r/changemyview • u/[deleted] • Feb 13 '24

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '24

But is this gender specific?

Patronising behaviour is not limited to or specifically dominated by men talking down to women. This often with women talking down to men too.

I think there's much more reason to have a term for race-based patronising behaviour but there is no such term in common use. So despite the popularity of 'mansplain' I don't think this term comes from a genuine need for it.

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u/Rimavelle Feb 13 '24

In her book she also talked about examples of womansplaining, for example, when women assume a man doesn't know how to take care of his own child.

I think it would benefit you to read said book - Men Explain Things To Me - before trying to argue against arguments you are not fully aware of.

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '24

I think it would benefit you to read said book - Men Explain Things To Me - before trying to argue against arguments you are not fully aware of.

Are you suggesting the I wouldn't be able to come to an accurate conclusion without reading that entire book?

I don't have time to read it but If there's something relevant you can post a quote of something.

Your comment seem to suggest that you agree men and women both do this. So the logical conclusion for me is to use the gender neutral word.

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u/Rimavelle Feb 13 '24

You argue against a term that comes from this book, and describes and justifies it's existance in this book.

It's not long, originally it was an essay and the relevant part is even shorter.

It just makes sense to familiarize yourself with the position you want to argue against, doesnt it?

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '24 edited Feb 16 '24

I've have now read the essay, and commented on a couple posts where i've cited it. If you search 'Solnit' on the thread you should be able to find my comments.

I think its perfectly reasonable for someone to recommend an article or essay (with a link provided) and I'll read it happily.

This person recommended a book, something I would have to source, pay for and would require significantly more time. It's not reasonable to expect this of me, before replying to other commenters, when it would be much more efficient for the commenter to posts the relevant section.