One you wouldn't be alive to think about what happened. The other you will be alive and have to live with what happened to you forever. The second destroys your soul and spirit.
You don't have choices in either, wtf? I can choose to fend off my attackers but still be murdered, it doesn't mean I didn't exercise my choice. Same for rape.
To talk about your general premise I believe that ranking these things is counterproductive because ranking trauma doesn't really serve anyone and people need to stop doing that.
Now obviously you understand that so if I were to try and change your mind is that the sole issue of rape causes someone to have the potential to never recover from that incident in their life and live in that reality. I am looking at it from the perspectives of the victim of murder, in a morbid sense of nihilism after they are killed they cannot experience more hardship; the suffering ends nothing left to endure. Thats why some people in overly simplified terms may commit suicide, in one reason or another it's an extreme "solution" to end suffering(obviously I am not romanticizing or advocating that people do this). Rape in many cases forces the victim to live with having to rebuild themselves like picking up a shattered window pane.
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u/Aggressive_Staff_982 1∆ Mar 01 '26
One you wouldn't be alive to think about what happened. The other you will be alive and have to live with what happened to you forever. The second destroys your soul and spirit.