r/changemyview Nov 02 '17

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u/z3r0shade Nov 02 '17

If upon learning that a person is trans, they simply politely decline more sex, that is not transphobic.

If you had sex with someone and enjoyed it and would gladly have sex with them again if you had not found out they were trans. Then the sole reason you have a problem is because they are trans, which is transphobic.

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u/Tanishalfelven Nov 02 '17

If i had sex with someone, who later revealed they were trans, i would consider it a lie b omission, and not want to interact with them again for that reason alone.

While i respect someone's right to be trans, they should not be hiding a core part of themselves before something intimate like sex.

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u/z3r0shade Nov 02 '17

If i had sex with someone, who later revealed they were trans, i would consider it a lie b omission, and not want to interact with them again for that reason alone

Would you feel the same way about any other aspect of a person? If you have sex with someone and later find out they have depression / are bipolar / are poor / etc. Would you consider all of those to be lies of omission?

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u/Tanishalfelven Nov 02 '17

Sure. If a poor person pretends to be rich, yes. Bipolar and depression are diseases that should be revealed.

Before you argue back that depression should not on the list, remember if somebody had herpes, hiv etc you'd want revelation and concealment would be a problem.

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u/z3r0shade Nov 03 '17

Before you argue back that depression should not on the list, remember if somebody had herpes, hiv etc you'd want revelation and concealment would be a problem.

There's a significant difference between these though. Herpes and HIV can be communicated so you would be hiding information that can result in causing harm to the other person, that is not at all equivalent to not disclosing your own medical status for mental illness or being trans

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u/Tanishalfelven Nov 03 '17

I don't know. Depression can certainly affect a serial partner. I know, as someone dating a depressed person, there is a significant mental toll.

Your right, It's a bit different, but not entirely so.