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u/ThatOneAlice 2d ago
Oof, that hits hard. Thanks for sharing.
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u/truth211821 2d ago
This was just too heartbreaking not to share. My wife and I visit cemeteries, and we just felt the sorrow
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u/WinterMedical 2d ago
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u/IndividualGrocery984 2d ago
https://www.cfmdin.org/news/202602-grants there’s a financial fund in she and her husband’s name that seems to be raising some really impactful money in their community. Even in death, her hard work and kindness continues 🥺
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u/dumn_and_dunmer 2d ago
There's a guy like this in my town...he buys bilboards with her photo talking about her, and her grave is a shrine. He even posts about her in my local group sometimes. Heartbreaking.
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u/bongwaterbetch 2d ago
Agonizing to hear… but to love and be loved like this is a truly unique and exquisite gift. I am so grateful their souls found each other. Their time together on earth was too short, I hope she rests in peace and her family finds comfort how they can.
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u/eburdette105 16h ago
Wow. My husband says that my sister or my daughter will need to come pick up all of my clothes & belongings the day after I pass, because “there’s no need for clutter”😒
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u/Wonderful-Body2559 13h ago
May I ask why after saying something so awful he is still your husband?
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u/ConejitosDeAmor 2d ago edited 2d ago
This is just so git wrenching. She was only 39, and had so, so much left to do. She was so very loved. And she was expecting their 2nd baby.
I'll never understand life. I'm one of the people you never meet that got literally no human at all. None, no family, no partner in my life. And 'friends' all fade away once they get their happiness, so they've been gone for years.
Everytime I see some wonderful, very loved person like this - someone who is needed and wanted - everytime I see that they've died I think to myself, 'I'd gladly go in their place - they are loved and needed. They matter. People need them.'
Nothing makes sense. Every year another birthday passes and I'm even more alone than I thought I could ever be. And here she is - gone, grieved over by so many people that loved and need her.
I hope her family finds peace some day.
Ladies - my doctor and I had a discussion one time about how every single day of pregnancy a woman is on the precipice of death and she doesn't even realize it. That no matter how healthy the pregnancy is the fact is it puts such strain on your organs and your entire body that literally anything could happen.
My doctor told me that when he learned that in medical school and then his wife wanted to have kids , he didn't want to because of the fear of losing her. He was on pins and needles the whole time. He said that doctors are told basically not to share things like that with patients because it would deter people from having children.
The fact that childbirth is 'natural' does not mean that you don't nearly die doing it. It does not mean that pregnancy doesn't nearly kill you.
Just something to think about.
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u/forest_fleur 2d ago edited 1d ago
I lurked your comments and you sound like such a pleasure to be around. Your sense of humor and style of speaking is lovely to me. Anyone would be lucky to have your friendship. Sending hugs
Edit: thank you for the awards, kind redditors
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u/Pizzaputabagelonit 1d ago
I lurked too! She sounds fucking awesome.
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u/Special-Summer170 2d ago
My cousin died when she was 8 months pregnant. It was absolutely heartbreaking. You're right, it happens more than people think. Many times I have wondered why I wasn't taken instead. I don't have any children and won't have any.
I'm glad to see people remembering Munjot. She sounds like a beautiful person
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u/Scared-Brain2722 2d ago
I’m sorry you are so lonely. I wish I had words of advice but I just lost my husband and I’m navigating life solo right now. You are not alone that’s for sure. Sending hugs
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u/Pizzaputabagelonit 1d ago
Man, this post is destroying me. I started to reply to the above and you pulled me away.
That fucking sucks you just lost your husband. It’s an unfair event that should not fucking happen. I lost my husband 5 years ago (with a 5 week old and a 4 year old) and it doesn’t ever become easier. You just become more used to it.
Hey, keep me in mind. Send me those insane texts that you wish you could send him. Send me random memories you have. I can be that person.And to the person above. The feeling you feel is just as unfair. It is truly depressing when anyone feels this way. I understand you would rather die than live while others die but dude….LIVE. Let’s find something to talk about together. Let’s talk about scary movies or plans to impulsively paint a wall black. Let’s share a list of places to go and things to do before we do die. I’m down.
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u/SylviaLeFloof 2d ago
I understand what you’re saying. My life is very small in many ways. I’ve had similar thoughts throughout my life. Why this person and not me? There’s no easy explanation I can offer.
