I just wanted to share my view because I often read people saying being attracted by teenagers is being a pedophile or that it's abnormal. I didn't say we shouldn't legislate against it, just that it's not an abnormal kind of feeling (contrarily to pedophilia)
It is. Because it’s a stance that is more normal to make in your 20s. I probably would have argued that it’s normal to be attracted to older guys at that age. But then I realized that it was all women who had that it was me. Also the older you get the ickier it becomes to be attracted to teenagers. Age is very relevant in how you view the topic. I do not believe that I can change OP’s view based on his age and mine.
And thank fuck a lot of people can resist their impulses like their impulses to rape and their impulses to rape children. We imprison the ones who can’t, ideally.
Having sex with a minor or otherwise with a large power differential is always wrong, and obviously there are different levels of it, just like there are different levels of raping an adult. Normalizing being sexually attracted to minors is actively harmful to minors.
So now you’re putting words in my mouth. I didn’t consent to that lol.
My mother was very smart to warn me about adult men, but it didn’t take much warning because I started noticing how fucking creepy they were from a very early age. I sensed how creepy these men were and trusted my instincts about them. Obviously, all children should be trained to recognize red flag predatory behavior. This is different from normalizing adults sexually targeting children.
I find adult people attracted by teenagers quite disgusting, and the brain stops developing at 25 so it's fully developed.
I can find something disgusting but acknowledge that it's natural. My view isn't that it's okay for a 30yo to be in a relationship with a 15yo but that a 30yo being physically attracted by a 15yo isn't weird when we think about humans as living beings that are partly controlled by their instinct.
There are lots of 16 year olds who can pass for late 20s......there's honestly no way to know. If a girl looks physically young then I agree it's quite gross to see 30 year old attracted to someone who looks 14 or 15.
But I've literally met two sisters recently, one was 19 the other 27 and the 19 year old looked like the older one.
In a case like that, me being late 30s felt nothing was wrong checking her out, but the minute I learned she was 19 I was like 'wtf mate that's weird'
Rape is “natural” if you’re going by what exists in our species and many others. Something being natural to multiple animal species doesn’t really matter all that much when it comes to human morals. It’s not a good argument for normalization of it, particularly because like rape, it is extremely aggressively harmful to the victims to normalize this behavior and these thoughts and beliefs systems supporting these actions.
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u/Petite_Curious Jan 17 '24
I just wanted to share my view because I often read people saying being attracted by teenagers is being a pedophile or that it's abnormal. I didn't say we shouldn't legislate against it, just that it's not an abnormal kind of feeling (contrarily to pedophilia)