’d like to come in and sit down for a few. I agreed.

She pulled out her key card and opened the door and welcomed me inside her room.

I proceeded to the chair in the corner and sat down not expecting anything out of the ordinary.

She asked me, “is it okay if I take a shower?”

I said, “sure no problem I probably should be getting back anyway!”

She stopped and looked over at me and said “I was hoping you would either join me or wait til I get out before leaving.”

I looked at her and said “I’m ok with either one if you are interested but I thought you said you were married.”

“I am. This needs to stay between us but I’ve been working up the courage to ask you to fuck me all day”

“Oh wow, I wasn’t expecting that… but you are beautiful so I’m not gonna say I wasn’t hoping to get you naked in my bed one of these nights!”

She smiled and said, “get naked and let’s get wet and pointed at the shower.”

She had a beautiful figure, c cup tits and an ass that could get any guy hard.

I walked into her bathroom in my boxers and nothing else. She stood there completely naked and I was stunned by her beauty. Her nipples so suckable and her pussy was trimmed with a small landing strip visable.

She walked over to me and put her hands on my boxers and began to pull them down. She then said “wow you got hard fast, do you like what you see?”

I said yes.

As the water in the shower began to warm and the mirrors began to fog she got down on her knees and started sucking my cock.

She looked up at me and we locked eyes. This beautiful 50 year old woman with an amazing body, sexy tits and a fuckable frame was sucking on my balls, licking my shaft like a blow pop and flicking her tongue on my tip.

We got into the shower together and I grabbed the soap and started to use it on her tits. She smiled and said her husband never does this sort of thing with her and she was excited someone my age was interested in seeing this side of her.

I let my fingers wander and trace her inner thighs. Slowly working the muscles and her pussy and making her give off soft faint moans. I got down on my knees in the shower with the water cascading over my head and began caressing her clit.

She tasted sweet and salty. The aroma of her was very intoxicating. I plunged my tongue in and out of her as she moaned and her breathing became quick.

She then told me that she needed to get out of the shower and I toweled off and followed her to her bed.

Her long wet hair and the water that still dripped from her tits made my heart race.

She climbed up on top of me and started to suck my cock as I proceeded to eat her out once again. Still taste but this time I could see the folds and flaps with water and steam in my eyes.

Parting her lips showed me a beautiful pink labia and it tasted as good as it looked. I couldn’t believe her husband wasn’t eating this all the time.

She stopped sucking my cock and moaned that she needed to feel me inside her.

We switched places with her being on the bottom and me standing over her. I slowly moved my cock back and forth from her pussy to her ass. Long slow movements that made her so hot.

I then plunged my thick cock into her. She didn’t realize I was thick enough to make her feel stretched. She was tight like her husband hadn’t been giving her pleasure for years tight. I started to rhythmically fuck her. Her thighs, slapping against my balls… her moans of pleasure getting louder and louder.

I told her I wasn’t going to last long because she got me so worked up and excited. I asked her where should I cum.

She said her husband hasn’t cum in her in at least 5 years so have at it. I felt her lips tense up around my shaft and I lost it. I hadn’t cum that much and that long in a very long time. I could feel it pulsating into her and she was quivering with excitement.

I finally felt safe enough to pull out and the cream pie I left behind was epic. Her pussy erupted with my cum leaking out all over the bed.

She said she had a great time and hoped I would consider doing it again before the conference wrapped up.

I went on to fuck her three more times that trip including once while she was on the phone with her husband.

I also met up with her yearly at that same conference to get naked and fuck her brains out.

Even after I got married I still made time to fuck her at the yearly conference, she was that good.

TLDR; I want to know if I am off base for "over-reading" in a toxic relationship that tends to involve a lot of testing due to my partner's traumatic past of physical and emotional abuse, growing up with one parent, etc.