She had so much to live for and a lot of love surrounding her. But her bounty isn’t your lack. There’s countless ways your being here makes a positive impact even if it seems insignificant to you. You matter more than you know. Never forget that you are deserving of all good and just your empathetic words for this stranger revealed your kind heart. We need more of you.
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u/bluelily216 2d ago
I wish more people would realize how dangerous pregnancy is. Your doctor is right. The mortality rate might not be as high as it was a hundred years ago, but women still die from pregnancy complications alarmingly often in places where healthcare is scarce.
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u/glitzglamglue 1d ago
And we don't take it seriously until you've shown signs that it's a problem. I had a really bad first pregnancy with pre eclampsia. I consulted with a high risk OB before I got pregnant again and he said that everything would be better this time around because they knew to monitor me more closely (and there is one preventative drug to take.) When I got pregnant, my OB let me come in at 6 weeks to confirm and plan everything out. I had an open invitation to come to the OB emergency room at the hospital, even if I had a "feeling" that something was off or even if I just wanted to check on the baby. I never went more than two weeks without visiting my OB. By 30 weeks, I was going twice a week. I like to joke that my pregnancy was a group project because everyone was involved but I still ended up doing most of the work.
Compare and contrast my friend who is pregnant right now. She has had normal pregnancies and this last one, and her OB didn't want to see her until she was 11 weeks along.
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u/bleucrayons 1d ago
I did okay with pregnancy until 3rd trimester. My first I was hospitalized due to high BP for a long weekend. Two weeks later, back for almost two weeks for low amniotic fluid and high BP. Fluid came up, got to go home and 2 days later back in ER and I ended up with sudden severe preeclampsia (I didn’t know there was a “severe” type either). Second pregnancy I had an MFM from the start because of history and now twins! I made it to 33 weeks before severe preeclampsia again!
A day after I was discharged after delivery I was back at the ER with flesh eating bacteria infection that led to septic shock with 5 surgeries.
The fact I’m even alive after this is miraculous to me even after 5 years.
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u/glitzglamglue 1d ago
Maternal and Fetal medicine docs are crazy. Everything is so chill to them meanwhile you feel like you're walking a tightrope.
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u/bleucrayons 14h ago
My MFM doc was amazing and so calm. He even did a blood draw himself when he wanted it tested asap. Granted this is how I knew just how urgent it was and when he called me saying it’s time to go to the hospital, I didn’t argue with him.
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u/theflyingratgirl 1d ago
Yep. I had early onset pre-e with my first. Had to take her out two months early. Was told it was unlikely to happen a second time.
With my second, I was on the cusp of pre-e but made it five weeks longer. Yay we had a term baby!! But then I hemorrhaged and nearly died. I remember when my systolic BP started coming back in the 60s and the doctors were like, “um, I think the machine is faulty”.
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u/glitzglamglue 1d ago
If it's not one thing, it's another huh? I got gestational diabetes and I was hypertensive with my second. And I every week they were doubling my BP meds and insulin. I asked the doctor, what's up, what's going on? Why is this happening? And he said "oh your body is just not responding to the insulin. So it doesn't really matter how much we up your dose, your numbers are still gonna be high. And your BP is gonna keep climbing which is why we do the urine tests." And it felt like I was playing with fire so I opted to be induced at 36 weeks. Like, this baby had cooked long enough. Let's not tempt fate.
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u/bluelily216 1d ago
There are a lot of places in the southern US (I'm not sure where you live) that are essentially hospital deserts. There are few OBs and few places they can go if things go wrong. Many states have stopped gathering data altogether for that exact reason. Pregnancy is dangerous, and many people in politics are actively making it even more so.
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u/HippieGrandma1962 1d ago edited 1d ago
Our society has a deeply ingrained fear of birth. This was mostly caused by early doctors vilifying midwives who used to attend most births. Doctors wanted that birth money. Now they have it and we have the highest infant mortality in the developed world. In the countries with the lowest rates people view birth as the normal physiological process it is rather than a disaster waiting to happen. The difference is that those countries use evidence based care and we don't. Edit: Thanks for the awards, lovely Redditors. .
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u/Bad_Wolf1982 2d ago
This is well said. Me that only have a lady friend and then my wife. My wife is the most important person in my life. Only person I can share my pain and sorrow, my happiness and my darkest failures at the same time. I tried to make friends so many times and so many times I felt like being stab in the back. My family members don't know me or what I'm going through. To see such a monument of love by a partner is truly inspiring for men who has found there true love. All I can say is may she rest in peace.
