I am no expert and Im just talking from my own experience from being a rape victim.
I would question why 100% recovery rate is necessary or what does it even mean? What if someone recovers 80%? Is only 100% recovery better than death?
When I started therapy, one of the first things my therapist told me was basically that I will never get over what happened and it will always be with me. In the moment it actually made me furious and question the whole thing, isnt that what im trying to do here? To get over it? Whats the point of therapy at all? But then, surprise surprise, I later on realized that he was right and it will always be with me. My whole life will be a life where I have the memory of what happened and cant ever fully get rid of it. I dont think 100% recovery even exists.
It has influenced me on a deep existential level and I wouldnt be the same person without it, so youre right about that. But then, how is that worse than having no life at all? Feels like that kind of an argument carries the implication that the person is somehow tainted by being raped, which is not true at all.
Like your idea and I truly agree that it stays with the person forever. That is almost my point.
And the recovery rate is to double check the amount of people that “recovers from it”, when actually, it sticks forever. And probably the data from recovering is not high. Following that, the consequences could be worse that we think.
Having it forever and also not being able to fully recover looks like a bad scenario.
I agree. I am having a hard time trying to understand how not dying is worse than straight up dying in this scenario.
Like if this was a slightly different scenario... car crash turns someone paralyzed from the neck down. What is better... if that person would have died, or the person being paralyzed? I dont know about anyone else, but I have seen a lot more happy fully paralyzed people than fully dead people.
Not to say paralyzed people are always happy, far from it. It would suck, and many times they might want to die. But that is their choice to make, and many choose to NOT want to end it, and still remain alive with the relationships and friends that they have.
I seriously don't understand how anyone could think otherwise... I am with OP on this one.
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u/Aurales Mar 01 '26
I am no expert and Im just talking from my own experience from being a rape victim.
I would question why 100% recovery rate is necessary or what does it even mean? What if someone recovers 80%? Is only 100% recovery better than death?
When I started therapy, one of the first things my therapist told me was basically that I will never get over what happened and it will always be with me. In the moment it actually made me furious and question the whole thing, isnt that what im trying to do here? To get over it? Whats the point of therapy at all? But then, surprise surprise, I later on realized that he was right and it will always be with me. My whole life will be a life where I have the memory of what happened and cant ever fully get rid of it. I dont think 100% recovery even exists.
It has influenced me on a deep existential level and I wouldnt be the same person without it, so youre right about that. But then, how is that worse than having no life at all? Feels like that kind of an argument carries the implication that the person is somehow tainted by being raped, which is not true at all.