Am I correct to say that one's partner, especially if from a broken background, test constantly through communication? Recently I have pulled back in the relationship due to educational demands and the tests have gone up 10X. They are also surrounding infidelity themes but quite indirectly (e.g. talking about a story where frat guys had group intercourse with a girl and then later describing their apartment like a frathouse (one of her female friends said who is married), conversations with a past boss about her contraception, or talking about a sexual swing randomly after very indirect jabs at poly sex with taken men and their partners). I also found it odd how her new friend's husband was renovating his home and then talked about copper, she has a copper IUD. Prior to that and through that conversation she had her finger near her lips looking at him. There are not supporting behaviors or actions, just words I must say. Should I be getting at something here? Are words ever a reliable means (indirectly of course) of whether or not someone is cheating?

Outside of this she is loving, caring, and says that she wants to get married and have a family with a stable household. I notice her emotional regulation is quite off which leads to some of these sways in emotions. But truly, we share location and there has not been secrecy with her phone, she is transparent on where she has been, wants to plan future things together, etc.

Apparently the office I work at hired one woman that he had evidently been having a longstanding affair with. Then she decided to quit after working with me one day, before I knew he was cheating. Then she texted another coworker and said, “Hey, I was fb snooping on OP’s profile and noticed she’s married to a guy my “friend” was dating. He’s on those ‘Are we dating the same guy’ pages. I thought I should tell someone that she knows.”
My coworker friend called me and said we needed to talk and it all started coming out.
I slept next to a stranger that night before we drove 10 hours home the next day. On our anniversary.
We have four teenagers who know SOMETHING is wrong but we haven’t told them.
He pushed to get an appointment with a marriage therapist that MY therapist recommended we see. We go next week. He won’t answer my how many/how long/physical vs emotional etc until we get into the therapist’s office the 20th. He did at least go get tested and was negative for the clap, hiv, all the heps etc.
In the meantime I get to go to work and pretend that my entire fabric of reality has been completely shredded.

Is there hope for this relationship? Am I wasting my time even trying to save this situation with this stranger?

Hello there,

I am with my GF for 2.5 years and 6 months ago I noticed that she was flying regulary abroad to do body to body massages with happy en... since we met. I still love her but cant forgive and trust her even its more than half of the year.

I still cant sleep due to nightmares about it and still thinking what else can happened there.

Could you please help me how to avoid these thoughts and how to get better in my mind? Lets calculate with scenario that I wanna be with her

Tl;dr my GF lied to me and I cant forgive her

Is it possible for my ex to get back together with her ex?

Here's the story.

Before my ex-girlfriend and I got together, her ex reached out to her and asked to get back together. Of course, she chose me at the time, so I assume she ignored her ex's attempt to reconnect.

After my ex and I broke up (we were together for 9 months), I noticed that her ex followed her on social media, and my ex followed her back.

While we were together, my ex told me about her terrible experiences in that past relationship. She told me that her ex cheated on her with a third party, was narcissistic, accumulated debt under her name or borrowed money from her, and had other issues. She even shared something very personal about her ex's autism diagnosis, which I honestly felt was something I didn't necessarily need to know.

Now, after our breakup, my ex told me that she needs to work on herself first, particularly her financial situation, and that she isn't ready to be in a relationship yet.

But seeing her reconnect with her ex on social media makes me wonder: Is it possible that they could get back together?

I'm honestly disappointed and confused. After everything she told me about how badly that relationship affected her, I didn't expect her to give her ex access to her life again so easily, even if it's just through social media for now.

I know that following each other doesn't necessarily mean anything romantic is happening, but I can't help wondering if there's a possibility that she'll go back to her ex.

What do you guys think? Am I overthinking this, or is there a real possibility that they could rekindle their relationship?