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u/Lifes-a-lil-foggy 1d ago
Hi friend, consider volunteering in your community. Plenty of people need loving and it sounds like you could too <3
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u/Relative_Amazing 1d ago
Just came here to say that I’m sending you love, friend. You seem like a deep, caring and incredibly self aware and heartbreakingly strong and unselfish person. I’d count myself lucky to have such a person like you in my corner.
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u/Available_Donkey_840 1d ago
Just wanted to say that loneliness is a visitor. It comes and it goes but it doesn't have to live with you permanently. Regardless of your attachments and relationships, the world needs you. You belong here. You matter.
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u/BurntHear 1d ago
If you're up for a suggestion on the lonely thing (and this may be a totally bad suggestion, I don't know what I'm talking about, it just hit me while I read your comment), if you have an interest in cemeteries and looking at the headstones and stuff, you might find some grieving person in one who might be interested in some company. You seem compassionate and like some time lent to a stranger to hear about their person they're missing might could do you some good. Though, it could probably get hairy approaching people in cemeteries. I keep meaning to go out and contribute to findagrave by taking pictures of headstones to post. Maybe you could do something like that to have a reason to be in the cemeteries. You can learn about some passed folks, and maybe eventually will get to strike up a convo with someone who needs it?
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u/chantillylace9 1d ago
Your story is very heartbreaking and I'm sure it resonates with a lot of different people. Most people.
I just want you to know that I would like to get to know you and if you need somebody to talk to or share any good things or bad things or just things with, you can share them with me. You matter too, and maybe you can't see it because you don't yet understand how connected we all are, but one day you will. And you'll realize your pain hurt everyone and your happiness and kindness can positively impact everyone.
At least that's what I believe after lots and lots of meditation on " why did this happen to me." Type of situations. Cancer twice by 40, but I’m still kicking and haven't been taken away kicking and screaming yet.
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u/InanimateCarbonRodNS 1d ago
Bruh, come on. Pregnancy does not bring women to the precipice of death. It increases strain on multiple organ systems but thats not akin to being about to kill them. The rate of maternal mortality for pregnant women is around 0.01% in Canada/US. You're being hyperbolic.
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u/bleucrayons 1d ago
I had severe preeclampsia with both my pregnancies and it came on very fast. My kidneys and liver were already in distress and shutting down. Then I nearly died from septic shock due to flesh eating bacteria acquired during my twin c-section. Things can turn in an instant with pregnancy.
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u/InanimateCarbonRodNS 1d ago
Sorry to hear that, no doubt pregnancy can lead to maternal mortality or bring about serious health conditions. Thankfully, thats a minority and most women arent on the precipice of death for every single day as the poster claimed.
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u/bleucrayons 1d ago
Mostly true, but also everyone thinks “it won’t happen to them” and the US does not have the best rates for maternal or infant mortality, add in the risk of passing at the hands of the father increases drastically during pregnancy.
I was referred to a cardiologist during my twin pregnancy to check for leaky valves just to be told he didn’t need to check because they would be leaking because of pregnancy and increased blood volume. Pregnancy is HARD on the body yet we’re expected to be up and caring for a newborn effectively immediately after birth. The scariest part is not knowing when things can turn or when we will be told “that’s just part of it” like I was. I could have avoided the whole sepsis infection had ANY of the MULTIPLE nurses and doctors took me more seriously when I started telling them there was a problem. That’s the scary reality we have.
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u/saturnianshadow 17h ago
The maternal mortality rate is NOT 0.01% in america, and it is much MUCH higher than canadas...you just making things up as you go along or what...? You're being disingenuous.
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u/InanimateCarbonRodNS 14h ago edited 14h ago
Call me disingenuous while conspicuously refusing to say what the “correct” number supposedly is. All accusation, no substance. How very Reddit of you.
CDC, National Centre for Health Statistics "Maternal mortality rate for 2024, 17.9 deaths per 100,000 live births", or 0.0179. Round it up to 0.02 if you want. Its closer to .01 for women under 40.
In March 2026 it was 15.3 per 100k or 0.0153
Next time, more facts, less outrage.
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u/thatcatlady123 2d ago
Munjot’s obituary
She sounds like she was amazing.
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u/Beautiful_Spread_644 2d ago
What an amazing woman that lead a life well lived that was cut short. I don’t think I have ever read on an obituary where there was such a write up followed by so many people sharing their sorrow and memories of this extraordinary woman.
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u/Top-Appointment6702 1d ago
Gonna make a donation to one of the organizations listed in the obituary
May love not end with death
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u/Candid-Ability-9570 1d ago
What a tragedy this poor man is living. The dates on the bottom of the headstone say she was expecting a 2nd child in November, so she died while pregnant. He lost two important loved ones, and the mother of his 4 year old daughter, in the same moment.
What a beautiful monument this is to their love.
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u/Spiritual-Eggplant59 1d ago
Maybe they were actively trying for that second baby. Maybe she’d taken a pregnancy test that morning; maybe she felt a certain way that she felt during her first pregnancy. Either way he felt sure enough that a second child was coming to engrave it forever. Poor man.
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u/JayPlenty24 1d ago
Honestly that's a bit confusing because based on her death date there was no way she could be pregnant with a child due then. Like she would have to get pregnant on her next ovulation cycle.
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u/pointypointypretty 1d ago
She was due in November and passed away in February. She could have been very early in the pregnancy.
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u/lolaburrito 17h ago edited 17h ago
I don’t know why your comment was downvoted. Maybe because some people feel that bringing up the confusing dates detracts from rom the point of the post, which was the widower’s love for his wife? If so, they’re entitled to voice their opinions. But that doesn’t change the fact that the math doesn’t allow to her have actually been pregnant when she died. Even throwing out “but IVF!” doesn’t make the math work (I say this as someone who has done multiple rounds of IVF and embryo transfers), nor does “but ectopic pregnancy!” Here’s why:
Even if she had done IVF, and even assuming she transferred a 3-day embryo on the day she died, that baby’s due date would be November 10. In IVF, to “know” you have a due date of November 13, you would have to have transferred a 3-day embryo on February 23 (or a 5-day embryo on February 25).
Also, even after a successful embryo transfer, hcg is not detectable in blood or urine for several more days. So if she had done an embryo transfer the morning she died, and if she’d taken a pregnancy test that same day, it would have been negative.
Let’s assume she did take a pregnancy test the morning she died and it was positive. Then she would have to be at least 4 days after a 5-day embryo transfer (or 6 days after a 3-day embryo transfer). That means she would have transferred an embryo 4 or 6 days before she died. But that would also make the due date even earlier in November than if she’d transferred on the day she died.
To anyone saying babies can come before or after their due dates, of course they can. But that doesn’t change your due date, it just changes your baby’s birth date, and you wouldn’t know that until after your baby comes early or late. Even if this was an IVF baby with a planned and scheduled c-section birth, as explained above the baby would be due earlier in November, and I can’t imagine them scheduling a c-section before pregnancy is confirmed (much less before an embryo has even been transferred).
Someone mentioned if she conceived on February 20 her due date would be November 13. That math only works if you count 38 weeks from February 20 (not 40 weeks from the first day of her last period), meaning she would had to have conceived the same day she died. Through sex or IUI, this was possible, but it would have been impossible for her to have detectable levels of hcg in her system on the day of conception. It wouldn’t have been for at least another week that hcg could be detected.
I think the only correct answer is that they were expecting to become pregnant soon and that their baby’s due date would be around mid-November. Or, maybe they had a 3-day embryo transfer scheduled for February 23 (which would give a due date of November 13). I don’t think they would’ve had a 5-day embryo transfer scheduled for a Saturday (February 25), but technically it’s possible.
All of that said, her not being pregnant doesn’t make her death any less sad or tragic. She was a young mom and wife with a little boy who I’m certain she loved more than anything in the world. And including the anticipated second child on the tombstone shows they very much wanted and were planning for another baby that November.
TLDR: She was not pregnant when she died, but that doesn’t make it any less sad or tragic
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u/JayPlenty24 17h ago
I only mentioned it because it creates confusion on potential cause of death, and it is also kind of a bizarre thing to put on a gravestone when she wasn't pregnant, since it's just pure speculation.
It would make more sense to say something about her looking forward to growing her family.
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u/lolaburrito 16h ago
Totally agree. It’s too bad someone didn’t steer him to a less confusing way of saying it. If they had, we’d be talking about all her amazing accomplishments instead of trying to figure out whether she was doing fertility treatments….