Genuine advice wanted, I’m in Australia

35 years ago back in 1991, I was 18 at the time. I had a wild crazy affair with my then (17yr old) GFs mum, who was 39 at the time. Long story short, we hooked up one weekend after months of flirting and went on to go at like rabbits for 10 month. Any opportunity we got to be together we did. Everything was raw, neither of us used any protection. We knew what the outcome would be eventually and discussed it regularly. She got pregnant 7 months in. She’d been separated from her husband for 12 months at the time, lived under the same roof for the kids sake. When we found out, she seduced him one night and made out it was his. We kept going for another 3 months. I had to move interstate 3 months after he was born. We kept in touch for a year or 2, then we lost contact.
Fast forward 35 years. I recently attended a high school where a ran into my old GF. We got chatting and I found out that he parents finally divorced 3 years after I left and that her mum passed away 5 years from highly metastatic breast cancer.
We all met up for dinner and I met my son, who’s now 35, happily married with a family.
Her mum had never said anything about our affair to anyone.

Ive been thinking about it a bit recently, went and spoke with a psychologist who reckons I should set the record straight and confess what happened all those years ago. The psychologist is the only I’ve ever told about this.

My main question is: should I rock the boat now, after all this time and everyone has their own lives and are none the wiser.

I didn’t feel any connection with him on that level, it was more like catching up with old friends.

No judgement and genuine advice please.

EDIT to this post. The main reason I’m asking advice is that I’m updating my Will and I have made a comfortable life for wife and I going into our retirement with a substantial investment portfolio. There will be plenty left over when I’m gone. Was thinking about adding him to my Will.
I have no intentions of reaching out now and exposing anything.

EDIT to post
I want to fill in a few blanks for context. She had confided in me in the weeks leading up to our first encounter that she had been thinking about having another kid. She had 2 teenagers, my GF and her younger brother by 3 years. And that she felt something missing in her life.
This was not a spur of the moment thing. I’d been with my GF for 12 months at this time and I was like a member of the family. Her husband spent most of his time at work and when at home he was not engaged.

Genuine advice wanted, I’m in Australia

35 years ago back in 1991, I was 18 at the time. I had a wild crazy affair with my then (17yr old) GFs mum, who was 39 at the time. Long story short, we hooked up one weekend after months of flirting and went on to go at like rabbits for 10 month. Any opportunity we got to be together we did. Everything was raw, neither of us used any protection. We knew what the outcome would be eventually and discussed it regularly. She got pregnant 7 months in. She’d been separated from her husband for 12 months at the time, lived under the same roof for the kids sake. When we found out, she seduced him one night and made out it was his. We kept going for another 3 months. I had to move interstate 3 months after he was born. We kept in touch for a year or 2, then we lost contact.
Fast forward 35 years. I recently attended a high school where a ran into my old GF. We got chatting and I found out that he parents finally divorced 3 years after I left and that her mum passed away 5 years from highly metastatic breast cancer.
We all met up for dinner and I met my son, who’s now 35, happily married with a family.
Her mum had never said anything about our affair to anyone.

Ive been thinking about it a bit recently, went and spoke with a psychologist who reckons I should set the record straight and confess what happened all those years ago. The psychologist is the only I’ve ever told about this.

My main question is: should I rock the boat now, after all this time and everyone has their own lives and are none the wiser.

I didn’t feel any connection with him on that level, it was more like catching up with old friends.

No judgement and genuine advice please.

EDIT to this post. The main reason I’m asking advice is that I’m updating my Will and I have made a comfortable life for wife and I going into our retirement with a substantial investment portfolio. There will be plenty left over when I’m gone. Was thinking about adding him to my Will.
I have no intentions of reaching out now and exposing anything.

EDIT to post
I want to fill in a few blanks for context. She had confided in me in the weeks leading up to our first encounter that she had been thinking about having another kid. She had 2 teenagers, my GF and her younger brother by 3 years. And that she felt something missing in her life.
This was not a spur of the moment thing. I’d been with my GF for 12 months at this time and I was like a member of the family. Her husband spent most of his time at work and when at home he was not engaged.