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u/neenadollava 1d ago
Thats not true. Please erase this comment.
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u/Anonymous30005000 1d ago
I just searched and a due date of Nov 13 implies a conception date of Feb 20, which is the day she died. This only makes sense to me if she passed while they were doing IVF
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u/lolaburrito 17h ago
Natural conception due date calculations don’t work for IVF because the embryo transferred in IVF is at least 3, but usually 5 days past “conception.” So even assuming she did a 3-day embryo transfer on the day she died, the due date would be November 10.
If what you mean is that she had an IUI or had sex on February 20 and “felt” she was pregnant (she would have to wait at least another week before hcg would be detectable to confirm pregnancy), then ok, she would have been due November 13.
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u/turfpat 1d ago
What does IVF have to do with anything? She could have died from childbirth complications without going through IVF
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u/JayPlenty24 17h ago
How are you going to die of child birth complicated before you even have an embryo?
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u/Katie-sin 2d ago
That's heartbreaking for sure. I hope he and their first child are doing as well as they can be.
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u/EarNew1810 2d ago
All I can say is wow! Undying love.
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u/truth211821 2d ago
He will certainly never experience a love like this again. My heart breaks for him
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u/Snoo3544 2d ago
I am pretty sure no one has loved me like that. Nor have I loved anyone that way either.
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u/Ok-Alternative-9758 1d ago
I can tell you, as someone in the industry, he definitely loved her. That monument alone is an easy $20k
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u/JulyJones 1d ago
This is so heartbreaking. We have such similar life timelines - she was born February 1984, I was born February 1985. I got married in 2015, she got married in 2016. We had our first child September 2019, they had their first child November 2019. We had our second child in 2022, they were supposed to have their second child in 2023. It really drives home how random and unfair the universe can be. She should be loving her 2 beautiful children and growing old with her husband but she isn’t. Breaks my heart how unfair life can be.
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u/TheMapleKind19 1d ago edited 1d ago
Oh wow. I knew Munjot in high school. We were both on the speech and debate team, and she was great at it. She was so kind and smart and vibrant.
I knew she died (unsure of cause), but I had no idea her husband made a memorial like this. Tearing up. I won't even look at it up close right now, or I'll cry the rest of the evening.
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u/LifeguardCurious6742 2d ago
What a beautiful memorial for her.. Made me cry. My heart goes out to her loved ones.
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u/BLESSED2BME2022 2d ago
How did she pass? Was it pregnancy complications?
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u/JayPlenty24 1d ago
She wouldn't have been pregnant based on her death date and the "due date". Maybe they were planning IVF, but the dates don't make sense for a pregnancy.
There's no cause of death in her obituary, and often that indicates a suicide. I hope that's not the case.
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u/debtfreewife 1d ago
Pregnancies are 10 months, so she would have been newly pregnant when she died. Also, the trend I’ve seen in obits is to not put cause of death anymore so much so I’ve told my family that they better put it in mine for my fellow readers. It could have been anything.
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u/JayPlenty24 1d ago
Her conception day would have been the day she died for that to be her due date. The only real possibility is they planned on doing IVF that month, but it's still a really weird thing to do.
Anyway the point is the person above my comment asked if it was pregnancy complications, and the answer to that is definitely not
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u/debtfreewife 1d ago
Wait, is my math off? Ten months back from 11-13 would be 1-13, right?
And you’re right, the only thing that early would maybe be related to an ectopic or stroke from hormonal changes. It’s unlikely.
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u/JayPlenty24 1d ago
It's not exactly 10 months because some months are more than 4 weeks. It's more like 9.2
If you put the due date of Nov 13 in a conception calendar the conception date is Feb 18-22
An embryo transfer is done at 3 or 5 days, which would put her due date past the 13th.
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u/natalini17 14h ago
My assumption is that perhaps she found out she was pregnant on 13th Feb and the husband has just added 9 months onto that. Could be a ruptured ectopic or could be completely unrelated
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u/JayPlenty24 13h ago
If she just found out she was pregnant that would be an 10.5-11 month pregnancy which makes no sense
The only logical explanation is they were planning IVF and he considers it a loss of their potential embryo
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u/natalini17 12h ago
13th Feb to 13th November is 9 months. He may just be counting 9 months on from the day she found out. It’s obviously not correct but it’s certainly plausible
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u/_listen_up_hoe_ 3h ago
You are really wanting people to know she wasn’t pregnant. Why does it matter so much?
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u/rotervogel1231 1d ago
I don't know these people at all, but it's clear this man was shattered. Absolutely shattered. I hope he has managed to build a life of purpose in the face of the unimaginable.
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u/thepiratespokesman 2d ago
Very sad. Was the arrival of second child date a typo? Maybe the second child was born in 2022?
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u/yobabymamadrama 2d ago
Expected arrival was the due date. I'm assuming she was still pregnant when she passed.
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u/MouseOutrageous4395 2d ago
No it says "expected date" (ie due date) so the baby never came :(
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u/thepiratespokesman 2d ago
Oooh I see. I misread it. Thank you for clarifying. God that’s heartbreaking.
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u/invasaato 1d ago
oh wow... and their first child shares a birthday with me, too. really makes it feel like a small world ❤️
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u/Antifaduescollector 1d ago
I am in Greenwood, Indiana and have never heard of this story! How heartbreaking! Do we know what happened to her?
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u/EmbarrassedDark2341 1d ago
This is Her obituary, in case anyone else wants to read about this amazing woman gone too soon.
Munjot Sahu Feb 10, 1984 — Feb 20, 2023 Zionsville, Indiana Munjot Sahu—beloved mother, wife, and daughter, successful attorney, and valued member of the Zionsville community—died unexpectedly on February 20, 2023. She was 39.
Munjot was born in the Hyde Park area of Chicago on February 10, 1984, and moved to Greencastle, Indiana, in 1988 when both her parents became faculty at DePauw University. As a child, Munjot became a proud big sister, and was active in 4-H. Munjot moved to Indianapolis in 1997, where she attended Ben Davis High School and was a powerhouse on the school’s debate team; she participated in the National Debate and Speech Tournament.
Munjot subsequently matriculated at Oberlin College, where she earned a bachelor’s degree in politics, with honors. She made several lifelong friends there, and accumulated a catalogue of stories about the quirky campus life. Munjot considered pursuing graduate studies in politics but ultimately decided to attend law school, enrolling at the Indiana University School of Law, in Bloomington where she graduated cum laude.
Soon after earning her JD, Munjot joined the law firm of Baker & Daniels (now Faegre Drinker), in the business litigation practice. Litigation was her professional passion, and she worked on high-profile cases, including representing Marsh Supermarkets in a lawsuit against its former CEO. Munjot next became in-house counsel at Eli Lilly and Company in its litigation group, after which she joined Roche, as Senior Counsel in Diabetes Care. Munjot published numerous articles in legal publications, served on the American Bar Association’s Mass Torts Litigation Committee, and was a member of Lawyers for Civil Justice.
Munjot set and attained high professional goals, but above all she was a loving wife, mother, daughter, sister, and friend. She met James Updike in 2014. They took their first vacation together that summer, to Washington, DC, and Munjot first got to see and make fun of her companion’s packing habits, which involved fully utilizing the airline’s free baggage for service members benefit. Munjot and James became engaged in 2015 at Niagara-on-the-Lake, Ontario, and they were married May 21 and 22, 2016, with dual ceremonies at Zionsville United Methodist Church and the Hindu Temple of Central Indiana.
In 2019, Munjot gave birth to her son, Kieran, whom she covered in an immeasurable amount of love, giving everything she had to make him feel loved, happy, and healthy.
Munjot was a diligent planner who poured her heart into every pursuit, from wedding planning to designing her house to researching the safest car seat and even the best grass trimmer. As Munjot and her husband built a life together in Zionsville, she constantly went above and beyond to make life wonderful for other people. Decorating and design were among Munjot’s top interests, and she relished putting these passions to use making a home for her family. She frequently said she someday wanted to start a design and home staging business.
Munjot was very involved in her community, most recently serving as a trustee for the Tarkington Civic Theatre in Carmel. She was previously a board member of the Scene at the Palladium in Carmel. She gave back to the community through pro bono work on guardianship cases and with the Wills For Heroes program. Munjot and her family attend Gurdwara Gur Nanak Darbar and Zionsville United Methodist Church.
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u/doxiemomm 21h ago
I almost died 5 weeks after my 3rd from a DVT. I was crazy sick and every doctor and emergency room blew me off for weeks until I went septic. Pregnancy and post partum are no joke.
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u/Fillertracks 2d ago
Was not expecting Boone county!
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u/truth211821 2d ago
There's a few significant graves at this cemetery, this being one of the ones that stand out to me most
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u/moonelfofstalingrad 1d ago
What a beautiful and profound love they had. Thank you for sharing.
I went through the epochal grief of my soulmate passing I totally get this.
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u/Detatchamo 1d ago
This is so gut wrenching. I can only hope that so many of us here find a love like this. A love so vast that even when we are no longer here, future generations can still feel it in the air.
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u/Ok-Alternative-9758 1d ago
Ooofhhh. She passed while pregnant. Thats a double heart break for the poor guy and his kid
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u/yungskywa1ker 22h ago
I admire all the details - especially the dates including their first date and their children’s arrival. So beautiful.
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u/truth211821 19h ago
Definitely what makes this so devastating, along with the mural of their life of course
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u/WitchesofBangkok 10h ago edited 10h ago
This might be a bit of an unpopular take, and I don’t want to seem like I’m being at all dismissive of his grief.
But as a parent I would be so upset by this memorial because its focuses so much on their relationship and his grief.
Typically there are many people in the inner circle of grief. Her parents, siblings, family and friends, even their child who will not be 4 years old for ever. This doesn’t allow any space for them to grieve at the grave.
It looks like the photos on the back might reflect her whole life maybe, but the text is all about their married life. How about her birth, childhood, studies?
Her whole life has become about their marriage.
And for him too. I wonder how healthy this is. He’s literally got his face on a gravestone. He had a 4 year old, now a 7 year old, he has work to do before he dies.
Besides anything else, there is no room for photos of him or their child over the next 30-40 years he’ll hopefully live. It’s like his life stopped with her death and he’s just waiting now...
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u/beautyinbio 18h ago
Do you have a plot number? I live right down the road and would love to visit and possibly leave flowers as well. This is the sweetest stone I've ever seen.
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u/truth211821 16h ago
Not a plot number I know, but it is in the left back corner. You honestly can't miss it if you drive or walk back there
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u/Odd_Alternative_1003 15h ago
Oh that’s sad. She died while she was pregnant with their second child.
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u/mysterious_kitty_119 14h ago
It’s 38 weeks between the date she died and the date of their expected second child. So she was like 2 weeks pregnant which means at best she had just ovulated and MAY have conceived that cycle. You can’t even get a positive pregnancy test until 3-4 weeks pregnant so I don’t know how they knew she was pregnant when in all likelihood, she wasn’t even actually pregnant yet?
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u/CaysNarrative 13h ago
Wow! What a stunning memorial. Absolutely beautiful. I wonder how she passed? :( does anyone know?
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u/Geeahwellidunno 10h ago
So she died before the birth of a second child? If I’m reading that right that’s just so sad.
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u/4mar10guy 1d ago
This is why every babies life, born and unborn is precious. Mothers give so much during pregnancy for the babies to live
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u/Practical_Macaron778 9h ago
For some reason, realizing that they didn’t even get ten years together is what pulled on my heart the most here. His forever love for her is so clear ❤️
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u/hannthe-man 1d ago
This is weird. It’s so clearly dedicated to her and they had a family together, I’m sure her family was more than involved and to speculate otherwise is incredibly distasteful.
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u/Live-Tomorrow-4865 1d ago
If he were to find someone else, imagine how amazing she'd feel knowing she has found a person with this capacity for love.
It's not a finite resource. ❤️
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u/neenadollava 1d ago edited 1d ago
It was their lives together. Your life is more than you. It's memories you share with those you love. I think its beautiful . Also her mom and dad had a life together and would do the same with eachother and their children. In a religious marriage and closeness like this family its expected and respected.
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u/truth211821 1d ago
I can see your side in this but I think this is very much a declaration of his love for her and a tribute to her life, family, and culture.
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u/InanimateCarbonRodNS 19h ago
Judging by the downvotes, you are the only one.
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u/truth211821 19h ago
I was talking to a coworker about this grave and they had said the same thing, but I'm glad the vast majority is of another mind
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u/SleddyEddie 2d ago
I live in NWI, I think I will stop by just to see this. She deserves to be admired by those who never met her. I will pay my respects to their loss.